OH MY GOSH!!! Please everyone I need Opinions!!

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Ok I had posted a thread about my boyfriend going to the air force. Well He left Wed. and I received my first call today!!! Anyway he PROPOSED to me over the phone!!! we Had less than 5 mins and He asked me to marry him!!! I'm 18...I turn 19 on Nov. 28!!! I told him yes so his head can be ok while he's in training...was I wrong? I do love him to death:p and hopefully we can get married....BUT IM JUST SO SHOCKED:yikes:
 
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I think you did the right thing too.....

I also agree with, BP
 
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lol yeah. I just wanted to kno if it was the right thing to do...just to say yes..Lizmo: im glad u agree
everyone else: im glad u replied lol
 
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I'm torn . You are both so young. I hope he didn't say this to keep you from dating while he's gone . True love will last on both sides with or without commitments. He may change and you may change while he's gone ( how long will he be gone ??) Please don't do anything until he's safely home for good and you both get to re-know each other . I was in love at 17 with a 20 yr .old . I was off to college and he wanted me to have fun and date .... little did we both know that I'd meet Tom ! He was such a wonderful guy and was my first boy friend . Just don't play games with him !!
 
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Follow your heart. You are the only one with the answer. Some make it. Some don't. Age is just a number. Is this what you want to do?
 
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btw this is just a proposal. Some people are engaged for years. No need to rush if you aren't certain.
 
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bubbatd said:
I'm torn . You are both so young. I hope he didn't say this to keep you from dating while he's gone . True love will last on both sides with or without commitments. He may change and you may change while he's gone ( how long will he be gone ??) Please don't do anything until he's safely home for good and you both get to re-know each other . I was in love at 17 with a 20 yr .old . I was off to college and he wanted me to have fun and date .... little did we both know that I'd meet Tom ! He was such a wonderful guy and was my first boy friend . Just don't play games with him !!
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He's going to be gone until June 6. I go see him in April for 4 days then he's off the technical training and we will be able to talk through phone. I felt that I should wait until he returned, I feel as if I may be too young and as if he may change while he's gone. In a way I feel as if he asked me to make sure I wouldn't leave him. I mean he's always claimed he wanted to marry me, but we've only been going out for 2 1/2 years. I've known him forever (since birth) so we grew up together, as did our parents...but I still feel as if he just may be using that for his own reassurance. I only told him yes because I don't want him to mess up in basic training. Honestly I don't know if I'm ready, I still feel like a child!!
 
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Thank you everyone who replied. I will try to follow my heart. My mom was shocked and thought it was sweet and his mom was shocked and thought it was sweet but they also feel we're young.
 
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Some people decide to wait to get engaged until after they graduate from college or wherever. That might buy you some time. Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart when you see him though.
 
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pupmiki: Yes I love him truely, he's the best thing that's ever happened to me. Such a great guy, truely a bresh of fresh air!!

bubbatd: I think you're right!!!

THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH! I really needed to talk!
 
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I dont get the whole marriage thing, but then again you will know that what you want right now, will be the same thing you want 40 years from now. I dont know what I want tomorrow. When I see the girl that I would have married at your age now that she has 23 years of getting meaner and uglier behind her, Im glad I didnt.
 
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If you wasn't sure then you shouldn't have said yes...but thats just me....it's your decision and only you can make it...
 
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I honestly would make it a very long engagement and put a lot of thought and effort and honest looking at the situation before setting any sort of date. What do you want to do with your life, and how would those plans change being married to an Air Force guy?

Basic can do crazy things to a persons' head...my brother went to basic in part to get away from his ex-girlfriend...came back out and married her....they divorced 9 months later. They had dated on and off for a long time too. Please just don't rush this!
 
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