Long story short, I have always had issues with my sister in law. She is a spoiled, over indulged brat who get away with anything and everything. I recently found out she was saying some pretty horrible things about me. Personal and ugly things like she camt believe Paul married me because I am such a fat and ugly bitch and made such an ugly bride. I sent her an email (there is no speaking to her because she just screams the throws things) outlining why I don't speak to her or want to see her. You see, she is SO syrupy sweet to me in person and then smack talks me behind my back. I told her I was not her friend and did not appreciate her talking about me, especially to my husband who feels stuck in the middle. Paul got a call from her freaking out about how childish I am and how disgusted she is in my letter. He asked her to reply and she has not. We both feel we are owed an apology from her. Me, for insulting me and Paul for her being so disrespectful towards his wife. Now its my MIL birthday on Saturday and the SIL is hosting her dinner. Paul and I are making a stand and have declined the invitation. (MIL asked us along, not SIL). We are having MIL and her husband here tonight so we can also celebrate with her. I am making her favourite meal that takes 2 days to cook and generally laying on a spread. Now to why I am disappointed. She calls Paul and tells him that SIL is happy to have just him at her house on Saturday but I am not invited. Please would he come. She got upset when he told her that its not how things work anymore!! She wanted him to leave his wife at home, thereby condoning his sisters behaviour, to come to a birthday dinner over and above the one she is getting from us. Sigh. When will she accept that I am his wife and not some plaything that means nothing to him!? Oh and kudos to Paul for finally standing up for me.