Moving... I need comforting...

[Sheba]

Not only was I hit with the news that my dad is moving, but WE CANT TAKE WENDY OR MAX! They are both still staying at my dad's girlfriends house unless my mom and stepdad say we can take them. Well, moreso Wendy. I'm not sure how often I'm going to see the two unless my mom and stepdad say we can. We are moving into my uncle's apartment upstairs. You know how apartments usually cost a thousand a month? Well, since we are family, my uncle is only charging us 350. That is a good thing, and my dad said if my uncle allows it, we will get me my own cat, and if we can't, we'll both go help out at the shelter. That might also be a godd thing. But what about Wendy?What about Max? I might not ever see them again!

 

[beagle_lovergirl]

Sheba I'm so sorry. I hope the best happens If you need, PM me

 

[Gempress]

Oh, poor Sheba! (((hugs))) I'm not sure what advice I can offer, but I hope everything works out for the best.

 

[Sheba]

My dad said I have to like people mosr than Wendy and that she is just a dog. This is so unfair. I hate it that my uncle doesnt like animals!

 

[Boxer*Mom]

Aw Sheba, that does sound sad. But don't fret about it now, things have a way of working themselves out. How far will you have to be from them to where you will be moving?

 

[Sheba]

I dont know, maybe 50 miles. I really dont know, since I didnt even know my uncle had his own apartment...

 

[oc_spirit]

Awwww so sorry to hear this Sheba!!!! At least she doesn't have to be sold to some random person!

 

[bubbatd]

Awww Sheba, Grammy's so sad for you !!! I do hope things work out. I do hope your Mom realize how important they are to you. Do you split time between your Mom's and Dad's now ??? Both should realize how important they are in your young life and how how you need them and they need you. We're here for you !!

 

[minismom]

I'm so sorry sheba, I hope everything works out for you sweetie!!! "BIG HUGS!!"

 

[Sheba]

Yeah, I go with my dad on Wednesdays and weekends, but I hope we can take Wendy...and Max, for that matter. Since nobody else at my dad's house really cares for Max, Max might be the cat I'm going to adopt as my own.

 

[EliNHunter]

Sheba, I am SO SORRY! There's got to be a good ending to this. Who is making you give your babies up? That's simply not an alternative!!!

 

[PixieSticksandTricks]

Aww im so sorry Sheba. Pretty much the same thing happened to me 3 years ago when my parents got divorced and the place my mom and i moved didn't allow pets and so my husky Mishka had to go and live with my dad. It was really hard on me but I still get to see her. Im here if you ned some one to talk to.

 

[Sheba]

My uncle! He HATES anims, and my dad knows how hard this is for me and he is still trying to pursued (sp?) him to even let me take my GERBIL! Well, at least I know I'll always be with Buddy the Bloodsucker...my mom said no matter what we can take a gerbil if I wanted, but she is going to talk to my stepdad abut getting Wendy and maybe my dad's girlfriend will let me adopt Max since she might not want any more animals... I sure hope this works out!

 

[Dixie]

Sheba-
I know youre young and you care a great deal for your animals, but I see this as teaching lesson in learning to let certain things go. If you are seeing your dad on Weds and weekends, then I really dont see that as an eternal seperation. As long as when your there you spend time with them, I think Max will eventually adjust to the new arrangements, and so will you.

If its 50 miles away, thats not a great distance, you can go on weekends and holidays.

Also there is ANOTHER a slightly more drastic option. Are you of age to decide your own visitation arrangements between your parents? If so then I would go to court and petition that you would like to live with your dad so that you may live with your beloved companions. But be prepared to spend weekends and holidays away from Max. Every situation has its pros and cons, and you just have to hope that the benefits outweigh the risks.

Good luck,
Dixie

 

[bubbatd]

Bless The Beasts And The Children .......................

 

[tessa_s212]

Sheba, I am sorry. This is horrible. My dogs are my sole reason for living, and they make me want to be a better person and mommy. I could never imagine living without them. And I can't even begin to imagine the heartache..

Dixie had some great advice, and I hope you can work something out.

 

[tessa_s212]

Sheba, if you do not already know, I train dogs for my dog training instructors. All three of them are in my avatar and siggy. Besides Cocoa, the cocker, they all live with instructors. I only get to see Tusket and Tip(NSDTR & border collie) once a week, and Dega(small terrier mix) twice a week for a few hours. I have been handling all three for my instructors for probably near 6-8 months. They are all rescued dogs that had so much troubles when they were first rescued, and even when I first started handling them. Dega posed to have the most problems, but we overcome those obstacles, and now I see her as my own. She IS my own.

The worst, is that I do not agree with my instructors training methods and don't believe they are treating Dega the way they should be(correcting her when she is too "soft" for those corrections). I love that little dog like my own, and I'd give anything to own and adopt her. I would give anything to be able to give her a home that she needs.

So, our situations are not exactly the same, but I can relate. It is hard, and at times the hurt will come back, but you and your dog will adjust. You will still get to see them, and at those times just show them extra care and attention for the days you've missed. Things will turn out okay.

 

[Ash47]

Sheba,
I'm really sorry things are turning out this way. Maybe things will turn around and get better for you. I don't know what kind of advice I can give you at this point, but I am thinking about you and hope everything works out. (((HUGS)))

 

[Saje]

I'm sorry Sheba. I hope something works out. (((hugs)))

 

[smkie]

sheba i think i was nine when my parents got divorced..that was when my mom told me we couldn't afford to keep all the animals i had at home. I remember dragging one dog on a leash door to door crying .......divorce just is an awful thing..that you have to live thru.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs for the little girl inside))))))))))))))))))))))
and ((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs for the big girl your going to have to be))))))
i hope something works out for you. JUst remember one day when you grow up you can have your own home and your own pets and your own say about how things will be. Study hard so you can afford to live the way you want to.