*Sigh* what would you do

[sparks19]

I am really so insanely disappointed with this.

Ok... If you were divorced or split from your spouse and you have children together and had shared custody.

If one of your children ended up sick and needing to go to the doctor. your ex takes the child to the doctor and doctor gives a prescription.

your ex calls you and says "she needs a prescription and you need to go pick it up"

What would your response be? I mean I know it's hardly a perfect request but it's your CHILD and despite what happened between you and your ex wouldn't you want to take care of what ever the child needs? shouldn't the kids come first? or is it just me?

 

[ACooper]

Nope, it's not just you. The kids SHOULD come first. Period.

Now, that's not to say I wouldn't ask something like "And why can't YOU swing by and get the script?" I mean, when we go to the docs, swinging by the pharmacy with the script in hand is just what we do before we go home and get comfy, end of story. So I would wonder WHY Kevin (or whoever) didn't/couldn't have done the same, LOL

 

[tessa_s212]

Of course I'd get it. I'm not doing a favor for the ex, I'm providing for my child, and the child needs taken care of, no matter how much I may not get along with my ex.

The only way I wouldn't is if I had researched and knew something about the medicine that could harm my child, and did not agree with giving it to them. I'd then ask said ex-husband to ask the doc for a different, safer medication.

 

[AGonzalez]

I can speak from experience with this. My oldest son became very ill (food born pathogen because my ex is a repulsive slob...anyway) so he calls me and says "he needs to go to the doctor" - he was too lazy to take him!
So yes, I got dressed then and there and drove a 30 mile roundtrip to take my son to the doctor (ok and I never brought him back to his dad after that due to the condition he was in) at 6 AM.

So no, it's not just you. Any decent parent will get off their lazy ass and do anything in their power for their children, especially when it comes to health. If they don't, they are neglectful. I don't care how much you hate your ex (and I REALLY hate mine with a passion) it's not the child who should suffer.

 

[FoxyWench]

i think the point here though is why the heck cant the ex, who has the child (who obviously needs the medicine) not pick it up?

i mean if theres a reason they cant pick it up (ie the kids throwing up and they needed to get home, or no car, or something) then sure, but id definatly be a little miffed if theres absolutly no reason they couldnt pick up the perscription on the way home.

then again my ex's ex was that way, if the kid got sick shed call him and tell him that she was sick and HE needed to call and make an apt (even though the child was with her at the time) or shed purposly make the apt for a weekend when he had her, or shed take her then cal him to tell him he needed to pick up the perscription...i always got frustrated when instead of turning round and going "is there a reason you cant pick it up?" hed just go OK ill drop it off as soon as possible...*blink blink*

 

[sparks19]

well I don't know the WHOLE story. I only know what my dad told me and basically the story is one of his 4 kids had to go to the doctor (although 2 of the 4 are sick but I don't know if the other had to go to the doctor or not) and she took her on her day with her and she needed antibiotics. Now this ex spouse is taking care of 4 children... one who isn't old enough to be in school and two who are sick and the oldest is in school. She had strep throat and an ear infection.

My dad didn't give any details just said " she had the nerve to call up and say that he needed to go get the prescription and he told her to forget it" No other details just that which tells me there may be other sides to this story... I dont' know.

but in my opinion the CHILDREN COME FIRST no matter what and if the spouse wants to be a biatch well that sucks but it's only the children that suffer and anyone who gets into a relationship with people will children needs to understand that. Manipulative ex's suck but when kids are involved... you get them the help they need period. while I dont' believe this particular ex would not ever get the prescription to protect her kids... is that a risk you would take if it were your child?

but really... all you have to do is go and pick up a prescription. Why can't you do that? when you have FOUR kids and two of them are sick and one of the four is not school aged? I would think there might be a reasonable reason.

 

[Jules]

I am pretty sure I would have gone and gotten the prescription for the child. I wish more people would truly put their child first and not use it as a cheap tool to get back at their ex-SO (I don't mean your dad, just in general).

To give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe the child had to go lie down and there was nobody else to watch the child while she went. I think you'll need the whole story... but still... it wouldn't matter WHY the ex is being an @ss- you should always want the best for your child.

 

[Grab]

I'm not sure I'd want someone dragging two sick kids and a baby/toddler into a pharmacy to wait on a prescription. It seems as if it would be more convenient for the parent not caring for all of the sick kids to pick it up

 

[bubbatd]

I agree Grab .

 

[sparks19]

I am pretty sure I would have gone and gotten the prescription for the child. I wish more people would truly put their child first and not use it as a cheap tool to get back at their ex-SO (I don't mean your dad, just in general).

To give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe the child had to go lie down and there was nobody else to watch the child while she went. I think you'll need the whole story... but still... it wouldn't matter WHY the ex is being an @ss- you should always want the best for your child.

I haven't read the rest of the responses yet but THIS is exactly what my feeling about the whole thing was.

And my dad IS being an a$$ about it lol although it's not his ex it's my brother and his ex SO. two people who I NEVER thought would end in divorce but it did and now it's like they can't stand the sight of each other.

Like the way my dad told the story was that she took the child to the doctor and need a prescription. called my brother and told him he needed to go pick up the prescription (now Of course I don't know the terms of HOW she asked or what she said but to me that's doesn't matter as much as getting your child the meds she needs) and my brother told her not a chance. and my dad was going on about "She had the NERVE to call him and tell him to pick it up"

I didn't really say anything although I should have but afterwards I was just so... MAD that they are behaving like this. regardless of how you feel about your ex it's still your child.

 

[jess2416]

I would NOT have went and got it...

 

[sparks19]

I would NOT have went and got it...

why?

not being critical seriously just asking because I don't udnerstand his motives at all lol.

 

[tessa_s212]

If my ex was closer to the pharmacy (I'm way out in the boonies, and I won't wait in a store for 30 minutes for them to fill a perscription when I have a sick kid that needs to be resting), I would ask. Or if I had to stay home with said child and didn't want to leave him/her home alone. I don't find that unreasonable at all.

I don't care if you are split, you are still BOTH the parents to that child, and that responsibility is shared ALWAYS, NOT just when you have him/her. Kid doesn't just disappear and not exist because your it might be your ex's weekend with the kid.

Even if the ex is a moron and HAS the ability to get it.. if they aren't willing,.. are you really going to let your sick kid suffer because of that? No, you get the dang prescription, no matter how irresponsible and lazy spouse is, so that your child is taken care of.

 

[jess2416]

why?

not being critical seriously just asking because I don't udnerstand his motives at all lol.

Well for one...

If they had the child, and were at the hospital, they ALREADY had the prescription, and could have went and dropped it off (there are pharmacies all around hospital areas)

It sounds like laziness to me (maybe its cause I dont have children, but if it were my child that I myself had taken to the hospital) I would have gotten it myself..

I understand the blah blah its his child too, but still... I dont see the point of calling someone to go get a prescription when you have it and can go get it yourself...

and well thats the way I see it

 

[sparks19]

Well for one...

If they had the child, and were at the hospital, they ALREADY had the prescription, and could have went and dropped it off (there are pharmacies all around hospital areas)

It sounds like laziness to me (maybe its cause I dont have children, but if it were my child that I myself had taken to the hospital) I would have gotten it myself..

I understand the blah blah its his child too, but still... I dont see the point of calling someone to go get a prescription when you have it and can go get it yourself...

and well thats the way I see it

They weren't at the hospital though. it was just a doctors appt with her pediatrician so there wasn't a pharmacy right in the building or anything you would have to drop it off wait about 30 minutes to get it.

The way it sounded was she may have dropped it off but they aren't ready for you right then and there you have to wait a while and with two sick children and a toddler... I'd think it would just be easier for the other parent who wasn't working at the time to pick it up

 

[jess2416]

They weren't at the hospital though. it was just a doctors appt with her pediatrician so there wasn't a pharmacy right in the building or anything you would have to drop it off wait about 30 minutes to get it.

The way it sounded was she may have dropped it off but they aren't ready for you right then and there you have to wait a while and with two sick children and a toddler... I'd think it would just be easier for the other parent who wasn't working at the time to pick it up

Oh Im sorry I read it wrong.. I thought you said at a hospital..

Still, that doesnt change anything for me, ESPECIALLY if she had already dropped it off, and was there...

also, she could have had the doctor call it in, so that it would have been READY by the time she got there..

I still wouldnt have went and got it!!!

(thats my non-kid having reasoning for you :rofl1

 

[Sweet72947]

also, she could have had the doctor call it in, so that it would have been READY by the time she got there..

I don't know how it is with other people's doctors offices, but if I have the doctor's office call in a prescription for me, vs. taking the prescription to the pharmacy myself, it actually takes LONGER for it to be filled! If I take it there myself, I can have it filled in thirty minutes to an hour. If I have the doctor's office send it over (they do it via fax or email), it will take at least 24 hours. Maybe that says something about the doctor's computer system though.

 

[sparks19]

yeah my doc has called in prescriptions for me and I've gotten to the pharmacy before the prescriptioin request even came in lol

 

[Snark]

Don't have kids but I'll chime in anyway - I'd go get the prescription (especially if I knew 2 of the kids were sick). Part of my reasoning would be they're my kids/responsibility too, and partly because if I were in her shoes with 2 sick kids and a toddler, I'd be totally stressed out and looking for help. Maybe she didn't ask in the nicest possible way, but put yourself in her shoes and ask what you would do? (I'd also use the opportunity to check on how sick the children were - but then, I'm a natural born worrywart...)

 

[xpaeanx]

This goes for either side of the argument, but if I was going to pick something to be petty over it would NOT be something like healthcare. So if I'm the person with the child I would prob get the Rx myself, and if I'm the person not with the child I would go get it just because I know my ex hasn't and I don't want my kid to be without anything important for any length of time.