Being the hopeless romantic that I am. It was SOOO hard for me to wrap my head around one night stands, I thought that for sure there had to be something off with girls that did this kind of stuff, some kind of confidence issue.
and then I got close to one of my friends from college. she is a confident, real, sweet, smart girl.. but she and I have totally different definitions of what sex is lol
to me, sex is like this "making love" nicholas sparks novel, a night in paris, totally romantic intimate thing that you do with someone you love
to her, sex is just..sex. its two people, put this into this and voila. She is safe, and honest with herself, and just happens to think of sex as something fun to do. thats all. she doesn't sleep around a lot, but she has had one night stands and they dont bother her at all.
We are both happy, healthy individuals totally content with our lives so.. why does one of us have to be wrong? lol
She respects the way I think of sex, and I respect hers..and I think thats how it should be.. I mean, who am I to say that someone who has one night stands MUST have confidence problems or some kind of issue? or that my way is right and hers is wrong.
One night stands, and a bunch of other things aren't my thing.. but I try to remain open minded. Just being it isn't right for ME doesn't make it WRONG. lol took me a while to wrap my head around that