I was kind of hoping I could try to work this out myself.....with major help. In our rural area......I'm lucky there's a post office, let along an animal behavoralist. I had to travel many miles to find a decent vet (well, he seems decent so far) I keep wondering why we never had these 'issues' before...especially with Ham neutered (cause I was afraid there might be dominance problems prior..back then he was starting to challenge her) OR...is it now because he is so easily controlled....she has become so controlling? It's as if one minute she understands I'm boss.......then the next, she is the one 'barking' lol out orders. I can't imagine how I can be sending such mixed messages??? About the petting and attention, should I not be always available when she wants petted? Maybe sometimes ignore her....she seems to be more demanding of attention lately, too. I sound so silly......but that's my problem, I love to give them all the attention they want....but I'm doing something wrong. Yes, I've been consumed with overthinking this...just ask Dave.