OK so . . .

[youhavenoidea]

You all know I brok up with my bf. No big deal, s*** happens. It sucks, and it's always kind of sad, but you deal with it.

This is all fine. We figured out what's going on with the house and most of our stuff (yes, GO, zee Ninja comes with me); just a matter of the logistics of finalizing the legalities of it, and of me packing. I have nowhere to live at the moment, but hopefully by the time all's said and done, I'll have that part figured out. At the moment, I sleep in the master bedroom, as "our" bed is MY bed, and he sleeps in his kid's room.

However, I'm still spending as little time as possible here, and am spending weekends especially back home at my parents' house.

Here's my dilemma / worry:

I know full well that he sleeps in my bed when I'm not here. Do I love the idea? Hardly, but my bed's way more comfortable, so I kind of expect it. Now where I have the HUGE problem, is even the THOUGHT of him having someone else in MY bed. To sleep or *shudders* otherwise.

I don't know whether that's even a possibility, as far as him dealing with someone else already, and at this point it's really none of my business (the obvious suckiness of it aside, if it is the case), however there were pictures of him seeming pretty friendly with a girl he apparently "loathes" floating aorund within days of my breaking up with him.

Anyway . . . I'm almost afraid to leave and seek my escape, worrying what might go on. Do you guys think I'm nuts? It's not even about a jealousy or possessiveness thing. I don't care, in that respect. It's about a respect thing, and to know someone I didn't ask into it was in MY bed, would make me homicidal. But to NOT know for sure??? Ugh. *headdesk*

Any suggestions to ensure this DOESN'T happen?

 

[puppydog]

Ask him to move all his clothes out of that room and lock the door when you are gone.

 

[skittledoo]

agreed... I had a similar issue with Brendan when he and I broke up the first time. I ended up sleeping in the master bedroom and he ended up on the couch. Still, there were nights where I wasn't home and I knew he was interested in a girl so that really threw me for a loop. I can't tell you how relieved I was when I finally moved out.

 

[Renee750il]

Yup. Move his stuff into his kid's room or into another closet and put a lock on the door.

OR . . . YOU bring someone home . . . . all he has to do is THINK you did the deed in your own bed. He probably won't ever even sleep in it again :rofl1:

He needs to buy his own bed to sleep in. Or whatever.

 

[Gustav]

You could always be petty (me likes petty.. mwhahahaha) and strip the bed before you leave, take the pillows, duvet, all coverings with you, and just leave him with the bear mattress.. If he wants to sleep out in the open all cold then it's his choice, but I doubt somehow that a lady friend would want to!

Talk about passion chiller..