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This month has been terrible. Hopefully, things will improve. My estranged husband's lawyer sent my lawyer a letter stating he was returning to the matrimonial property to collect his belongings which I had stored in the basement and workshop attached to the back of the house. The husband has been working out of province since May 1, and when he left I moved back into the matrimonial property because he stopped payment on the spousal support and stopped payment on the mortgage of the rental property I was living in next door which is up for sale - real estate market is terrible right now and nothing is selling.
Both our lawyers were aware I was in the matrimonial property and his lawyer wanted both lawyers to be present when the husband showed up to 'avoid any unpleasantness'. I had advised the husband by email in May that I had moved in and stored his belongings.
He showed up unexpected the day before he was scheduled and demanded to be let in. I told him no and that he was to come back the next day. He got a machete and broke into the workshop and then broke the window of the back door and came in looking through cupboards, drawers and closets. He was in such a rush to get into the house - I think he believed I had his belongings in the living area. I called the police, who arrived and advised he had the right to break into his own home.
The police came back into the house with him so he could once again look for anything that might be his - he found nothing. The police left. He spent that evening and the next day taking most of his stuff and then left all the glass and broken windows for me to clean up.
He has a girlfriend in the province he was working in, so I'm hoping he's gone back there.
Then last week he had the water turned off, and because I've got a complaint against the Administrator of our Improvement District, she refused to turn the water back on when I said I would come in and pay the $60. reconnection fee, even though I'm on title and my name appears on all documents, including the water bill in both our names. The husband's email to her requested she turn the water off and that I be responsible. Nothing in his email said not to turn the water back on.
I was without water over 48 hours and it took a letter from my lawyer to get it turned back on.
Then he stopped payment on the matrimonial home. Luckily, I went to the bank and paid what was due as it is an amount I can afford. At least I know I have somewhere to live for the next while.
The husband seems determined to have me homeless. When we agreed I would move into the rental property last November and list it for sale, he stopped payment on the mortgage at that time.
He owes me over 12 months spousal support and has only paid for 4 months since May of 2009. He believes I don't deserve anything after 22 years and it appears the only way I'm going to get any money is by taking him to court which is very costly. So far, I've paid a total of $10,400. in legal fees by juggling money and going into debt.
Never thought at 60 I'd be in this position. Feeling much better now and ready to fight on as I can't just walk away with nothing.
My lawyer has advised his that we're going to court if I don't get some money next week and he's going to get a restraining order and exclusive possession of the matrimonial home for me. Also made him an offer to settle property matters and willing to take a lump sum so he won't have to make monthly payments. Just want this fool out of my life.
One bright spot is that my lawyer offered me a part time job once he's no longer my lawyer. Made me feel better about myself and I told him I'm definitely interested.
Sorry for the verbal diarrhea. Had to get it off my chest now that I finally feel better.
Both our lawyers were aware I was in the matrimonial property and his lawyer wanted both lawyers to be present when the husband showed up to 'avoid any unpleasantness'. I had advised the husband by email in May that I had moved in and stored his belongings.
He showed up unexpected the day before he was scheduled and demanded to be let in. I told him no and that he was to come back the next day. He got a machete and broke into the workshop and then broke the window of the back door and came in looking through cupboards, drawers and closets. He was in such a rush to get into the house - I think he believed I had his belongings in the living area. I called the police, who arrived and advised he had the right to break into his own home.
The police came back into the house with him so he could once again look for anything that might be his - he found nothing. The police left. He spent that evening and the next day taking most of his stuff and then left all the glass and broken windows for me to clean up.
He has a girlfriend in the province he was working in, so I'm hoping he's gone back there.
Then last week he had the water turned off, and because I've got a complaint against the Administrator of our Improvement District, she refused to turn the water back on when I said I would come in and pay the $60. reconnection fee, even though I'm on title and my name appears on all documents, including the water bill in both our names. The husband's email to her requested she turn the water off and that I be responsible. Nothing in his email said not to turn the water back on.
I was without water over 48 hours and it took a letter from my lawyer to get it turned back on.
Then he stopped payment on the matrimonial home. Luckily, I went to the bank and paid what was due as it is an amount I can afford. At least I know I have somewhere to live for the next while.
The husband seems determined to have me homeless. When we agreed I would move into the rental property last November and list it for sale, he stopped payment on the mortgage at that time.
He owes me over 12 months spousal support and has only paid for 4 months since May of 2009. He believes I don't deserve anything after 22 years and it appears the only way I'm going to get any money is by taking him to court which is very costly. So far, I've paid a total of $10,400. in legal fees by juggling money and going into debt.
Never thought at 60 I'd be in this position. Feeling much better now and ready to fight on as I can't just walk away with nothing.
My lawyer has advised his that we're going to court if I don't get some money next week and he's going to get a restraining order and exclusive possession of the matrimonial home for me. Also made him an offer to settle property matters and willing to take a lump sum so he won't have to make monthly payments. Just want this fool out of my life.
One bright spot is that my lawyer offered me a part time job once he's no longer my lawyer. Made me feel better about myself and I told him I'm definitely interested.
Sorry for the verbal diarrhea. Had to get it off my chest now that I finally feel better.