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Fran27 said:
You're stopping him from whining, but you are not fixing the cause of his whining, so if anything it will make it worse.

As a trainer, you should know that. And you should find him a home with people who won't mind his behavior.
Some dogs are just whiners. As long as they get exercise, food, and attention unless there's a problem there's not much else you can do.
 
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Wigglebutts said:
The thing I don't understand...is....what .....major...issue? He sounds delightful....typical doberman. All people are different..so are dogs. Accept him as he is or rehome him to someone who will love him for who he is.

I don't think he is a typical doberman. I wouldn't like mine acting like that.
 
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JennSLK said:
Sounds to me like he's bored. Take him to agility, flyball or tracking classes. Treat him like you love him If you dont love him re-home him.


What do you want in a dobe then? I mean dog that you cant have people over?! Dobes are suposed to be friendly untill there is a threat.
I want a dobe to be exactly like the last one I had. A good watchdog. Friendly around people if there's no threat. Smart. Afectionate. Able to walk without leash. Able to fetch a ball. When people come over he goes up and says hi and then leaves them alone. Why does it have to be mean because I don't agree with how you think it should be. Some people buy a breed that is a watchdog because they want a watchdog.
 

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Some dogs are just whiners. As long as they get exercise, food, and attention unless there's a problem there's not much else you can do.
I know, Boris is that way LOL.

Delighted, I didn't want to jump at your throat - I don't think anyone else did either. It's just that I don't think anyone should keep a dog they don't feel attached to - I'm sure you can find people who will love your dogs.
 

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I don't agree.

You don't have to agree. But the truth is that dobes CAN be friendly and STILL know when to protect you. In all honesty statistics show that just the size of a dog- or even a bark alone is often a deterent. You don't need a mean unfriendly dog.

But we are all entitled to our opinions. And that's just mine.

But personally, I wouldn't want a mean dog or one that barked a everyone all the time- even off my propery. It can be a lawsuit waiting to happen in this sue-happy world nowadays...

I've had some great friendly dogs, that still saved my life, or knew when to turn on the protective instinct.
 

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Some dogs are just whiners. As long as they get exercise, food, and attention unless there's a problem there's not much else you can do.

Actually there is. did you ever stop to consider there might be a health problem? Or another underlying cause that is making him act that way. There could be tons of reasons. It helps to look beyond the obvious.
 
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Actually there is. did you ever stop to consider there might be a health problem? Or another underlying cause that is making him act that way. There could be tons of reasons. It helps to look beyond the obvious.

Next time read what I wrote before you reply to it. I said unless there's a problem. So now you can stop and consider that. Or he might just be a high strung whiner. Or maybe you think they should get the dog a psychiatrist.
 

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Or maybe you think they should get the dog a psychiatrist.
You may have said this in jest, but actually "dog psychiatry," is a well-respected, and really quite useful field. The only difference is, that we call it "applied animal behaviorism." Far too few people truly know how to "speak dog." They treat their dogs as if they understand human social mores, and really forget that that their dogs are *animals.* People that fail to understand this fundamental difference also fail to communicate effectively with their dogs, and this, more than anything, leads to behavioral problems. Applied animal behaviorists can help people learn to "speak dog." It's a field I'm very interested in, and one I'm very seriously considering as a career goal.

Staying on topic, almost any dog that has a bond with its owner will become defensive of said person *should the need arise.* While most people are absolutely horrid at reading a canine's body language, dogs are quite astute at picking it up. They'll recognize when you're uncomfortable in a situation. You would hardly want a dog that does not understand the difference between a guest and an intruder, as so many have mentioned before. Such an animal is a liability, and a catastrophe just waiting to happen.

My dogs, normally happy-go-lucky, and quite excited to see visitors have changed demeanor on a *dime* when they found a situation odd or creepy. When a particularly aggressive salesmen came to my door, wouldn't take no for an answer, and became unacceptably rude, both my dogs responded by standing in between me and the doorway, and emitting low growls. These same dogs allow children to hug them, cart stuffed toys around my home, play hide and go seek, press tennis balls on anyone who enters the house, and ask every guest within reach for a back scratch.

I'd much rather have this kind of a Shiba than the snappy, unpredictable animals that were prevalent only years ago.
 

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Next time read what I wrote before you reply to it. I said unless there's a problem. So now you can stop and consider that. Or he might just be a high strung whiner. Or maybe you think they should get the dog a psychiatrist.

No. I just think you could try and be alot more pleasant. You've been tearing apart everyone's post. Back off a little eh?

Now how are you going to know you should do more if you don't check into it?! So again, YES there is more you can do, by checking into it.

And yes for your info, dog shrinks do exist.
 
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Honestly, Delighted, I think you need to take a step back and IGNORE the fact that he doesn't "act like a Doberman" and figure out whether or not you can love him for him and not the standard he is being compared to. Honestly, I don't understand why you would want a Doberman that dislikes strangers right from the get-go. Dobermans aren't Filas, the ones I know are very eager to make new friends but it doesn't mean they stop protecting.

I have the opposite problem that you do; my dog isn't friendly enough. I have a Papillon. Papillons are supposed to be friendly, happy, bombproof little cuddly lap dogs. They make great agility dogs and have decent drive and focus. This is what I liked about Papillons and is the reason I got one.

Well.. My dog is absolute demon spawn - he is sadistic, aggressive/unfriendly to most strangers, hyperactive beyond belief and more aloof than most sighthounds. He doesn't like training, he doesn't like socializing, he doesn't like cuddling or sleeping with me. He hates grooming, he doesn't even like most training despite my constant efforts to make it fun for him. He does like biting people, peeing on things, shrieking like a banshee and shredding every kleenex in the house. He yaps. He whines. He will run and hide in the most obscure places to avoid being given attention. He steals things and throws extremely noisy hissy-fits if someone interrupts his mischief-making.

I came very, very close to rehoming my rotten little dog on several occasions. But, in the end, what worked was just taking away the standard of the "typical Papillon" that I was holding him up to. He will never be a normal Papillon, he will never be the sweet little lap dog that I wanted. However, he's one heck of a neat little dog despite the fact that he's a demon in a Pap suit. He has one heck of a sense of humor, he is an agility marvel even though he has canine ADHD and will never be very good in competition. Even though he wasn't what I had originally hoped for, I love him and I am so glad I have him.

Perhaps you need to accept that your boy might not act the way all your other Dobies have acted. I think you'd both be happier if you could love your dog for what he is, instead of disliking him for what he isn't.

I still stand by my feeling that a seemingly friendly Doberman would step up and protect their owner if necessary. I would take advantage of his outgoing personality and spend more time socializing him and brushing up on his manners (which need some help if he is straining at the leash all the time and pestering complete strangers). Renee's suggestion of getting into therapy work is a great idea. Just do what he will be good at. Dobermans seem so much happier when they have a job to do.

Edit: As a side note... Even the friendliest dogs will protect if necessary. When my parents go out of town, my lovely, friendly Border Collie changes his demeanor completely. The alphas have left the house and I am left without protection, and I think he realizes that and assumes the role of guardian. When my parents are gone, he does not allow strangers to touch him. He doesn't allow strangers to touch me. He won't allow them in the house or even near the house without my consent. Yet, when my parents are home, he is a complete dork and will love on anybody. He knows that if I need protecting, they will do it. I know it's a bit of a long shot but perhaps your boy is extra goofy around strangers because he realizes your bitch will protect you?
Wow.... you have the patience of a saint.
 
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Honestly, Delighted, I think you need to take a step back and IGNORE the fact that he doesn't "act like a Doberman" and figure out whether or not you can love him for him and not the standard he is being compared to. Honestly, I don't understand why you would want a Doberman that dislikes strangers right from the get-go. Dobermans aren't Filas, the ones I know are very eager to make new friends but it doesn't mean they stop protecting.

I have the opposite problem that you do; my dog isn't friendly enough. I have a Papillon. Papillons are supposed to be friendly, happy, bombproof little cuddly lap dogs. They make great agility dogs and have decent drive and focus. This is what I liked about Papillons and is the reason I got one.

Well.. My dog is absolute demon spawn - he is sadistic, aggressive/unfriendly to most strangers, hyperactive beyond belief and more aloof than most sighthounds. He doesn't like training, he doesn't like socializing, he doesn't like cuddling or sleeping with me. He hates grooming, he doesn't even like most training despite my constant efforts to make it fun for him. He does like biting people, peeing on things, shrieking like a banshee and shredding every kleenex in the house. He yaps. He whines. He will run and hide in the most obscure places to avoid being given attention. He steals things and throws extremely noisy hissy-fits if someone interrupts his mischief-making.

I came very, very close to rehoming my rotten little dog on several occasions. But, in the end, what worked was just taking away the standard of the "typical Papillon" that I was holding him up to. He will never be a normal Papillon, he will never be the sweet little lap dog that I wanted. However, he's one heck of a neat little dog despite the fact that he's a demon in a Pap suit. He has one heck of a sense of humor, he is an agility marvel even though he has canine ADHD and will never be very good in competition. Even though he wasn't what I had originally hoped for, I love him and I am so glad I have him.

Perhaps you need to accept that your boy might not act the way all your other Dobies have acted. I think you'd both be happier if you could love your dog for what he is, instead of disliking him for what he isn't.

I still stand by my feeling that a seemingly friendly Doberman would step up and protect their owner if necessary. I would take advantage of his outgoing personality and spend more time socializing him and brushing up on his manners (which need some help if he is straining at the leash all the time and pestering complete strangers). Renee's suggestion of getting into therapy work is a great idea. Just do what he will be good at. Dobermans seem so much happier when they have a job to do.

Edit: As a side note... Even the friendliest dogs will protect if necessary. When my parents go out of town, my lovely, friendly Border Collie changes his demeanor completely. The alphas have left the house and I am left without protection, and I think he realizes that and assumes the role of guardian. When my parents are gone, he does not allow strangers to touch him. He doesn't allow strangers to touch me. He won't allow them in the house or even near the house without my consent. Yet, when my parents are home, he is a complete dork and will love on anybody. He knows that if I need protecting, they will do it. I know it's a bit of a long shot but perhaps your boy is extra goofy around strangers because he realizes your bitch will protect you?
Some dobes are not good watchdogs. If a burgler pet the dobe or threw a ball or had food I don't think this doberman would protect the house. He would want attention from the intruder. The dog wasn't aware when the female fought off the other dog. This is not a good watchdog. He might stand by and let a crime happen. I don't think he was letting the female be the protector. I feel he would of done the exact same thing if the female dobe wasn't there.

Some dogs just don't have it in them. You can't assume a dog will always protect just because it's a doberman. Matter of fact I had a doberman and one day I was out in the snow and I came in with cold hands and was wrestling with my wife putting my hands on her back and she was screaming because they were cold. This frustrated the dog for some reason and he got mad and started biting my wifes ancle. The dog helped me and I was the one holding her down. You might say But I'm not a stranger. My point is some dogs you can't count on them protecting you because of their breed. You can't say even the friendliest dog will protect you because it's not true.

I've seen dobermans at both ends of the spectrum. Some are the best watch dogs a person could want and others are worthless.
 
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moonchild1970 said:
No. I just think you could try and be alot more pleasant. You've been tearing apart everyone's post. Back off a little eh?

Now how are you going to know you should do more if you don't check into it?! So again, YES there is more you can do, by checking into it.

And yes for your info, dog shrinks do exist.
I could be more pleasant yes. But so could everyone else too. This person wanted help and understanding about a frustrating dog and everyone acted like she was a horrible dog owner that shouldn't have dogs. People said it was her who had the problem and not the dog. Well I agree with her. I've seen and had dogs like this and hope not to get one again. I think now that she has the dog she should make the best of it and not expect too much from it. But if the right person came along and really really wanted the dog. I could see giving it away. I wouldn't give it away but that's me.
 

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Borgorn, you can't count on ANY dog to protect you "for sure". Unless a dog has undergone personal protection training I would not feel completely confident that my dog would handle threats. However, friendly dogs will protect as well. Dogs have excellent intuition and I have never had a dog that would NOT behave defensively in a strange situation. Even our huge lazy Labrador stepped up and protected the house from a very pushy salesman who wouldn't leave our porch. This was a dog who didn't know a stranger, who had previously greeted this man with a wagging tail and accepted a treat from him. However, because he was so closely bonded and tuned in to my mother, he realized that she was no longer comfortable around this man and his calm and friendly demeanor did a complete 180.

I'm not saying that this dobe would be defensive in a variety of situations, and I agree that it will not be as quick to react as the OP's aggressive bitch. I'm just saying that I believe most dogs can recognize a threat and will react defensively to it. However, a lot has to do with the relationship a dog has with his owner. A dog will not protect someone that he doesn't trust. A dog won't protect someone that dislikes him. Most dogs can see right through the forced "affection". A close bond requires effort from both the dog and the human. If delighted really cannot make him/herself like and respect this dog, the relationship will go nowhere.
 

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Exactly. Also some dogs that may not feel compelled to protect your/their home, on the other hand may very well protect you. It all depends on the dog, the treatement it receives and, and your shared bond.
 
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Borgorn, you can't count on ANY dog to protect you "for sure". Unless a dog has undergone personal protection training I would not feel completely confident that my dog would handle threats. However, friendly dogs will protect as well. Dogs have excellent intuition and I have never had a dog that would NOT behave defensively in a strange situation. Even our huge lazy Labrador stepped up and protected the house from a very pushy salesman who wouldn't leave our porch. This was a dog who didn't know a stranger, who had previously greeted this man with a wagging tail and accepted a treat from him. However, because he was so closely bonded and tuned in to my mother, he realized that she was no longer comfortable around this man and his calm and friendly demeanor did a complete 180.

I'm not saying that this dobe would be defensive in a variety of situations, and I agree that it will not be as quick to react as the OP's aggressive bitch. I'm just saying that I believe most dogs can recognize a threat and will react defensively to it. However, a lot has to do with the relationship a dog has with his owner. A dog will not protect someone that he doesn't trust. A dog won't protect someone that dislikes him. Most dogs can see right through the forced "affection". A close bond requires effort from both the dog and the human. If delighted really cannot make him/herself like and respect this dog, the relationship will go nowhere.
No you can't count on any dog to protect you. The point we were argueing about was if the person that Posted this topic is wrong or a bad owner to feel how she does about her dog.
You say "however friendly dogs will protect as well." You should say "some" friendly dogs. Because some will not. Some won't be smart enough to know what's going on. Others will.
As for your dogs. Your lucky then. You have not gotten a dog that's unprotective or unaware. If you would have you would understand.
Some dogs have excellent intuition and some have almost none. And if you get a dog with very little. It is a let down. It can be a good friendly dog. But it won't have the good points of an intuitive dog. You still should love them the same.
 
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moonchild1970 said:
Exactly. Also some dogs that may not feel compelled to protect your/their home, on the other hand may very well protect you. It all depends on the dog, the treatement it receives and, and your shared bond.
Now your making my point for me. It also depends on the dogs intuition and fortitude.
 

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