Shadow is now 25 weeks old (6 months) and I think I've made a tactical error in her training.
When we first got shadow I was in the dark about training her, I got loads of books out of the library cos I wanted to get out of the dark. Then I found this website. I've been using the NILIF (is that right? nothing in life is free) to train her, works great, I have no problem getting her to respond to me, she listens, and she's great with me. But only me.
My boyf lee decided when we got shadow he only wanted one person doing things, so as not to confuse the dog, me being in the dark at the time thought this was a good idea, now I realise he was just being a lasy git! So I feed her, groom her, train her, play with her, walk her. Lee always comes with me when I walk her but I always hold the leash.
My problem is shadow wont listen to lee, she bites (only mouthing, quite hard thou) him when she's playing, and is just a monster to him, barks all the time at him, until I have enough and I go and stop her, tell her "sssshhhh" (thats how I calm her down) or give her a toy to chew on instead. She's not acting in an agressive way when she sees him, never has ever, its more like she's bullying him?
There are a few problems here, lee wouldnt listen to me when I was training her, he'll shout at her when she's being naughty (she thinks she's playing) and he doesnt follow any of my advice, and I dont help because half the time I wont let him train her cos I think he'll do it wrong, Im quite over-bearing I suppose.
How do I get shadow to listen to lee? You have to remember here, everytime I try to tell lee that he need to do something "this" way instead of "that" way, he just rolls his eyes. He wont listen. Man, I need help on training my boyf not shadow!!
I feel out of my depth here, I cant see a way out of this and its doing my head in. I really dont want this to continue, lee says she's not like this when its just to two of them. dont know if thats got anything to do with it.
Just a bit more info on shadow, shes a female staff, she knows her basic commands: sit, off, down, paw, up, come (sometimes come, but i've just read a thread on this by doberluv, so I wont be doing come anymore until I can reinforce it and reward it). She's always been very well behaved, she's been socialised as much as I could since 12 weeks, with dogs and people, i had people coming to visit form 8 weeks on. But now she's starting to jump up on people when we go for walks. Is she too young to be going through her "teenager" phase, I feel like she's delibrately trying to see what she can get away with.
Please help, feel free to PM me if you dont want to post.
Thanks
Rach
P.S sorry for the long post
When we first got shadow I was in the dark about training her, I got loads of books out of the library cos I wanted to get out of the dark. Then I found this website. I've been using the NILIF (is that right? nothing in life is free) to train her, works great, I have no problem getting her to respond to me, she listens, and she's great with me. But only me.
My boyf lee decided when we got shadow he only wanted one person doing things, so as not to confuse the dog, me being in the dark at the time thought this was a good idea, now I realise he was just being a lasy git! So I feed her, groom her, train her, play with her, walk her. Lee always comes with me when I walk her but I always hold the leash.
My problem is shadow wont listen to lee, she bites (only mouthing, quite hard thou) him when she's playing, and is just a monster to him, barks all the time at him, until I have enough and I go and stop her, tell her "sssshhhh" (thats how I calm her down) or give her a toy to chew on instead. She's not acting in an agressive way when she sees him, never has ever, its more like she's bullying him?
There are a few problems here, lee wouldnt listen to me when I was training her, he'll shout at her when she's being naughty (she thinks she's playing) and he doesnt follow any of my advice, and I dont help because half the time I wont let him train her cos I think he'll do it wrong, Im quite over-bearing I suppose.
How do I get shadow to listen to lee? You have to remember here, everytime I try to tell lee that he need to do something "this" way instead of "that" way, he just rolls his eyes. He wont listen. Man, I need help on training my boyf not shadow!!
I feel out of my depth here, I cant see a way out of this and its doing my head in. I really dont want this to continue, lee says she's not like this when its just to two of them. dont know if thats got anything to do with it.
Just a bit more info on shadow, shes a female staff, she knows her basic commands: sit, off, down, paw, up, come (sometimes come, but i've just read a thread on this by doberluv, so I wont be doing come anymore until I can reinforce it and reward it). She's always been very well behaved, she's been socialised as much as I could since 12 weeks, with dogs and people, i had people coming to visit form 8 weeks on. But now she's starting to jump up on people when we go for walks. Is she too young to be going through her "teenager" phase, I feel like she's delibrately trying to see what she can get away with.
Please help, feel free to PM me if you dont want to post.
Thanks
Rach
P.S sorry for the long post
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