Still in contact with high school friends?

[Tahla9999]

I just graduated from high school and I'm in my first semester in college and this question is already popping in my head. Will I stay in contact with them for years to come? Will we still have that connection? I have always believe that friends come and go, mostly because I live in a military family and we moved so many times. I've been to three different elementary schools, three different middle schools, and luckily only one high school. I've gotten pretty use to making friends and leaving them.

Though now I decided to make more of an effort to stay in contact with them. With the technology we have now, it is easier than ever. I'm probably going to keep an eye on most of them on facebook, chat every now and then. There are two people who I believe I'll actually hang out and stay close to. We were kinda like THE trio in highschool and we have three ways on the phone when we can, which is always very entertaing.

Though I think inevitable that we will grow more apart as we change, gain new friends, etc. Of the trio, one is going to the marines, another is going to national guard, and I'm going to be busy with vet school. We probably wont have that same connection like we did in high school, but as long as we stay in contact and hang out every now and then, than that is okay for me.

 

[Kat09Tails]

I've been out of high school about a decade now. I'm still in touch with about a half dozen of my high school buddies. They were and still are my best friends. We may not see each other as frequently as we used to, they may move, get married, have a pack of kids etc. We still stay in touch.

 

[Fran101]

Lol Kind of. I talk to a few on facebook some times, "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!" on their wall and comment on pictures
..but we don't talk or go out or anything anymore.

Funny thing is.. we all knew our "OMG BEST FRIENDS!!" relationship wouldn't last passed highschool
I LOVED my high school, my friends.. the whole experience. but I grew out of it.
and I guess seeing each other EVERY DAY was what kept our relationships going and we all knew that lol
I felt close to them, like I LOVED hanging out with them and having fun and doing girly things.. but it wasn't like the relationships were too deep lol it was all pretty shallow now that I think about it.

its an equal thing, we all talked a lot at first when we just got to college, our first semesters were kind of lonely.. but then we all made friends and it dwindled. those who made an effort to stay in contact even AFTER they made friends are the ones I still talk to.

Some people do find BEST FRIENDS in highschool, my god mother and to this day my moms BEST FRIEND was her best friend in school. so yea, it happens.. but for me, none of those girls really made too big of an impact on me lol

I do still talk to my boyfriend from highschool though

 

[smkie]

I don't even remember going to high school much less the people there. In my defense I only went there for one year before I moved on to jr college. I don't really remember too many people there either. I do stay in contact with a few from the Art Institute, one in particular. Mostly the close friends I have made have been in my daily adult life. Once I became a parent and single at that, (single even while married for the work load) my life evolved around the children and my friends were often the parents of others. THose people I doubt I will ever forget.

 

[Brattina88]

My experience? Yes, but not always like you think. Some of my close friends are pretty much strictly "facebook friends" now. I don't really talk to them other than facebook. My two best friends I still talk to and see all the time. But the other two of our little group, I haven't even since since graduation parties when we graduated and that was quite a while ago! Wow
But you sometimes drift apart naturally. Some mature slower than others (lol) - a lot of my HS friends are married (one is already divorced) have kids, etc and I don't... but I've always been "mature for my age" so my other friends who are stuck in 'party mode' I don't really talk to anymore...

 

[Picklepaige]

Yep...I've been best friends with my best friend since 5th grade

 

[CaliTerp07]

Nope. I moved across the country for college. At Christmas I'll meet up with 'em and catch up at Starbucks, and if they're ever in DC we'll meet up for dinner...but otherwise, we just facebook stalk each other, lol. It's been 6 years since I graduated, but the close friendships pretty much dried up after a year.

 

[ACooper]

Like Kato9, I've been out of high school for quite some time now, LOL, but to answer the question......yes, I am still in contact with 2. We don't get to see each other because they live 1/2 way across the country, but we are in touch and I still consider them good friends

You are right, even with today's technology, you will still grow apart from some of them.......maybe even most of them. But IMO, the ones who are truly great friends will be friends from now on, and even when you've gone a year or two without speaking/hearing from them you can fall right back into the same comfort you've always shared That's my experience at least.

 

[Laurelin]

I see my friends on rare occasions and I'm always super happy to see them. I talk some, but not often. The old group has gotten together a couple times and it was almost like we never left high school lol. But that only has happened a few times since college. Many have since moved away (one close friend lives in England and another in the Caribbean)

My two best college friends both graduated and left me and moved across the country too. I have only seen one of them twice since then and the other I haven't seen at all (and the get the feeling I won't see her much again) I talk to them both on facebook a lot though.

I think it's just the way things go.

 

[Laurelin]

Interestingly enough my best best friend from about 4th grade through 9th (when I moved to another state) and I ended up going to the same college. It was clear right away that we weren't the same anymore. We both tried jumping back into the best friend thing... it didn't work. Even though we lived in the same town and went to the same school, we never saw each other the next few years.

 

[Beanie]

We mostly do the Facebook thing and keep tabs on each other. Funny enough my best friend from high school, we really don't talk much at all. We were so similar when we were in school but now we are very different. It's not that I'm not interested in them, I really DO want to know how everybody is doing, but it was hard when we all went to different colleges, moved to different places, were busy working... it was so easy to lose touch. I'm glad now that I have a way to reconnect and know how they're doing on a daily basis. And whenever somebody comes back to town, if we get a chance, we do go out and see each other and catch up.

But it was so much easier in high school for my life to revolve around social stuff, going out and "playing" with my friends. Now my life revolves around work, as much as I hate to say it, and the people I am social with are largely my co-workers... =P

 

[Locke]

I graduated from high school four years ago, and I'm still very close friends with some people from elementary school and high school.

I found first year was when I talked to them the least. I stayed at home for university while everyone else went out of the city. They started making new friends and partying and I didn't and I just felt I couldn't relate to them anymore. When they came back home for the summer, we went on a camping trip and that really seemed to re-solidify what we had in high school. The next several years we've all stayed in contact throughout the year on facebook and meeting over the holidays and stuff.

I think the separation was good for us. Each of us was able to grow and mature on our own, and our friendship grew and matured as well.

 

[noodlerubyallie]

I'm friends with the majority of them on Facebook, but I never talk to them or go out of my way to speak to any of them...good riddance, for the most part.

I made "real" friends in college and those are the friends that, even though we may not see each other for a year or two, can pick up right where we left off.

 

[MandyPug]

Honestly? I've retained one as a good friend, but she was my best friend through high school. Other than that, mostly just FB friends. Some high school people i knew i became friends with in university. I made a few new friends thought that i think are way better than most i hung out with in high school.

 

[Sweet72947]

I'm still friends with some friends from high school. One person I met in 9th grade, and one person I met in 12th grade.

And I have a friend I met in preschool (although we've both grown and changed a lot over the years, and we aren't close like we were, but that's ok), and one person I've known since elementary school.

I don't make new friends real easily, but I seem to have made some great new ones in the past two-three years.

 

[JacksonsMom]

We moved into a neighborhood when I was 4 years old and next door to me, the girl who was also 4 years old, became my best friend. We went through elem. and middle school together, and then I moved to a new high school for 9th and 10th grade, we kept in touch and all, but rarely saw each other anymore. Then I ended up transferring back to that town and in her same high school again for 11th and 12th grade. Then we took a few classes at the community college together, but she's off at a university while I'm still at home and she's STILL my best friend. When she comes home, we always hang out, we talk on the phone often, etc. It's awesome having a friend I've known practically all my life and we are still so close. It's the kind of friendship that we can not see each other for a year or more, and when we see each other again, we're right back where we started.

A few friends I made specifically in high school, I do still talk to but VERY few of them. Like two people, really. All the others are just hey's and happy birthday's on facebook.

 

[JacksonsMom]

My experience? Yes, but not always like you think. Some of my close friends are pretty much strictly "facebook friends" now. I don't really talk to them other than facebook. My two best friends I still talk to and see all the time. But the other two of our little group, I haven't even since since graduation parties when we graduated and that was quite a while ago! Wow
But you sometimes drift apart naturally. Some mature slower than others (lol) - a lot of my HS friends are married (one is already divorced) have kids, etc and I don't... but I've always been "mature for my age" so my other friends who are stuck in 'party mode' I don't really talk to anymore...

This is how I always was. "mature for my age" while all my friends decided they wanted to go out and party, get drunk, and do drugs all the time. So there was a time period where I felt like I didn't fit in. I guess I still don't, but my best friend is already over the "omg gotta party every night in college" thing.

 

[Giny]

It's been a while since I've been out of high school, long time, and have a couple friends I'm still in contact with. We don't see each other that much since I now live in another country, but when we do it's like we've never been separated. One of them I've been friends with since 7th grade.

And I love facebook, I've met up with quite a few high school friends I haven't heard from in years.