Sometimes life is just sad

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tessa_s212

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Well, with the risk, I decided to post here in the hydrant again. I guess as an experiment. I've read and re read this post, and I think its safe to put here on Chaz. I think people should be able to relate to how I'm feeling. I believe I have reason to feel the way I do, and I do need someone to rant to. And I know there are some very few individuals that woudl like to hear from me again considering I have not been active on Chaz in what feels like a very long time.

My Chemistry teacher is a wonderful woman. I love her to death. She's so intelligent and she's honestly one of those people that cares about her students. Her brothers have been in and out of the hospital for a few weeks now. One is dying, if he isn't already dead. She's been in and out of school, sometimes leaving mid day after getting a call about her brother. Today she got a call. It was to tell her that if she wanted to see her brother alive, she'd better get there right now. She's rather close with this brother. She's lived with him all her adult life other than the years she was married. And even worse, today is her birthday. I can't even begin to imagine what she's going through. And I feel so horrible for her that it almost brings me to tears.

But that is only the beginning of this entry. After she left and we went to our last period of the day, our Alg teacher informed us on a few more details about our Chemistry teacher. We also learned that we'd get a substitute teacher that isn't exactly a wonderful person. People call her annoying and condescending. I admit, she's not my favorite substitute people either, but it angered me how people were being so selfish. My Chemistry teacher didn't decide for her brother to die right now. She didnt' want it to happen. I'm SO freaking sorry if her brother's death is an inconvenience for you because you have to put up with a sub that you do not like. I don't know.. it just angers me that people can be so incompassionate.

Not only that, but my sister is helping out this wonderful girl that is a freshman at our school. She's been trying to help her in math and just being a good friend to her. She honestly cares and wants to help her. She's been trying to get to tutor her afterschool once a week in hopes of improving her Algebra grade. This girl is NOT stupid at all, she just needs a little extra help adn things explained in a different way. Our algebra teacher is FANTASTIC, but she does NOT have the time to sit with one student all class period just to help them out. She is, however, in before and afterschool EVERY day for any student that takes the time to go in for extra help. Why can't this girl go in? Because her parents are retarded people that deserve to be shot. They won't let her stay afterschool or go in before school to get help. My sister has TRIED asking them so that she can help this girl with her work. They always come up with excuses. They don't even freaking care about her grades.. they just need a person to be a parent to this girl's younger sister. Because they don't want to be the parents themselves. And to add on to that, they are constantly yelling at her. My sister called to ask about the tutoring thing, and this girl's stepmother started screaming at the girl and my sister could hear it over the phone! I'm not going to get into all of it.. that's only a small portion.

Some people don't deserve the life that they've been given. Some people woudl be better off shot in the head so that the rest of the world doesn't have to put up with them. So that people like this girl wouldn't have to put up with people like her parents.

Reading back through this I sound angry.. and I am.. but more than angry I'm sad. Sad to the point of tears for how horrible I feel about these two things. I'm sad that people have to die slow and painful deaths, and I'm sad that family members have to sit there and watch it. People shouldn't have to die that way. And I'm sad that people are so selfish that for one minute they cannot stop and consider that maybe their petty little problems don't freaking matter. In ten years from now, it will NOT matter if you liked or didn't like that substitute teacher. And I'm sad that such awful people exist and make others' lives a hell. People like that should be spayed and nuetered so that kids don't have to put up with such awful parents.
 

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Aw, Tessa :( (((((((((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))))))))))))

That's really sad, I hope the girl is able to, just over all get better.

Oh ,wow, I hope your teacher and her family are okay...that is terrible. :(


((((((((((((((((((((( Hugs again ))))))))))))))))))))) :)
 

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::HUGS::

Those are 2 very sad situations :( :( I am so sorry that they are occurring to people so close to you...that must be really hard...

Ha, and i totally agree some people should be spuetered!!
 

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This is going to sound really, really super harsh Tessa, maybe it's just my mood, you know how us girls get ;)

My thoughts on it is:

It's life. While life can be sad, you can learn something from everything. At some time or another we all have to deal with death, whether it be our own, a family members or a friend's relative etc. And in every of those situations, it calls for a different mentality.

Life is hard. Sometimes it's much harder for others than ourselves. All you can do is try your best to help this girl. Teaching and learning from her.

My bf had a horrible family life as a child. There are things I think about everyday that happened to him that are much too personal to be mentioned. HORRIBLE, AWFUL things that no REAL mother would ever allow to happen to her child.

But you know what Tess? My bf is a much stronger man, his morals are so strong that nothing could break them.

Sometimes hardships make better people out of us.
 

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My son in law had a terrible family growing up, and now I am his mother. he just had to a dapt . doesn't mean he d oesn't have scars and sadness, just that life goes on.
 
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I know people die. I know that it is apart of life. I'm not saying that it shouldn't happen.. I'm just sad that death sometimes comes in such a slow and painful way. And sad that my teacher, a wonderful woman that does not deserve the crap that has been going in her life lately, has to watch her brother go through this. I dont' expect it not to happen.. just sad that it does is all.

And this girl.. I don't even know all the details to include it, but the thigns my sister says.. I know for a fact her mothers a alcoholic, and her dad is an outright jerk.. her stepmom is always screaming at her.

I am not without my own severe family problems.. but I've grown up. I've learned some things... I've learned to deal with it, I've found a way out of some of this junk. I can GET AWAY from it. This girl.. she cant' stand up to her parents.. she doesn't have the strength, and they don't let her have friends or go anywhere.. she has no way out..

I know that those things can make people stronger and better people. I know that the crap I went through is still apart of me and it made me the way I am.. good and bad.

But right now.. all I'm seeing in this girl is just.. its not helping her right now. Right now she is not getting any stronger, but only getting weaker because of all the crap. And it pains me to watch her go through it.. I don't even know her that well.. I talk to her and I'm friendly and we laugh and have fun, but I have never spoken to her on a personal level.. but just knowing just a portion of this crap, its hard to contain myself from just not breaking into tears.

I just wish I could trade her places.. no, not even that. I want her to have better.

its not that I think this world should be perfect. Its not even that I expect it to be. .I know that there will always be problems.. but I'm still allowed to feel sadness, aren't I? :(
 

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Those are two very sad situations and I'm sorry that they're taking their toll on you, Tessa.

I don't blame you for being upset. I just don't understand how people can be so selfish as to do something like that to their children.

The high school kids bitching over a sub is normal. They're teens. They're selfish. It's those parents that I'm really horrified at. :(
 
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Oh no.. don't be blessing me for caring. Its what any person should do.

But it seems more and more don't...

Ah, well, bed time for me.
 

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Ya Know Tessa, I can't get over the huge number of horrible parents in this world. It's just overwhelming so me sometimes too that parents can beat, starve, and abuse their children in such terrible ways, and so very few ever have to face any ramifications for their actions.
I can tell your heart is breaking for this girl, It's really too bad she is facing this. Hopefully a teacher or someone will step in and give her a boost.

As far as your teacher, yes, death is hard, especially when it drags on and on, wearing out the family like it sometiems does. My husband lost a best friend on Thanksgiving day 12 years ago, and it has ruined Thanksgiving for the rest of my husbands life, so I certainly see why you are sad it is your teachers' birthday. Hope it all turns out ok soon.
 
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Tessa, Grrrrl . . . I'm very proud of you. You're growing up and you've really stepped outside of yourself on this one. There is a real difference in you - it's subtle, but very real and good. You're showing the person you've always had the potential to become :) ((((((((HUGS))))))))
 
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Renee, I've been this person for quite awhile. It's just that I probably did not show it here on the forums all that often, and that when I did, it was ignored because of people's past grudges and judgements against me.

My teacher's brother didn't die on her birthday(Thursday). Yesterday at about 3 20 pm my Alg teacher got the phone call from my Chemistry teacher telling her that he finally passed on. School got out at 3, so my sister and I were the first students to know. (We stay afterschool to do our homework and help my teacher grade.)

The funeral is Monday, so she won't be at school.

I feel horrible for her. I just wish I could do something to take her pain away. :(
 
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Tessa, there's a difference in this post than in the ones past - as I said, it's subtle, but it's there, and it shows that you are growing, just as you'd hoped you would :)
 

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I'm so sorry, tessa. :( (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) That's so sad that that happened on her birthday...it was like that for my mom, too. Her dad died on her birthday.
 

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^^^I do agree, Tessa. There is a difference in your tone and the general "feel" of the way you say things. Your descriptions of things have shifted a little in a positive way. :)
 

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