The Venting Thread

[Dogdragoness]

Depression sucks when your parents believe that it will go away if you "try to be happy".

My father, who is a good man and I know he is trying to help ... but to him, everything is "mind over matter" to him and because he overcame it (he has psychological issues and PTSD from combat in Vietnam) everyone else should be able too ... but you'd think since he's been through that, that he would be more sympathetic about other's going through it ... :/

 

[CrystalGSD]

My father, who is a good man and I know he is trying to help ... but to him, everything is "mind over matter" to him and because he overcame it (he has psychological issues and PTSD from combat in Vietnam) everyone else should be able too ... but you'd think since he's been through that, that he would be more sympathetic about other's going through it ... :/

Yeah that sucks :/

 

[Dogdragoness]

Yeah that sucks :/

It's not just me, he has a friend who is an alcoholic, and he thinks that he could "just stop" if he "wanted to bad enough".

 

[CrystalGSD]

Brought up my depression again and told my dad "If I got the flu would you tell me to get over it by thinking healthy thoughts?" and he responded "That's different, that's physical." I replied by telling him depression is often caused by chemical imbalances in the brain. He vehemently disagreed (even though SCIENCE???), and told me to try to be happy. I didn't bother continuing to argue.

 

[Melle]

Brought up my depression again and told my dad "If I got the flu would you tell me to get over it by thinking healthy thoughts?" and he responded "That's different, that's physical." I replied by telling him depression is often caused by chemical imbalances in the brain. He vehemently disagreed (even though SCIENCE???), and told me to try to be happy. I didn't bother continuing to argue.

I'm so sorry Unfortunately some people just don't understand. If you ever need to talk, my inbox is open. I completely understand what it feels like to be boxed in like that.

 

[CrystalGSD]

I'm so sorry Unfortunately some people just don't understand. If you ever need to talk, my inbox is open. I completely understand what it feels like to be boxed in like that.

Thanks! And I'm sorry that you know what it feels like, too, because no one should have that in their life.

 

[sassafras]

I just got over a cold about a week ago, and now I appear to be coming down with the flu. So far December sucks a$$ in the sass household.

 

[SoCrafty]

Feeling kind of sad. I think I misunderstood how or where we are on the waiting list. I am not sure we will be getting a puppy out of this litter. All I can do is cross my fingers, I guess! This is totally not the breeders fault, its mine in all my excitement because PUPPY. FINALLY. If we don't get an email or phone call by end of next week, I guess we will have to wait until another time.

 

[AllieMackie]

Thanks, both of you guys I agree, it totally sucks that mental illnesses are not taken seriously (and yes that comic totally sums it up). I would see a psychiatrist if I could, but as a minor I don't think that's a possibility.

Are you going to school? Speak to a guidance counselor about it. They can often be a bridge between you, your parents, and a doctor/therapist.

If you're not going to school, there are still many options for youth/minors to seek therapy and treatment for mental health issues. It depends on your location, but if you do a little internet research (and maybe ask in places like r/anxiety on Reddit) you can find some options.

 

[CrystalGSD]

Are you going to school? Speak to a guidance counselor about it. They can often be a bridge between you, your parents, and a doctor/therapist.

If you're not going to school, there are still many options for youth/minors to seek therapy and treatment for mental health issues. It depends on your location, but if you do a little internet research (and maybe ask in places like r/anxiety on Reddit) you can find some options.

Yes, I am in school. I think I might, but I feel like my parents would see it as going behind their back... idk. They're pretty irrational people.

Thanks for the tips I really do appreciate it.

 

[JazzyTheSibe]

Thanks, both of you guys I agree, it totally sucks that mental illnesses are not taken seriously (and yes that comic totally sums it up). I would see a psychiatrist if I could, but as a minor I don't think that's a possibility.

If you'd want, I could you refer you to forum that I'm using. I'll PM you later, because it blocked here at school.

Brought up my depression again and told my dad "If I got the flu would you tell me to get over it by thinking healthy thoughts?" and he responded "That's different, that's physical." I replied by telling him depression is often caused by chemical imbalances in the brain. He vehemently disagreed (even though SCIENCE???), and told me to try to be happy. I didn't bother continuing to argue.

Awwww I'm really sorry *Hugs* If you ever to talk, you could PM me. I think it's awesome that you were able to tell you Dad, because I'm to able do that. .. You should be proud that you were able to tell him.

Unfortunately some people just don't understand.

This!

Feeling kind of sad. I think I misunderstood how or where we are on the waiting list. I am not sure we will be getting a puppy out of this litter. All I can do is cross my fingers, I guess! This is totally not the breeders fault, its mine in all my excitement because PUPPY. FINALLY. If we don't get an email or phone call by end of next week, I guess we will have to wait until another time.

Sending vibes your way! Hoping that this time does mean puppy for you.

Are you going to school? Speak to a guidance counselor about it. They can often be a bridge between you, your parents, and a doctor/therapist.

When a friend of mine was struggling with Depression, she spoke to her guidance counselor, which helped her significantly. Plus, her parents finally recognized that it as serious,& eventually got her help.

 

[Dogdragoness]

My folks arent bad or irrational people, I just dont think they GET it. To the outside person, looking in, I DONT have anything to be depressed about, I have a great life, two wonderful dogs, great parents, a nice home, a wonderful man who loves me and a close circle of nice, caring friends. I shouldnt be sad ... maybe they are right, I shouldnt, but sometimes I just get into these ....funks and I cant help it.

((((((((hugs))))))))))) anyone going through this, too I hope things get better for you soon, just remember its not your fault and its ok to need help, whether that halp comes in for form of a therapist, or medicinal help.

 

[Melle]

In an attempt to give the cat something fun to do beyond is average activities, to get him a chance to go outside in his harness I walked him in a straight quick line down the hall to the door and out.

But because of dad GOD FORBID the cat touches ANYTHING that is not the bedroom carpet. GOD FORBID he sheds a single strand of DNA when he is only walking very quickly outside and not even touching any of your things. "I thought we had equilibrium and he only stays in your room but see I don't know if this'll work."

For gosh sake! You've achieved most of what you say you always wanted in life and sit comfortably in an armchair ALL DAY long, mom cooks your meals and everything, but having any animal do anything under the supervision of your depressed daughter is suddenly destroying the equilibrium of your world and you have to fuss just because it took me 5 seconds to get the cat out the door to breathe some fresh air so I can have my zen time for the day and at least pretend I'm sitting out with the dog like I used to.

It's so depressing having it be like this and I wonder why I try at all when its the one thing that helps me.

 

[SpringerLover]

I just got over a cold about a week ago, and now I appear to be coming down with the flu. So far December sucks a$$ in the sass household.

I have been sick twice in the last couple months. I don't get sick! I was going to blame this one on Tim because he was sick earlier this week but both doctors at work are also sick right now.

Stupid.

 

[CrystalGSD]

My folks arent bad or irrational people, I just dont think they GET it. To the outside person, looking in, I DONT have anything to be depressed about, I have a great life, two wonderful dogs, great parents, a nice home, a wonderful man who loves me and a close circle of nice, caring friends. I shouldnt be sad ... maybe they are right, I shouldnt, but sometimes I just get into these ....funks and I cant help it.

((((((((hugs))))))))))) anyone going through this, too I hope things get better for you soon, just remember its not your fault and its ok to need help, whether that halp comes in for form of a therapist, or medicinal help.

Thanks for the hugs and yes I am glad that I realize it isn't my fault, I know that some people can't comprehend that and that is even worse. Thanks again.

 

[noludoru]

In an attempt to give the cat something fun to do beyond is average activities, to get him a chance to go outside in his harness I walked him in a straight quick line down the hall to the door and out.

But because of dad GOD FORBID the cat touches ANYTHING that is not the bedroom carpet. GOD FORBID he sheds a single strand of DNA when he is only walking very quickly outside and not even touching any of your things. "I thought we had equilibrium and he only stays in your room but see I don't know if this'll work."

So.. You had this issue with your previous dog and now the cat. All I'm going to ask is for you to please not bring a dog home. I get wanting one that badly (trust me, I do - I sent you all of that stuff because you remind me of myself in 2006) but it's just not a good idea. He sounds very hateful of animals, and the pressure on you to give up the pet you have is going to be there until you move out.

 

[Dogdragoness]

In an attempt to give the cat something fun to do beyond is average activities, to get him a chance to go outside in his harness I walked him in a straight quick line down the hall to the door and out.

But because of dad GOD FORBID the cat touches ANYTHING that is not the bedroom carpet. GOD FORBID he sheds a single strand of DNA when he is only walking very quickly outside and not even touching any of your things. "I thought we had equilibrium and he only stays in your room but see I don't know if this'll work."

For gosh sake! You've achieved most of what you say you always wanted in life and sit comfortably in an armchair ALL DAY long, mom cooks your meals and everything, but having any animal do anything under the supervision of your depressed daughter is suddenly destroying the equilibrium of your world and you have to fuss just because it took me 5 seconds to get the cat out the door to breathe some fresh air so I can have my zen time for the day and at least pretend I'm sitting out with the dog like I used to.

It's so depressing having it be like this and I wonder why I try at all when its the one thing that helps me.

Boy I am sorry you are going through this. I wish there was something I could say to lift your spirits. That sounds like a sucky situation all around and I am sorry.

You have the patience of a saint, because if it were me I would have told him (dad or not) to get bent. I am fortunate that my parents were supportive of my decision to get another puppy.

 

[Melle]

I don't mean to paint my dad as a bad person and an animal hater because he's not - this man went out in the woods with me when I was younger and birdwatched with me, caught salamanders, snakes, set up terrariums for me with all kinds of insects from the yard but it's like in the last few years he's just become clammy about anything doing anything and it's driving me nuts that he's had to become this way about animals after I discovered the impact they have on my moods and I wish he could go back to how he was before.

It's just that the guy who let all the stray cats into the house to lie on the sofa with me gets paranoid when my house cat wants to go outside now.

To make it brighter though, he did show an interest in my walking-cat-on-a-leash project. He's not hateful, but we clash a lot. And it's just that no one in the house takes it seriously that the high level of interaction with dog as opposed to human makes what I go through better which is kind of crazy, since there was a time I openly considered a PSD.

 

[Dogdragoness]

I don't mean to paint my dad as a bad person and an animal hater because he's not - this man went out in the woods with me when I was younger and birdwatched with me, caught salamanders, snakes, set up terrariums for me with all kinds of insects from the yard but it's like in the last few years he's just become clammy about anything doing anything and it's driving me nuts that he's had to become this way about animals after I discovered the impact they have on my moods and I wish he could go back to how he was before.

It's just that the guy who let all the stray cats into the house to lie on the sofa with me gets paranoid when my house cat wants to go outside now.

To make it brighter though, he did show an interest in my walking-cat-on-a-leash project. He's not hateful, but we clash a lot. And it's just that no one in the house takes it seriously that the high level of interaction with dog as opposed to human makes what I go through better which is kind of crazy, since there was a time I openly considered a PSD.

Yeah kind of sounds like my parents when I had a doctor sign the letter making Josefina an ESA, even mom kind of rolled her eyes at it :/

I'm sorey, Melle. I didn't mean to make it sound like I was calling your dad a bad guy. I just know and understand where you are coming from in the frustration department.

 

[Ozfozz]

I am becoming so relieved that I had a class on campus that forced me to move back home with my parents and out of this craphole apartment.

The smoking inside stuff is killing me. I've been here since Thursday, and while he's normally very good about going to another room, shutting the door, and smoking with the window open, last night we visited a friend's house where the smokers out numbered the non.

My sinuses are clogged, my head is spinning, my chest hurts, and I'm covered in some sort of weird little red dots. I just don't know how much longer I can do this.