this is a disaster

Discussion in 'Dogs - General Dog Chat' started by tessa_s212, Nov 28, 2009.

  1. tessa_s212

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    We took Summer to the vet because my brother wouldn't. Her teeth hadn't been cleaned in years. She's 13 years old. They were HORRENDOUS. Vet said otherwise, very healthy and was surprised that she was as old as she was. She said she lookd MUCH younger. ALL she needs is teeth cleaning(scheduled for Friday), but my brother doesn't want to pay for it. He wants to kill her instead. She's in his name (county tags). He pays for the food, but the vet that saw her would definitely be able to say she was neglected. She was only 16 lbs, and the weight lost started many months ago. Just trying to pet her, you feel sharp bones everywhere.

    My sister got Fudge (also my brother's dog) transferred into her name and legal ownership because my brother didn't want to care for him (and never has, Tasha always has anyway). My sister can't afford his eye meds. She's looking for a new home for him. We're going to put up flyers at the vets, at local pet stores, he's on craigslist already, and I contacted Cherished cockers.

    Already talking to brattina about Summer. My sister may have only one bottle left of the eye meds. We thought we would be able to keep Fudge for awhile, but she just can't afford his meds. He's a really good dog. Loves squeaky toys, gets along fine with all the dogs, is living peacefully with cats now, loves playing tug, and just sweet boy. She's finally groomed him, and he's infested with fleas. My brother wasn't keeping any flea preventative on any of his animals. Tasha is bathing him and going to put frontline on him. This is just a mess. We can rehome Fudge, the problem is finding someone who wants him. Summer is a different situation. My only thread of home that we can stop my brother from murdering Summer is to prove he's neglected her and get her taken away from him (but the local 'animal cops' are just awful and I would NEVER let her go to that shelter).
     
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    I dont know what to say Tessa. The situation really sucks. Hugs
     
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    What a horrible shame !!! Poor dog !
     
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    How much are Fudge's eye meds? And what is he on? Just wondering, if maybe I could help out in that area as well *shrugs*
    You might want to consider posting on petfinder's classifieds... That's how I found Charlie's owner :)
     
  5. tessa_s212

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    My parents found out about my sister's plans to rehome Fudge. When Fudge gets a new home, they say they will kick her out because she's "throwing Fudge out in the trash". So she has to make a plan and find a way to keep her 3 cats and 2 dogs. I may have talked her into eventually putting up flyers for the cats at the vets.

    I have to contact Marq's breeders. I don't know how I will afford to send him back to them.

    And... I'm a mess over here. I love Cocoa as much as I love Mason. She's my baby. She saved my life. I would have committed suicide a long time ago when I was just a child if I didn't have to stay alive for her. She's my heart dog. She's apart of my soul.

    My mom is going into another episode. She's threatening things against me, claiming I neglect my dog, I never care for her, etc. In the past when I asked if it was too much for her (Cocoa does sometimes need care, and I pay my mom to do it if I ask her todo something for Cocoa), and she was very mad at the idea that I"d rehome her. She's not really neglected, other than not receiving a lot of attention. That is why it took me so long to reach this decision. If she were in the shape the other dogs are in, it would have been easy.

    I'm now beginning my search to find Cocoa a new home. I don't know when I will be able to stop crying.
     
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    Marcs breeder should foot the costs. If you explain your situation maybe they will help
     
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    It stated in the contract that my mother signed that if we were to send him back, my parents would have to pay. I was a minor,signed no contract, and should not be held liable. *sigh* My mom is going to go postal.. well, already is. She doesn't yet know of my plans to rehome Marq. I'm not sure if they'll foot the cost initially, so he can get out of there, and then go after my parents for the money. I sent the email, I'm awaiting their reply to see where the next step is to get him out of that house.
     
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    Hopefully they foot the cost

    ETA: If your mom is going to freak, go for a walk with marc and dont come back with him. If she is unstable then his wellbeing is more important than freaking her out
     
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    Maybe you can find people to help transport him? I know people do it with rescues, and in this case, it's a 'rescue' of sorts ...
     
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    Okay people, this is my dilemma. Marq is a large dog. We have a small car. We could detach his plastic crate and put it in the trunk, and keep Marq in the back seat. Breeder preferrably wants to send him from Chicago O'Hare airport. OR, Detroit is big too so ..... if anyone could help with transport, please put the word out there. Marq currently is in Stryker, OH(NW corner of Ohio). I can transport pretty far, I just can't make it all the way to Detroit or Chicago.
     
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    Did you try contacting a pointer rescue (if there is one)?
     
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    Breeder doesn't want to get local rescues involved. So I guess Toledo will be fine. She's arranging flight time, Marq's co-breeder is funding his flight back. No cost to me. Just have to get him into the vet to get health certificate to fly.

    I can't believe all this is happening. I don't know if I should tell my mom, not tell her until the day of and give her a chance to say goodbye, or just take him and tell her later.
     
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    How much will she freak if you tell her before hand?
     
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    I would wait. You don't know what she'll do. She could do something potentially very dangerous.
     
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    Whose dog is Marq?
    I may have this wrong but it sounds like he is your moms, she signed the contract to purchase him etc. If that is true, you really need to tell her... whether you believe he needs to be returned to the breeders or not, if he isnt your dog you cant do it without her knowing.
    If he is your dog, then you can do whatever you want, so if you want to tell her after its done because you think it would make things go smoother, go ahead.
     
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    Am I understanding that you're stepping in due to neglect, right? In that case, I don't know that telling her would be the right thing to do. Marq's breeder is aware of the situation, right? Is she going to have a problem if she knows that your mom doesn't know what's happening?
     
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    Marq is MY dog. His county tags are in my name, I've paid for all his vet bills. Taht is all that matters in Ohio, however, I ALSO am Marq's co-owner with his breeder. He's my dog through and through as far as the law goes. My mother DID sign the contract, but that is because I was a minor at the time and legally could sign no contract.

    Marq is in excellent health. I've made sure he gets care. He is not infested with fleas like my mom's and brothers' dogs. I'm tired of all the neglect. Our two oldest cockers, Ginger and Brownie, died in neglect. They didn't have to die like that, or even live like that for so long. So what happens when Marq has a problem? Will my mom neglect him? Will I be able to afford it? He gets soooo scared when my mom goes into a episode where she screams constantly at the voices in her head. He deserves better.
     
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    If you're his co-owner, then it's between you and the breeder as far as I see it. If they have no issue with you returning him under the circumstances, then that's what I'd do. And telling your mom in advance doesn't sound like it would make things easier, that's for sure ....
     
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    I'll probably tell her when I show up to take him to say her goodbyes. Not any time before, so she can't do anything to prevent me from flying him back.
     
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    Could you make it to the Indianapolis airport instead? IND is also an international airport like ORD and that's probably several hours closer to you... is that a possibility?
     

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