Moving.. OUT

[azcowgirl]

Well im moving out of my moms house. my boyfriend and i got us a place 4 hours away, in albuquerque. he tells me he doesnt want me to work when we move down there.. i told him ok but ill start working 2 months after we move there because i cant handle being at home all the time lol well i dont know.. im kind of nervous.. moving out with a guy.. for the first time.. 4 hours away.. from family.. ( sept maybe an uncle or 2 ) i havent spent to much time with my mom... shes always gone.. she doesnt really talk to me.. shes always with her boyfriend really ( the alcoholic ) well anyways.. why am i having a hard time leaving.. from moms house? anyone else feel the same way?
im having a hard time leaving her.. but yet im kinda excited because ill be on my own.. living my life and i dont have to deal with drama here..

 

[BigDog2191]

I did at first... and I just recently moved out. It's honestly, for me at least, pretty liberating.

I'm loving it - and my relationship with my dad improved DRASTICALLY. It was amazing.

 

[Babyblue5290]

Is there a reason he doesn't want you working? That sounds a bit odd to me.

But I think most people have trouble leaving something they are familiar with into a completely unknown surrounding! I sure did, though I was also pretty eager to get out of my house But it's scary!

Don't worry though, I'm sure you'll get use to it and find it very liberating!! Good luck!

 

[Kase]

Good luck!!

 

[milos_mommy]

it's totally normal to feel that way...i think a couple chazzers have moved away from home recently and i've been thinking about it, and there are a couple of threads about how terrified/excited/happy/sad/nervous/etc. we were...

Is there a reason he doesn't want you working? That sounds a bit odd to me.

Azcowgirl, I don't know your boyfriend or anything about him, and it's very possible that this isn't true, but I want to throw it out there:

I've known of abusive guys (or not abusive...just controlling) who didn't want their girlfriends working because they wanted the girls to be financially bound to them. If you're relying on a guy for paying for you to live, you can't leave him. Are you sharing a bank account? If not, do you have enough money in your own bank account to take care of yourself if something happened??

 

[Renee750il]

Everything Milo's said . . . .

 

[skittledoo]

All I can say is I'm really jealous since I miss the ABQ area. I think I said it in another thread of yours, but... I'm from Rio Rancho right outside of ABQ and I absolutely miss that place. And... the biggest thing I miss is... well... the food to be quite honest... gah HATCH green chile is yummmm. Anyways... good luck. As far as you working or not... do what you think is best ultimately for you. Moving to a new place is always really hard... having a job kinda help make it easier to start making new friends in an unfamiliar place.

 

[azcowgirl]

well he doesnt want me to work because he wants me to take care of the animals and get use to Albuquerque ( im from little towns ) he tells me when im ready to work i can ( which i plan on getting a job there no matter what lol )
and thank you everyone