I've come to the conclusion that people suck

[Dizzy]

DON'T EVER tell me that my sister and I can't help people. We can and we do. My sister has helped this girl in so many ways. We care a great deal about people, and I'm not about to stop caring.

This thread is not about me. Don't make it as such. This thread is about the sad and frustrating realities that innocent kids have to put up with stupid, awful, abusive parents. This thread is about my friend, who I care and love about, being treated badly. And about my sister, who does everything in her power to help this girl, and now that little power she had is being taken away.

If all you are going to do is try to continue to shove how "blind and troubled" I am down my throat, I ask that you please refrain from posting on this thread. Thanks.

You know what Tessa - you really are a silly, silly little girl if that is how you react to advice.

You ARE troubled.

You need to get some kind of help.

Constantly pming me to tell me how much I hate you, me constantly having to ask why you think this, and once AGAIN you assume the worst.

Well Tessa - you're never going to learn.

I pity you sometimes.

Then sometimes, I couldn't give a flying ****.

Grow up. And quick.

And for the record, I can say what I like. When I like. And how I like.

You don't want me commenting on your threads? Don't bloody post them then.

How's that for a deal?

 

[zoe08]

I have stayed out of most of Tessa threads before mostly because by the time I got to them, they had all turned into wars. I think after the way all of those turned out this forum should have learned by now.

I don't think Tessa needs to be told she has problems. Everyone keeps telling her this over and over, even after she has admitted over and over that she knows that and is working on it. She is trying to be the best person she can. Like I said previously, we ALL have problems.

Tessa is what 16? I have to say I think she is pretty grown up for a 16 year old. And I'm sure she had to grow up a lot sooner than she should have. Most everyone here has had acted childish or immature in some thread or another, and most of them over the ages of 20 or 30.

I could say so much more, cuz everytime I read Tessa's thread it makes me sad to see the way they always turn into wars about Tessa. Putting her down isn't going to help her. And if you put her down, she probably isn't going to listen and I don't blame her. She needs to be listening to the positive influences in her life.

Tessa, I think it is wonderful you are trying to help this girl. I know especially with you growing up in the situation you did, you don't want anyone else to go through it. I had many friends who grew up in bad situations and there wasn't anything I could do. Maybe I could have helped them with school work, but none of them really cared. I think that this girl is showing that she cares by getting help, and so hopefully she will continue to find that help after moving in with her mother too. But by helping her, you have shown her that there are people out there willing to help her and care for her, even if her parents aren't. And I think it is important for her to have friends like you and your sister in her life.

 

[Dizzy]

Yeah, well - I'm bored of it.

It's gone from sympathy, to baffled, to amused, to absolutely utterly, bored.

And when I take the time to give someone advice, and they tell me what I can and can't advise them on, I get more than bored, I get pissed off.

Why post a thread, which, come on, you KNOW the reaction you'll get by now, which, clearly highlights your anxieties, and angst, and ask people NOT to comment?? Are you mad? Infact, don't answer that one.

So, sorry, you're all for this freedom of speech malarchy eh?

Well, that's mine.

Tessa - perhaps you should find a counselling website, or perhaps a, come hither and see how glorious I am website to post your inner most thoughts on, because I, and it would appear, alot of people, are bored of your reactions, wafflings, ramblings and general whining.

Oh, and one more time (just one mind), I don't dislike tessa (believe it or not?!). I don't dislike many people in the world. If I met Tessa, I'd most certainly take her out, and buy her a chocolate bar or whatever it is that teenagers these days thrive on (emo cd's?).

And yes, if you think she is so mature, then I am sure she can handle my not so constructive critism.

Ahhhh - rant over and out.

 

[smkie]

advice is like candy if you turn it down it should be no offense. If your bored move on but stop the hate. THis thread got way outta hand fast. Your all getting gradeschooly now so how bout everyone quit. I got a story and i cant tell about a situation like this and that is a shame.

 

[Dizzy]

advice is like candy if you turn it down it should be no offense. If your bored move on but stop the hate. THis thread got way outta hand fast. Your all getting gradeschooly now so how bout everyone quit. I got a story and i cant tell about a situation like this and that is a shame.

No, offense is actually caused when someone assumes the worst in you constantly, and is only too happy to keep telling you how much you dislike them. Offense, or just plain - errrrr.. ok Tessa

I'm over it now, in fact, as soon as I look at another thread I have forgotton. Sometimes all I have to do is blink, it really is that enthralling.

This is because I have a real life outside the computer, which is nice I think.

I really couldn't care less how "gradeschooly" I sound (I'm not sure what that is, but I assume you mean playground tactics), because.... well.. I just don't. I really, really don't. Should I?? Nahhh...

Sometimes it is theraputic to say all the things you have been thinking for the past few weeks.

I believe honesty is the best policy, and I have tried the tactful approach before - it doesn't work, so in a good learning manner, I thought I'd just be blunt.

Don't like it? Don't look. I don't think I have said anything too harsh Feel free to delete it

:spam:

 

[smkie]

on the public board is not the place to discuss this. Take it in private, take it to a mod, but do not post like this or i will close it down.

 

[Dizzy]

Meh, been there, done that, just got a whole pm box full of how much I hate people (alledgedly, yet, I am still waiting to see where that came from) - I'd rather just say my piece and be done with it.

And to be fair, I'm just speaking what everyone has thought/is thinking - what do you think the "blah blah blah" thread is all about??

I'll leave it at that I suppose.

 

[bubbatd]

These posts are so sad ! There are Humpty Dumptys in this world , unfortunately .................

 

[Mutt Luv]

Yes, the song is Runaway Love.

I feel its good she is helping people and such but this kind of stuff happens eveyday, she is acting like this is a new thing, and its NOT. I think she needs to spot posting this kind of stuff, you know its an argument, why TRY to start one?

 

[sparks19]

Dizzy you aren't exactly behaving in a manner any more suitable or mature than you are accusing Tessa of.

yes you MAY say whatever you want whenever you want.... but most people are able to filter themselves. You are only acting the same way you are accussing Tessa of acting right now. Perhaps you should seek out your own advice as well. You keep saying you are over it... yet you keep posting. Doesn't sound like you are over it to me. this is a thread posted by a girl in her teens.... you are an adult. See the difference.

Tessa, I am sorry to hear this. My best friend all throughout highschool had a mother who was addicted to pain pills. We went through some tough times in highschool... especially when I had to move an hour away so that I would not have to live with my sister who was VERY verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive towards me... not only me but my father as well. she is a terrible person. it was hard moving away for my own good when I knew my friend was stuck living with her drug addict mother who didn't give two hoots about her schooling or her well being. My friend often had to take care of her younger brother.... feed him, get him ready for school, help him with his school work Etc etc because her mother was too busy getting high and passing out on the couch. LUCKILY.... my friend has grown into a wonderful adult. she is happily married and they are expecting their first child. She will be a wonderful parent because for one... she learned how NOT to be a parent by watching her mother... and two... she basically had to be a parent at 15 to her young brother.

Things are always tough when you are a teenager.... I only hope she can use this to further herself in her adult life. it can be done and with the support you and your sister are giving her I have no doubt that she will be able to overcome.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

Tessa,

I don't usually post on your threads, but in silent, I always offer tons of prayers for you (and the subject of your threads) while I read them. I pray that one day you will be able to realize that "to err is human, to forgive is divine", that you will always take time to get to know a person before judging them, that you will be able to understand while helping others is good in general, some times it is much better for you to stay out of other people's problem rather than jumping in to help, and last but not least, I pray that you will find compassion in your heart for ALL God's people, regardless of how "evil" you perceive them to be.

Now if I may, I'll ask you to please meditate on the following passage as you offer your friend & her troubled family to God. After all, it seems to me that you've already done your best. I strongly encourage you to offer the rest to God, and trust that He will take care of it for you. In doing so, you'll find that your heavy burdens be lifted off of your shoulders.

"Stop judging, that you may not be judged. For as you judge, so will you be judged, and the measure with which you measure will be measured out to you. Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye, but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me remove that splinter from your eye,' while the wooden beam is in your eye? You hypocrite, remove the wooden beam from your eye first; then you will see clearly to remove the splinter from your brother's eye." - Matthew 7: 1-5

 

[sparks19]

Good post M&M's Mommy

 

[smkie]

anybody got the bangs head on walls icon for this...lets not point each other out, lets not spread the ill will one more layer..lets just hope that a couple of people can be emotional support for another and if that is the case, bid the well. If not, well everyone got entertained for another morning..i am off for the day.