new home for my dogs?

[a.baker]

You guys I am having a hard time pulling through. Every day there is something.

One of the things is my dogs. I feel I need to find them new homes. My hubby argues with me but Bender is close to 8 mths. old and still doesn't have his license. Sophie is due for her next round of vaccines for rabies and what not than would need another new license herself. I was supposed to get them their heart worm pills on the 5th and I can't even get those those are only $6 or $7 a piece. Plus since I have been working their anxiety is up the wall. They tore my couch cushion to bits yesterday and the other today. So now I have one cushion on my couch. I walk to work so when I work I can't find it in my feet to take them for a walk. We live on a busy road and have no fence. They get tangled up like crazy with their rope and cable, so its very hard to get them their exercise. I have no kennel for either of them. I did find two used on Craigslist for half the price of a new one but I can't get that either right now.

Why does my hubby argue with me on this.

This is just another single thing with all kinds attached to it. Everything is tumbling down it feels and I am having a hard time. Just need some friends to talk to I suppose.

 

[darkchild16]

all I have to offer is ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) and a ear is u need it.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

I think there will be hard decisions for many people--and pets will be affected. Sounds like things are difficult. Does your husband help in the care for the dogs? Perhaps he could walk them? In the end, if you cannot provide for them it may be kindest to them to find a home that can.
I know it would be hard for me to do that, but also feel that if I can not give them what they need, then it is up to me to find a better situation.
I'm sorry--wish I could say differently. Good luck to you.

 

[Gempress]

(((((HUGS))))))

This reminds of something a very wise person told me about owning dogs: "In the end, it's all about you. Are you happy?"

We do our best to take care of our dogs, make them happy, and give them the best of care. But we do it not just because it's good for the dog, but because it makes us--the humans---feel good and enriches our lives.

If you can no longer care for your dogs properly, and they are becoming a burden rather than a joy, then perhaps it is time for you to rehome them. Dogs are very sensitive creatures. They can sense when you're unhappy, when you're angry, and when they're not wanted. And they get no happiness from knowing that.

But it is about you, and what is best for your family---dogs included. If you feel that it's time for them to go on to another home, then do that. Nobody has the right to question your decision.

It sounds as if you're taking all the burden of responsibility for the dogs, and your husband is only doing the "fun" stuff. I would seriously talk to your husband. If he wants to keep the dogs, he needs to take some of that burden of care from you. Let him walk the dogs, untangle them, feed them. I think it's only fair for him to take an equal part in their care.

 

[a.baker]

(((((HUGS))))))

This reminds of something a very wise person told me about owning dogs: "In the end, it's all about you. Are you happy?"

We do our best to take care of our dogs, make them happy, and give them the best of care. But we do it not just because it's good for the dog, but because it makes us--the humans---feel good and enriches our lives.

If you can no longer care for your dogs properly, and they are becoming a burden rather than a joy, then perhaps it is time for you to rehome them. Dogs are very sensitive creatures. They can sense when you're unhappy, when you're angry, and when they're not wanted. And they get no happiness from knowing that.

But it is about you, and what is best for your family---dogs included. If you feel that it's time for them to go on to another home, then do that. Nobody has the right to question your decision.

It sounds as if you're taking all the burden of responsibility for the dogs, and your husband is only doing the "fun" stuff. I would seriously talk to your husband. If he wants to keep the dogs, he needs to take some of that burden of care from you. Let him walk the dogs, untangle them, feed them. I think it's only fair for him to take an equal part in their care.

I agree he could help out a lot more with the dogs!!! I got him to take some action with it but its hard to get him to help out sometimes because he is gone so much! I don't want them to go at all and neither does he. But I feel really crappy letting stuff slide by like heart worm pills. I would feel horrible if something happened to them because I couldn't provide.

After this I am taking them for a short walk. I can't get them much exercise but at least they can be outside for a little while. They are inside dogs.

But a few years ago I had a dog and we had to move into my in laws house... no choice. They didn't have a dog but they said we could bring ours no problem. Well they were not dog people especially my FIL. Long story short I had to find them a home and my FIL pushed an unrealistic time limit because it was "his house". I wanted no money just a good home and thought I found one.

Well the home he went to and the people I thought were good were no good at all and it broke my heart and there was nothing I could about it. That dog always ran away (5 miles) back to where I lived almost every day!!! My FIL was kind of a big jerk ( lets just say if he hunted and Charlie came back and we weren't around... yeah jerk) and wouldn't let me keep him to find a different home for him and the new owners always went to the shelter or what not to look for him if he was gone and he hadn't been to my house yet. They also knew Charlie always came running to our house.

He was in bad condition and they wouldn't do for him properly by any means. I am scared to rehome either of my dogs. They both have specific personalities and need specific training for it to be effective. I don't want someone who seems nice to take my dog and leave them outside in the cold MI. winters neglected or to ever approach either of them with aggression and so on.

Here are some things that still haunt me with rehoming because of Charlies bad experience. The girl wouldn't put a colar on him, she said that was mean. What?! O.k. so you have a loose dog with no identification. They did nothing to keep Charlie restrained in the yard and he paid no attention to cars (well guess how he died). The guy didn't seem nice at all and seemed to want to show Charlie "who was boss"(angry face again). He had fleas and ears mites so bad so very bad. You could see thousands of fleas on him and his mites were so bad, he scratched the top of his head behind his ears and had opened wounds and scratching made blood splatters. They wouldn't cut his nails. I had him trained so well when it came to cut his nails it didn't even seem to phase him.

This is a nightmare!!!! I can't rehome my dogs.


I'm so angry...I still am, we have a house now under land contract and I rescued both of my current dogs and I made a promise to the both of them.

I clean their ears, clean up all poop outside. They get monthly baths and nails trimmed. They have no flea treatment but they have not a single flea. They both get trained with positive reinforcement and treats. I just feel really crappy they need more I can't give.

And to add to this how would my 5 year old daughter feel? I have no idea.

 

[Saje]

(((hugs))) We`ve been in a similar position for what seems like forever. It`s so stressful sometimes. I think the bottomline to do what is right for you and your family. All of your family. And don`t let anyone make you feel guilty for anything (((hugs)))

 

[xpaeanx]

(((((((HUGS)))))))))))

I'm so sorry!

 

[a.baker]

Thank you so much! They would be better off with us in a heartbeat than those people in the past that I thought could trust and thought were good people.

 

[sparks19]

what kind of dogs do you have and how many? I forgot

 

[a.baker]

what kind of dogs do you have and how many? I forgot

I have 2. A German Shorthair pointer mix and a Basset Hound mix. Sophie is from the Humane Society and Bender was rescued from a farm similar to the one Charlie was at and thats the only reason why we got Bender. We were going originally to just look. Bender was in no good condition mentally or physically when we got him. Bender was anorexic and sick and abused by other dogs or people Our vet got him on the road to good health quickly! Bender has no problems from the way he was first raised in those first weeks but he is jumpy when other dogs bark big time. He likes other dogs just not when they bark (so you can imagine the vet trips) and when he met Sophie he was terrified, so I think Bender was abused by a bigger dog that maybe didn't let him eat. I think the owners fed the dogs out of one bowl, Bender was the only one left.

Bender also had a couple of small cuts and the people had 2 kids that were boys and were pretty rough and mean I thought (maybe 3 and 5 year olds)

 

[noludoru]

Baker.. (((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))


I really don't know what to say. I have no idea hat I would do in your position.

 

[a.baker]

I know because I only work PT and thats the only time absolutely no one is home. We have a room in our basement my hubby is working on putting up a door we had laying around in our barn so we can keep them in there when we leave because we have no dog crates. But I have never had a dog where I didn't go one month without a heart worm pill. I am sure give a couple of weeks and I will have the money to get them because they are cheap. Sophie is due in November for her shots so I have a little time with that. I just came home today and saw the second couch cushion and thought this is a sign from my dogs to me thats no good at all. I wish hubby would hurry up and get that door up. It just needs some tweaking here and there.

 

[a.baker]

Oh yeah they are sleeping now from playing soccer with the basketball

 

[wcladymacbeth]

I think you should keep them. These hardships may very well be temporary, and things could start looking up, and then I think you would regret rehoming your dogs to places that would possibly not be as loving as your home. What kind of heartworm med do you give your dogs? I have a year supply of Interceptor. I could mail you a couple.

Hang in there.

 

[a.baker]

I think you should keep them. These hardships may very well be temporary, and things could start looking up, and then I think you would regret rehoming your dogs to places that would possibly not be as loving as your home. What kind of heartworm med do you give your dogs? I have a year supply of Interceptor. I could mail you a couple.

Hang in there.

Thats the kind I use! I could pay you back. Sophie I believe is 44lbs. and Bender is 55 lbs. I think they run $6 or $7 a pill.

 

[Laurelin]

Just ((Hugs)). I know you'll do what's best for your family and your doggies.