Stuck on what to do!*long*

[iluvdogs]

My sister calls me up today at work, asking if I want to move into a apartment with her because where she is living now they are upping the rent and she cant afford it anymore.

I live at home with my parents still, I'm the youngest (21) and its just me my mom and dad and of course all our doggies!....They do not charge me rent.

I just bought a new car, and I have monthly payments for that and insurance,and of course my cell phone...So thats 840 a month that I pay already...If i move out with my sister than I have rent and food and all that to pay for also..

My problem is..I don't know what to do!!...I know I am 21 and I should be moved out, but I feel sad for my parents, they are going to be all alone in this big house and have to look after all 5 dogs, and I know they don't want me to move out....But than my sister said if I don't move out with her shes going to have to move away...I have a headache from thinking about this all day, she REALLY needs a answer she wanted one tonight, but I couldn't give her one.

I know my parents will be fine, but I always told myself if I was to move out, I would want to alone!!.I mean I like it here, its fine and it saves me money!!...I don't know what to do..Plus I will miss coming home to the dogs, or have them sleeping with me...Any help!!..lol

 

[Roxy's CD]

If you don't want to, don't.

It sounds like you've got an awful lot on your plate right now, and you don't want to.

Yes, it's nice that you want to help your sister out, but this isn't really a life or death situation. So you shouldn't compromise your own well being. She can find a smaller place that's more affordable can't she?

 

[nancy2394]

let me be the first to say that living with my sister was a nightmare. I love my sister dearly, but I made a big mistake when I let her come live with me. Think about it long and hard.

If you already pay out nearly 900 bucks a month on those few items you mentioned... think of how hard it will be with rent, utilities and food added to that. I don't know what kind of money you make... but it will most likely be a financial burden.

Can't your sister look for another roommate? I think it was kind of unfair of her to put you on the spot knowing you pay nothing for rent right now. This is just my own opinion. But I really would think long and hard about it.

 

[Pippinislove]

If I were you I would stay where you are. If you don't want to do it, don't. It's unfair of her to expect you to uproot yourself and move in with her.

 

[Squidbert]

I agree with the others.. If you don't want to don't do it.. It seems like she's trying to guilt you into moving in with her.. that's not fair to you..
Like Roxy said, can't she find a more affordable place? Or find a different roomie?

 

[Renee750il]

And, after all, you've got to consider the dogs!

 

[Kase]

If your happy where you are at then I'd say stay, you get to be with the dogs too!!!

 

[mojozen]

I'm with everyone else. Don't move in with a sibling. Bad Idea. And especially don't move in with a sibling that tries something akin to emotional control to get you to do what she wants.

If she wants a cheaper place to live I highly doubt she'd have to "move far away" to do so. She could get another roommate, she could get a smaller/cheaper place, heck she could move back home (maybe).

You're already shelling out nearly $900 in your expenses even if your part of the rent was $300, utilities for the basics of electric and gas can run up to $150 a share. On top of that you have food - would you divide it up? Or would she be able to eat what you buy for yourself (and vice versa)? Groceries can range anywhere from the cheapie $20 (mostly ramen diet) to nearly $50/week if you like eating other things. So that's $1550 a month in expenses... now depending on how much you make at your job it can be doable (i do that and much more) but it's a struggle.. (trust me it's a struggle!) especially if you try to move a dog in with you!

Yeah... if YOU don't want to move. Then don't... your sister needs to be responsible for her own life, not guilt trip you into being responsible for hers too!

 

[iluvdogs]

Hey thanks everyone for the help...I went to bed with a headache, and woke up with one thinking on what to do!!...She just called me now saying she needs a answer today for sure.

And like you guys are saying, I don't know if we would get along..lol..Sure we get along great now, but we are not in each other faces..lol..Plus shes really into her Christian, and well me..I don't go to Church and stuff. But on the other hand, she is always busy she house-sits and babysits a lot when she is not working her other job..Because she told me she would hardly be home..

I would miss the dogs A LOT..And I am sure they will miss me!...As I always play with them, but on the other hand my parents are getting annoying and making me mad sometimes..lol..

I just STILL don't know what to do!!!..She said she cant find anyone else to move out with, and she said she cant make it HERE on her own..So thats why shes going to move away. Money wise..I would prolly make it..Say I have to pay out 500 for rent and food and stuff..That would still leave me with 300.

~sigh~...I don't know.....