I skipped all of the time. I was bullied extensively and I didnt figure anything that dad and mom were willing to do would match the torment the kids put on me. The only thing I fault my parents for, was not putting me into a school for self defense of some type. My dad was a golden glove fighter, but didnt teach me, I have a hard time with that. I had to teach myself how to fight which was against my nature. By 11th grade I had gotten fairly handy with my fists and developed a taste for fighting, by then I had lost so many credits, there was no need to continue with my education, it would have taken 3 more years of school.
Truancy - did you skip school?
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Well I'm in the 11th grade and a geek. I will answer anyway.
I have not out right skipped school. I have fudge how long I needed to stay home what I was sick or had an "extened" doctors apointment. Then again I also have the days where I go to school and really really really should have stayed home, so it kind of evens out.
Generally when I do get sick and stay home its towards the end of my trimesters and I'm sick of my classes. I generally ruin these days by getting all my missed work and doing it at home.
Atcually I think I shouldn't be answering this. I am to big of a geek.
I have not out right skipped school. I have fudge how long I needed to stay home what I was sick or had an "extened" doctors apointment. Then again I also have the days where I go to school and really really really should have stayed home, so it kind of evens out.
Generally when I do get sick and stay home its towards the end of my trimesters and I'm sick of my classes. I generally ruin these days by getting all my missed work and doing it at home.
Atcually I think I shouldn't be answering this. I am to big of a geek.
I never skipped, lol. My entire high school career, I think I had 10 days I was absent, including for illness.
Teachers in my school took attendance for every class period, and you were truant if you missed even one class period without a note or something.
Plus, even if I did leave, there was no where to go, the school is in the middle of nowhere, with just a few neighborhoods around it, and a good 10 miles from my house.
I just never really felt the need to skip, lol. I didn't like high school one bit though. Not at all.
Teachers in my school took attendance for every class period, and you were truant if you missed even one class period without a note or something.
Plus, even if I did leave, there was no where to go, the school is in the middle of nowhere, with just a few neighborhoods around it, and a good 10 miles from my house.
I just never really felt the need to skip, lol. I didn't like high school one bit though. Not at all.
I skipped maybe three days in my K-12 days. Mostly for the thrill of being bad.
Skipped a lot of classes in college. Penn State asked me to leave after that. :lol-sign: I did, however, earn Dean's List at my next college and got inducted into Phi Theta Kappa (International Honor Society for 2 year schools). :hail:
Skipped a lot of classes in college. Penn State asked me to leave after that. :lol-sign: I did, however, earn Dean's List at my next college and got inducted into Phi Theta Kappa (International Honor Society for 2 year schools). :hail:
Never skipped until college. Then only the ones where the teacher didn't take attendance, and that were kinda useless (some teacher sucked). I still graduated with good grades.
After that I went to technical school and skipped most classes, but it was boring, the teachers suck, and I was depressed. I failed, but it's complicated and I would have failed either way.
After that I went to technical school and skipped most classes, but it was boring, the teachers suck, and I was depressed. I failed, but it's complicated and I would have failed either way.
My situation was a bit similar, Beth. Except that it was mostly sixth grade. I was the new kid and everyone at my school has been together since pre-school, so I apparently was the new scapegoat. I was taunted, harassed, hated by nearly everyone..... after three months EVERYONE knew my name and it was said contemptuously. In the locker rooms the other girls picked on everything about me, from how tall and skinny I was with my boot cut jeans to my (gasp!) white cotton underwear. (Apparently white cotton was The Sin That Shall Never Be Forgiven in that school. ) I won't go into details, but it was horrible. No one knew much about me, I didn't have any friends, and yet there were rumors about me circuiting the school because I was an easy target. When I sat at the tables at lunch everyone moved away. I finally took advantage of it and sat in the middle of a table and had it all to myself.
I did tell my mother about all this, I had to, she noticed me crying myself to sleep every night. She got some stuff done.... she talked to the principal about the girl who went around telling everyone I had broken her finger, and a couple other incidents that are now utterly hilarious. But she couldn't police every kid who seemed bent on making my life hell.
I ended up pretending to be sick a LOT. I actually developed a mysterious, painful, stomach illness every morning before school. My stomach would hurt, I'd have a headache, sometimes nosebleeds, and I'd be terribly nauseous before school. These symptoms vanished a few weeks after school was out, and were much less common on weekends. Definitely due to stress. My immune system isn't all that great to begin with, but I'd come down with random fevers, every flu and cold in the universe that was going around, and I was pretty miserable. The good news about being sick was that I could stay home and enjoy one torment-free day of TV. The school nurse was really sympathetic, because I kept getting nosebleeds right before PE.... and bad headaches....
Only times I've ever knowingly "skipped" class is when I just didn't have it in me to go. One morning I couldn't stop crying due to some things going on, so I told my teacher I had to go to the bathroom and disappeared for a few hours (she knew I was deliberately skipping, though). Another time I was sick of being bullied and hung out in the halls instead.
Um. Yeah. Come to my high school and be disillusioned, Sparks. We're a backwater high school in the middle of hicksville and yet we confiscate so many weapons from kids here the school could have their own armory....
That's what we do here. It's BS. Have I mentioned the time a sub marked me absent when I was there and met her eye and said "that's me" at roll call, and the next day was called out of the class I had missed multiple times that year that I was having a hard time in for a scolding about why I wasn't on time for school yesterday.... and the woman wouldn't believe me when I told her I was there. I finally had to repeat the announcements that morning to her and describe the substitute and what she was wearing for the woman to believe me. Not to mention missing the rest of my class and half of the next being dragged around the school explaining to different "authorities" that I really was there yesterday as they tried to track down the sub, and the BS she gave me about HER mistake. Rules like that foster mass incompetence and idiocy like you see at my school, TM. And here I thought you didn't like loads of legislation and rules governing every little bit of your life.
) I won't go into details, but it was horrible. No one knew much about me, I didn't have any friends, and yet there were rumors about me circuiting the school because I was an easy target. When I sat at the tables at lunch everyone moved away. I finally took advantage of it and sat in the middle of a table and had it all to myself.I did tell my mother about all this, I had to, she noticed me crying myself to sleep every night. She got some stuff done.... she talked to the principal about the girl who went around telling everyone I had broken her finger, and a couple other incidents that are now utterly hilarious. But she couldn't police every kid who seemed bent on making my life hell.
I ended up pretending to be sick a LOT. I actually developed a mysterious, painful, stomach illness every morning before school. My stomach would hurt, I'd have a headache, sometimes nosebleeds, and I'd be terribly nauseous before school. These symptoms vanished a few weeks after school was out, and were much less common on weekends. Definitely due to stress. My immune system isn't all that great to begin with, but I'd come down with random fevers, every flu and cold in the universe that was going around, and I was pretty miserable. The good news about being sick was that I could stay home and enjoy one torment-free day of TV. The school nurse was really sympathetic, because I kept getting nosebleeds right before PE.... and bad headaches....
Only times I've ever knowingly "skipped" class is when I just didn't have it in me to go. One morning I couldn't stop crying due to some things going on, so I told my teacher I had to go to the bathroom and disappeared for a few hours (she knew I was deliberately skipping, though). Another time I was sick of being bullied and hung out in the halls instead.
Um. Yeah. Come to my high school and be disillusioned, Sparks. We're a backwater high school in the middle of hicksville and yet we confiscate so many weapons from kids here the school could have their own armory....
That's what we do here. It's BS. Have I mentioned the time a sub marked me absent when I was there and met her eye and said "that's me" at roll call, and the next day was called out of the class I had missed multiple times that year that I was having a hard time in for a scolding about why I wasn't on time for school yesterday.... and the woman wouldn't believe me when I told her I was there. I finally had to repeat the announcements that morning to her and describe the substitute and what she was wearing for the woman to believe me. Not to mention missing the rest of my class and half of the next being dragged around the school explaining to different "authorities" that I really was there yesterday as they tried to track down the sub, and the BS she gave me about HER mistake. Rules like that foster mass incompetence and idiocy like you see at my school, TM. And here I thought you didn't like loads of legislation and rules governing every little bit of your life.
Around here we get a letter once there are 6 days missed total, wether or not they were excused absences. The letter usually says that after 9 absences, a Doctor's note is required for any future absences. This is OK with me as it keeps us on our toes about how much our kids are missing. I also know when I've kept them home sick so if the numbers don't match up, I know something is up.
Since I graduated only 3 years ago I will say that they DO take attendance in every class. 2nd period attendance is what they turn in to the state to collect their 'per child' money. Also, unless there is a major problem they won't contact your parents. The absences are sent out with your report card so parents can see what classes you have missed and how many times you missed them. At that point, if the parent sees that Billy has missed 8 of his classes when she knows he hasn't been sick, I think its up to the parent to do something.
i didn't but i went to a really small school. so what happened was the teachers took attendance at the beginning of each class and put them out and ten minutes later someone would pick it up. if you were tardy it was written down but not really that bad. but if you were gone and never had a teach go and say 'oh they showed up' they'd not let you back in class until talked to a parent and ok'd it. now college that is a dif story lol.
that is a dif story lol.
I'm pretty positive that's how it works at my school. If you're not in a class and the office has no record that you were supposed to be absent that day, then sometime later that day (or maybe the next morning) you get just an automated phone call saying "your son or daughter was missing in one or more classes" blah blah. I think they might do the same thing if you're tardy too... I seem to remember my mom yelling at my brother last year because the school called and told her he was late to class.
It's just annoying when you accidentally get marked absent, and then you have to go and clear it up with the office. Eh.
It's just annoying when you accidentally get marked absent, and then you have to go and clear it up with the office. Eh.
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I didn't skip until my senior year and even then it was only twice. Both times it was coming back from band events and the lot of us went to someone's house and once we went out to the movies instead of going back for one or two classes.
Now, college, well, Grad School, on the other hand... the only time I've missed is due to illnesses.
Now, college, well, Grad School, on the other hand... the only time I've missed is due to illnesses.
the idea of waggin used to frighten me a lot. I wagged a couple of times in year eleven, jut the particular classes I didn't want to go to, I hated them as it was and a few of my friends were going to a friends house so I went aswell.
It was way too easy, I never got busted, we'd just stand up and stroll out of school.
After a few months of waggin whatever classes I liked, we'd all get to school and just walk into town together, get some food, get a movie and go to a friends house and watch it.
After a while I really hated school, my mum told me I had to keep going till I got a full time job so she'd drop me off every morning, and I'd walk to 60 minutes home in the 40'C heat... every morning lol.
the freedom was good, the teachers never busted me.. or cared that I was never in class.
I would get to school, then go to a friends house and meet him, watch some Tv and maybe go back 3rd or 4th period.
I did that mainly because I wasn;t getting anything out of school.
Then I started a new scool, I absolutley hated it, I was self concious all the time, wasn't enjoying my classes, and the fact that I was repeating grade 11 with a heap of people so much younger then me was annoying. After 3 month i still had 0 friends and started walking home every morning as soon as I was dropped of, another hour every morning just walking home. I started wagging there when I wore navy pants to school instead of my skirt, they put me in these ugly, uncomfortable gross pants, I hated that school so much by then I wore them first perios, then walked into town, changed and walked home.
I changed schools again, but the school was really on the ball, they had you dobbed in by reces by text message to your parents if you wern't there so it made wagging impossible to get away with. I hated schol there after another few months of crap work and crap people and no friends. I started faking sick about 3 tiems a week, i stopped there the last time I came home sick at recess, it was exactly 1 month after Panda died and I copuldn't keep the tears in, I stayed 2 lessons, sat in the toilets and cried all recess then went to the office and got them to call mum. She actually told me I didn't have to keep going, but I had to get a move on and get a job.
I'm going to finish school through TAFE in the next few years, but it just obvisouly wasn't working.
It was way too easy, I never got busted, we'd just stand up and stroll out of school.
After a few months of waggin whatever classes I liked, we'd all get to school and just walk into town together, get some food, get a movie and go to a friends house and watch it.
After a while I really hated school, my mum told me I had to keep going till I got a full time job so she'd drop me off every morning, and I'd walk to 60 minutes home in the 40'C heat... every morning lol.
the freedom was good, the teachers never busted me.. or cared that I was never in class.
I would get to school, then go to a friends house and meet him, watch some Tv and maybe go back 3rd or 4th period.
I did that mainly because I wasn;t getting anything out of school.
Then I started a new scool, I absolutley hated it, I was self concious all the time, wasn't enjoying my classes, and the fact that I was repeating grade 11 with a heap of people so much younger then me was annoying. After 3 month i still had 0 friends and started walking home every morning as soon as I was dropped of, another hour every morning just walking home. I started wagging there when I wore navy pants to school instead of my skirt, they put me in these ugly, uncomfortable gross pants, I hated that school so much by then I wore them first perios, then walked into town, changed and walked home.
I changed schools again, but the school was really on the ball, they had you dobbed in by reces by text message to your parents if you wern't there so it made wagging impossible to get away with. I hated schol there after another few months of crap work and crap people and no friends. I started faking sick about 3 tiems a week, i stopped there the last time I came home sick at recess, it was exactly 1 month after Panda died and I copuldn't keep the tears in, I stayed 2 lessons, sat in the toilets and cried all recess then went to the office and got them to call mum. She actually told me I didn't have to keep going, but I had to get a move on and get a job.
I'm going to finish school through TAFE in the next few years, but it just obvisouly wasn't working.
I used to pretend to be sick in grade school / middle school so I wouldn't have to go to school. I didn't mind classes, even liked them, but I was a misfit, didn't have any friends, and was teased incessantly. I never told my mom because she was a very social, gregarious person and I felt like I would be failing her if I admitted that I didn't have friends and was teased.
High school was a blessed relief, as I made friends and the people I wasn't friends with just left me alone. I never skipped a single day of high school.
High school was a blessed relief, as I made friends and the people I wasn't friends with just left me alone. I never skipped a single day of high school.
I never, NEVER skipped until I reached college. I was such a nerd. And also? Not very bargain conscious. Of course I started cheating myself out of education as soon as I was paying for it. But in HS? Never skipped. Never ever.
Now, in my practice, I work with TONS of kids who skip school. Reasons range all over the map -- most of them can be accounted for at least in part by some sort of mental (i.e. learning disability leads to frustration leads to apathy), physical (as Xerxes kindly pointed out), or emotional (depression leads to poor energy leads to low motivation) reason. We all view the world through the lens of our own experience, so I tend to see things in terms of diagnoses. But, there are certainly other ways to see and understand truancy.
Most of my teen clients just don't see the point. Sometimes having an adult to explain the point really helps. Mentors are pretty amazing in this arena (just read some research about it, actually -- having a good relationship with a non-parent adult helps in a staggering number of arenas, including the teen's relationship with their actual parents). My kids are no longer into doing something they hate just to keep people off their backs. Plus there are all of those underground HS politics that just suck. People are mean, and hateful, and creative in their spite. Nowhere is this more true than Jr. High and High School.
I wish you luck! It's satisfying work, if you can get it.
Now, in my practice, I work with TONS of kids who skip school. Reasons range all over the map -- most of them can be accounted for at least in part by some sort of mental (i.e. learning disability leads to frustration leads to apathy), physical (as Xerxes kindly pointed out), or emotional (depression leads to poor energy leads to low motivation) reason. We all view the world through the lens of our own experience, so I tend to see things in terms of diagnoses. But, there are certainly other ways to see and understand truancy.
Most of my teen clients just don't see the point. Sometimes having an adult to explain the point really helps. Mentors are pretty amazing in this arena (just read some research about it, actually -- having a good relationship with a non-parent adult helps in a staggering number of arenas, including the teen's relationship with their actual parents). My kids are no longer into doing something they hate just to keep people off their backs. Plus there are all of those underground HS politics that just suck. People are mean, and hateful, and creative in their spite. Nowhere is this more true than Jr. High and High School.
I wish you luck! It's satisfying work, if you can get it.
"Not liking school - but WHY not?"
I skipped lots of school, so much that when I turned 17 I was kicked out.
By the time I got to High School, the teachers must have been told by the administration that they needed to reach out more to the slower learners. This meant in a class with a few stupid kids the teacher would feel like he had to explain the simplest things over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.
Most of us had figured things out the first time we heard it explained, yet two or three idiots who couldn't understand anything ever would force the teacher to repeat the simplest lesson multiple times.
So on Friday we were still hearing the teacher explain the same things he covered the Monday before.
When I got terminated I was attending the two (out of six) classes where I had a chance of actually learning something.
I skipped lots of school, so much that when I turned 17 I was kicked out.
By the time I got to High School, the teachers must have been told by the administration that they needed to reach out more to the slower learners. This meant in a class with a few stupid kids the teacher would feel like he had to explain the simplest things over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.
Most of us had figured things out the first time we heard it explained, yet two or three idiots who couldn't understand anything ever would force the teacher to repeat the simplest lesson multiple times.
So on Friday we were still hearing the teacher explain the same things he covered the Monday before.
When I got terminated I was attending the two (out of six) classes where I had a chance of actually learning something.
Most of the time when I ditched class, I would kill time in the school library with my truant friends.
There we could actually learn something and we figured the library was the last place anybody would ever look for us.
The two classes (out of six) I was attending when I was kicked out were American Government and Spanish 3.
There we could actually learn something and we figured the library was the last place anybody would ever look for us.
The two classes (out of six) I was attending when I was kicked out were American Government and Spanish 3.
Interesting - thankyou
I will definately be remembering everyone's experiences when I start planning.
It will be a very individual thing with each student anyway - it does depend how much they want to work with me too - I can't force people to change, I can merely give them options!
I can't wait to get started, and meet up with the kids.
I will definately be remembering everyone's experiences when I start planning.
It will be a very individual thing with each student anyway - it does depend how much they want to work with me too - I can't force people to change, I can merely give them options!
I can't wait to get started, and meet up with the kids.