So my father in law is being a real pain in my ass, already.
He has this notion that my 3 year old is autistic, and keeps referring to him as being autistic. On what basis? Because at our wedding my 3 year old did not like the loud band in the garage and covered his ears, and it upset him...so now he's automatically autistic, more specifically they think he has Aspbergers syndrome. his other basis is that my 3 year old doesn't "talk"...by this he means he doesn't talk your ear off, and he never has, he's always been quiet, and he is shy with strangers. So he refuses to talk to my FIL; I could only be so lucky to be able to do the same.
Sean has been to the doctor because his speech was a bit delayed initially, but he outgrew that and speaks fine now, just not to my FIL.
Now here's the tricky part, this is my FIL. I need a tactful way to tell him he's over-stepped his boundaries and is pissing me off. <---- that statement right there was what I had in mind to tell him, see why I'm asking for suggestions? Implying that my son is autistic is not only rude as hell as far as I'm concerned, but not any of their business.
Something needs to be said, every time he calls he harps and bitches at me about Sean needing further testing and that I'm irresponsible for not taking him in and that I owe it to my son to do this. I'm sick of the guilt trips that are unwarranted. I told my husband what went on and he said he would tell his dad to back off on it, because he doesn't believe it either, but this hasn't stopped my FIL from harassing me further.
So, looking at this from my perspective, how would you react? If this was your child that has been no slower to develop than your other children and now you have someone new step into your life who is INSISTING your child is autistic, would it **** you off?
He has this notion that my 3 year old is autistic, and keeps referring to him as being autistic. On what basis? Because at our wedding my 3 year old did not like the loud band in the garage and covered his ears, and it upset him...so now he's automatically autistic, more specifically they think he has Aspbergers syndrome. his other basis is that my 3 year old doesn't "talk"...by this he means he doesn't talk your ear off, and he never has, he's always been quiet, and he is shy with strangers. So he refuses to talk to my FIL; I could only be so lucky to be able to do the same.
Sean has been to the doctor because his speech was a bit delayed initially, but he outgrew that and speaks fine now, just not to my FIL.
Now here's the tricky part, this is my FIL. I need a tactful way to tell him he's over-stepped his boundaries and is pissing me off. <---- that statement right there was what I had in mind to tell him, see why I'm asking for suggestions? Implying that my son is autistic is not only rude as hell as far as I'm concerned, but not any of their business.
Something needs to be said, every time he calls he harps and bitches at me about Sean needing further testing and that I'm irresponsible for not taking him in and that I owe it to my son to do this. I'm sick of the guilt trips that are unwarranted. I told my husband what went on and he said he would tell his dad to back off on it, because he doesn't believe it either, but this hasn't stopped my FIL from harassing me further.
So, looking at this from my perspective, how would you react? If this was your child that has been no slower to develop than your other children and now you have someone new step into your life who is INSISTING your child is autistic, would it **** you off?