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Tell us what was going on at home!!!!! We are a very nosey bunch of people, rofl. Besides, we might just have some good ideas to offer......ya never know. And if your situation gets too much "at home", turn on the news and take a look at New Orleans and Mississippi. At least you have a home to have a situation in/at!!
When I was dealing with my teenage angst, my father was ALWAYS quoting to me "I CRIED BECAUSE I HAD NO SHOES, UNTIL I MET A MAN WHO HAD NO FEET."
Tell us what was going on at home!!!!! We are a very nosey bunch of people, rofl. Besides, we might just have some good ideas to offer......ya never know. And if your situation gets too much "at home", turn on the news and take a look at New Orleans and Mississippi. At least you have a home to have a situation in/at!!
When I was dealing with my teenage angst, my father was ALWAYS quoting to me "I CRIED BECAUSE I HAD NO SHOES, UNTIL I MET A MAN WHO HAD NO FEET."
Ok here is my home situation abuse is a daily thing. Smacking, punching, hitting, kicking, screaming, fighting, and alot of emotional abuse also. My mom and I get along fine but she drinks and when she drinks I tend to rub her the wrong way. My mom did'nt used to be this way but after my parents divorce well things changed. Yes i have a house to live in but I have lost that defination of HOME. My brother is the only one in my family who hasent laid a hand on me one way or anouther.
My dad has made trips to me just to scream at me and occasionaly smack me around. I have gotten to the point where it doesent hurt too much it it has become normal. But as i have been told it is'nt and its a weak quality in others.
I will not contact child services despite the abuse I can't leave my mom not now. She still needs me and I feel guilty when I hurt her feelings and then punnish myself. Same with my father for that matter. I have applied to a ton of cooking schools and hope to make it in one as it would be easier for me to leave because I would know I have something to go to.
I really did'nt want to say anything about it all because I DO NOT want pity I don't like it. But you asked and im telling you the truth in a whole. Its confusing yes heck I don't understand it.
But Pixie helps me ALOT as does a handful of friends and my boyfriend. And of course my brother keeps me going as always. I will rise above my past but I can't until im gone. My past is still my present at the moment.
My dad has made trips to me just to scream at me and occasionaly smack me around. I have gotten to the point where it doesent hurt too much it it has become normal. But as i have been told it is'nt and its a weak quality in others.
I will not contact child services despite the abuse I can't leave my mom not now. She still needs me and I feel guilty when I hurt her feelings and then punnish myself. Same with my father for that matter. I have applied to a ton of cooking schools and hope to make it in one as it would be easier for me to leave because I would know I have something to go to.
I really did'nt want to say anything about it all because I DO NOT want pity I don't like it. But you asked and im telling you the truth in a whole. Its confusing yes heck I don't understand it.
But Pixie helps me ALOT as does a handful of friends and my boyfriend. And of course my brother keeps me going as always. I will rise above my past but I can't until im gone. My past is still my present at the moment.
wow sorry you have to go through that stuff. I'm not giving you no pity but thats so sad.
My parents are divorced and I now I'm living w/ my dad for over 2 months now and I'm so happy!!! The first time I visited my mom after moving w/ my dad it was Hell in a Hay Basket. Me and her fought and agrued for about 2 hours. I got tired of it and called my dad to come get me...he drove almost 4 hours to come get me. I do love my mom but the more we fight and the more she says my younger sistr is better than me and does everything better than me and when she says stuff about me and my dad and the more she lies, the further I come apart from her.
I'm glad I don't live in a home like you, but I feel so sad for you and if i was there w/ you I would do anything to help you. I hate to see people get hurt and for other people to hurt others. Maybe, and I'm hoping and praying for you, that you will get into a Cooking School ASAP.
My parents are divorced and I now I'm living w/ my dad for over 2 months now and I'm so happy!!! The first time I visited my mom after moving w/ my dad it was Hell in a Hay Basket. Me and her fought and agrued for about 2 hours. I got tired of it and called my dad to come get me...he drove almost 4 hours to come get me. I do love my mom but the more we fight and the more she says my younger sistr is better than me and does everything better than me and when she says stuff about me and my dad and the more she lies, the further I come apart from her.
I'm glad I don't live in a home like you, but I feel so sad for you and if i was there w/ you I would do anything to help you. I hate to see people get hurt and for other people to hurt others. Maybe, and I'm hoping and praying for you, that you will get into a Cooking School ASAP.
Your mom really needs to go to counseling. Maybe she doesn't realize how horrible she's treating you, and needs to have it pointed out to her, maybe that would help.
If she does realize though, but continues in her actions, you should tell someone. School counselor, teacher, aunt or uncle, someone that can intervene. Letting it go on is so not good for you. IMHO. Don't mean to sound uppity or know-it-all ish. Just sounds like a bad situation, no pity, just concern.
If she does realize though, but continues in her actions, you should tell someone. School counselor, teacher, aunt or uncle, someone that can intervene. Letting it go on is so not good for you. IMHO. Don't mean to sound uppity or know-it-all ish. Just sounds like a bad situation, no pity, just concern.
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Thank You!
For having the trust in us to be so forthright. I seem to recall you said you are 19? I would suggest that you not call Child Services, but rather call the police and press charges. Your mother needs help that you will not be able to give her. The state may have the means to do for her what needs to be done-----such as put her in rehab to stop the drinking. Your mom is lucky she has you for a daughter, because if I were her daughter, I would punch her lights out!!!! Anyone can have kids. Being a mother means more than just popping someone out of your womb! It is amazing how parents can be straigtened out when their child mentioned police.
Are you in a state that considers 18 to be an adult? Or perhaps you could request emancipation from the court? In the meantime, just tell your folks that if they put a hand on you you WILL charge them with assault!!!!!!!
I am sorry you are in such a crappy situation. But at least now you have a place you can come to and vent. If anyone in this group lives near you, they might be able to stop by and adjust your parents' attitude!!!!!!!
For having the trust in us to be so forthright. I seem to recall you said you are 19? I would suggest that you not call Child Services, but rather call the police and press charges. Your mother needs help that you will not be able to give her. The state may have the means to do for her what needs to be done-----such as put her in rehab to stop the drinking. Your mom is lucky she has you for a daughter, because if I were her daughter, I would punch her lights out!!!! Anyone can have kids. Being a mother means more than just popping someone out of your womb! It is amazing how parents can be straigtened out when their child mentioned police.
Are you in a state that considers 18 to be an adult? Or perhaps you could request emancipation from the court? In the meantime, just tell your folks that if they put a hand on you you WILL charge them with assault!!!!!!!
I am sorry you are in such a crappy situation. But at least now you have a place you can come to and vent. If anyone in this group lives near you, they might be able to stop by and adjust your parents' attitude!!!!!!!
In the future, I would HIGHLY suggest you not say things like this on public internet forums. If you need help, there are much better places to go than the web. Sure, we can offer sympathy but if you need REAL help, there are much better places to go. PM me if you would like suggestions on where to go.
Animals, I have a friend here who is a retired administrative high-poobah from the admissions/financial aid arm of the University of Tennessee. He is now involved with a fledgling cooking school a couple of hours northeast of here near East Tennessee State University. If you'd like, I can ask him for some advice and guidance toward your goal of cooking school 
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Animals, I have a friend here who is a retired administrative high-poobah from the admissions/financial aid arm of the University of Tennessee. He is now involved with a fledgling cooking school a couple of hours northeast of here near East Tennessee State University. If you'd like, I can ask him for some advice and guidance toward your goal of cooking school