Okay, I just can't keep quite about it anymore!! I haven't posted about whats been happening with Carly because of this huge nightmare, and I was a little afraid of what some would think of me
So, here I go:
A little history for those who are new and don't know, or for the ones who simply don't remember.
Carly was a a very young puppy (pure shih tzu) that I was given to foster. I was told that she was from a byb and the mother died so the owner gave the pups up. I raised Carly from a pup, and she had problems despite my efforts. Anxieties, random aggression, displacement aggression, ect. I had a hard time with doing the things I typically do with my dogs. Hiking, camping, ect. Then when I got Missy Carly would attack her... so instead of claiming her as my 'failed foster' I let her go to a home that had dog sat her several times. The rescue took over and did the paper work.
Several weeks or so after that there was a dilemma with her being spayed or not. There was a thread here, and I'd rather not bring it up again. I still feel partially to blame because she was living with me; she had silent heats and was apparently never spayed or "sterilized" as her paperwork said.
Words were exchanged between a rescue worker and myself, and I basically "quit." We avoid eachother... really...
But she had an appt to be spayed and I thought the whole ugly thing was over
fast forward -
here's pics - the day before she gave birth
6 hours old
So, then we played phone tag and e-mail tag while I tried repeatedly to go see them. The new owner was busy and avoidant at first. Finally I got to visit and see Carly and the puppies myself. I offered to help with the weaning and adoption process and all that. Here's some pics from that meeting:
The pups dad
the puppies right after they opened their eyes
one girl and one boys ears may stand up like their dads. Two of them seems to have hair that longer than the rest... They're really cute... but you can find a million puppies just as cute at any shelter..
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So, then, today she calls me. But I guess I should catch you guys up from then until now. . .
3 out of the 4 puppies have been re homed. The first puppy was taken by a friend at 5wks old She was supposed to be out and about for socialization and to show her parents for "approval" but the owner called me when the puppy was not returned the next day. I explained to her the importance of the pups staying with the Mom, and the puppy needed to be returned...! Long story short I was the one that had to call the girl, go get the puppy, and return her to Carly myself. But the puppy just went home with them yesterday... perminatly...
The other two owners were "strangers"... she let me go ahead with the whole spay or neuter thing, and they have my number and e-mail address if they need any help or can't keep either of them...
The last puppy is still at the house with Carly... She has everything in line for that final adoption, so I was really surprised when I got yet another phone call from her. She presented to me the story of they wanted to keep the puppy, but with the baby they had too many dogs and blah blah blah.
I seriously thought that they were going to ask me to come get the puppy! But then, to my surprise (not good surprise btw), I slowly realized what she was beating around the bush about, but once I did I continued to just listen to her beat around the bush and stammer around. I know its mean, I felt a little bad even because in a way the new owner was screwed over as well (but I still can't really forgive her for not spaying Carly early in the pregnancy), but I did it anyway. She struggled with the words and was very uncomfortable when she finally said "Dana, I just don't know if I want Carly anymore. I think she's about to go into heat again, and the surgery, or another litter is just too much. I can't keep her or Buddy confined because they scream to get out. . ." and the new baby has been keeping her up, and her boyfriend hasn't been paying child support, blah blah blah . . .
So I told her I would take her back if she was serious, and I would give her and myself time to think about it [and for me to prepare]. I then reminded and explained the whole thing to my parents, and asked them permission to bring another dog into the house (because my Dad still wants Charlie to be re homed, but has stopped harassing me about it daily) and to my surprise they said Yes! My mom is excited even! So... we'll see... I don't expect anything to come out of this, and I'm afraid to get my hopes up because I want Carly back really bad right now... Everything has been so twisted and nothing turns out the way I think it is, so I'm very nervous!
I'm trying hard to remember why I didn't keep her in the first place... I feel so stupid right now... and I'll praise the heavens if I'm 'given another chance' with her!!!
I'm afraid to get my hopes up, but I can't deny wanting to get her back really bad. . .
just had to share. Sorry so long!
So, here I go:
A little history for those who are new and don't know, or for the ones who simply don't remember.
Carly was a a very young puppy (pure shih tzu) that I was given to foster. I was told that she was from a byb and the mother died so the owner gave the pups up. I raised Carly from a pup, and she had problems despite my efforts. Anxieties, random aggression, displacement aggression, ect. I had a hard time with doing the things I typically do with my dogs. Hiking, camping, ect. Then when I got Missy Carly would attack her... so instead of claiming her as my 'failed foster' I let her go to a home that had dog sat her several times. The rescue took over and did the paper work.
Several weeks or so after that there was a dilemma with her being spayed or not. There was a thread here, and I'd rather not bring it up again. I still feel partially to blame because she was living with me; she had silent heats and was apparently never spayed or "sterilized" as her paperwork said.
Words were exchanged between a rescue worker and myself, and I basically "quit." We avoid eachother... really...
But she had an appt to be spayed and I thought the whole ugly thing was over
fast forward -
9.16.06
It's been months since I've heard from Carly's owner. I've called several times and e-mailed her to see how she's doing, but haven't heard anything. Yesterday I got an e-mail from her... and was horrified when I read it!!
She explained to me that the guy from the rescue told her not to keep in contact with me over the following months... Because Carly WAS actually pregnant, and they didn't want me to know!! So, the rescue failed to talk her into terminating the pregnancy (something that I'm certain I could've done). She didn't want to abort the puppies because she herself was (surprise) pregnant. So low and behold she went through the whole pregnancy and now has 4 puppies
I can't even freaking believe this!!! This is almost too much for me to handle. It makes me so frickin mad!!! How much more against the whole point of fostering the BYB pup can you get ??
I'm hating myself right now... I feel like I "let" this happen
It's been months since I've heard from Carly's owner. I've called several times and e-mailed her to see how she's doing, but haven't heard anything. Yesterday I got an e-mail from her... and was horrified when I read it!!
She explained to me that the guy from the rescue told her not to keep in contact with me over the following months... Because Carly WAS actually pregnant, and they didn't want me to know!! So, the rescue failed to talk her into terminating the pregnancy (something that I'm certain I could've done). She didn't want to abort the puppies because she herself was (surprise) pregnant. So low and behold she went through the whole pregnancy and now has 4 puppies
I can't even freaking believe this!!! This is almost too much for me to handle. It makes me so frickin mad!!! How much more against the whole point of fostering the BYB pup can you get ??
I'm hating myself right now... I feel like I "let" this happen
6 hours old
So, then we played phone tag and e-mail tag while I tried repeatedly to go see them. The new owner was busy and avoidant at first. Finally I got to visit and see Carly and the puppies myself. I offered to help with the weaning and adoption process and all that. Here's some pics from that meeting:
The pups dad
the puppies right after they opened their eyes
one girl and one boys ears may stand up like their dads. Two of them seems to have hair that longer than the rest... They're really cute... but you can find a million puppies just as cute at any shelter..
---
So, then, today she calls me. But I guess I should catch you guys up from then until now. . .
3 out of the 4 puppies have been re homed. The first puppy was taken by a friend at 5wks old She was supposed to be out and about for socialization and to show her parents for "approval" but the owner called me when the puppy was not returned the next day. I explained to her the importance of the pups staying with the Mom, and the puppy needed to be returned...! Long story short I was the one that had to call the girl, go get the puppy, and return her to Carly myself. But the puppy just went home with them yesterday... perminatly...
The other two owners were "strangers"... she let me go ahead with the whole spay or neuter thing, and they have my number and e-mail address if they need any help or can't keep either of them...
The last puppy is still at the house with Carly... She has everything in line for that final adoption, so I was really surprised when I got yet another phone call from her. She presented to me the story of they wanted to keep the puppy, but with the baby they had too many dogs and blah blah blah.
I seriously thought that they were going to ask me to come get the puppy! But then, to my surprise (not good surprise btw), I slowly realized what she was beating around the bush about, but once I did I continued to just listen to her beat around the bush and stammer around. I know its mean, I felt a little bad even because in a way the new owner was screwed over as well (but I still can't really forgive her for not spaying Carly early in the pregnancy), but I did it anyway. She struggled with the words and was very uncomfortable when she finally said "Dana, I just don't know if I want Carly anymore. I think she's about to go into heat again, and the surgery, or another litter is just too much. I can't keep her or Buddy confined because they scream to get out. . ." and the new baby has been keeping her up, and her boyfriend hasn't been paying child support, blah blah blah . . .
So I told her I would take her back if she was serious, and I would give her and myself time to think about it [and for me to prepare]. I then reminded and explained the whole thing to my parents, and asked them permission to bring another dog into the house (because my Dad still wants Charlie to be re homed, but has stopped harassing me about it daily) and to my surprise they said Yes! My mom is excited even! So... we'll see... I don't expect anything to come out of this, and I'm afraid to get my hopes up because I want Carly back really bad right now... Everything has been so twisted and nothing turns out the way I think it is, so I'm very nervous!
I'm trying hard to remember why I didn't keep her in the first place... I feel so stupid right now... and I'll praise the heavens if I'm 'given another chance' with her!!!
I'm afraid to get my hopes up, but I can't deny wanting to get her back really bad. . .
just had to share. Sorry so long!