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Our beloved Chesapeake bay Retreiver was euthanized last year due to a terminal form of cancer. It was a horrible experience from the moment he was diagnosed, and it took us a full year to even feel like we could possibly consider another dog.
Now, we are getting a new puppy, an Irish Terrier. We specifically selected a very different breed, different gender, etc, but as we get close to picking her up the more I begin to feel what I can only describe as "guilt". I don't want to feel like we're replacing our ol' boy, or that this new dog will make us forget him, ya know?
Our retriever was only 6, and his young age made it so much harder to let go of him when the time came. I'm ashamed to admit I still have his ashes and collar in my closet because I haven't been able to take the final step and completly let go. I worry that I will expect too much of this new pup, expect her to live up to the old dog, although that would be so tough to do - he was such a wonderful and loving creature.
I'm full of self-doubt right now - I am so excited about this new puppy and yet I guess I am still mourning our other dog. I used to manage vet clinics and was the unofficial "grief counsellor", and talked so many people through the loss of their dog, but seem to have been unable to do this for myself
Is it normal to have these mixed feelings? Will having the new pup help them to go away when I begin to see her as her own little personality and not a replacement for our ol' boy?
Sigh. I'm sure I sound completely lame here, but I'm hoping someone (anyone?) might understand....and thanks for reading.
Now, we are getting a new puppy, an Irish Terrier. We specifically selected a very different breed, different gender, etc, but as we get close to picking her up the more I begin to feel what I can only describe as "guilt". I don't want to feel like we're replacing our ol' boy, or that this new dog will make us forget him, ya know?
Our retriever was only 6, and his young age made it so much harder to let go of him when the time came. I'm ashamed to admit I still have his ashes and collar in my closet because I haven't been able to take the final step and completly let go. I worry that I will expect too much of this new pup, expect her to live up to the old dog, although that would be so tough to do - he was such a wonderful and loving creature.
I'm full of self-doubt right now - I am so excited about this new puppy and yet I guess I am still mourning our other dog. I used to manage vet clinics and was the unofficial "grief counsellor", and talked so many people through the loss of their dog, but seem to have been unable to do this for myself
Is it normal to have these mixed feelings? Will having the new pup help them to go away when I begin to see her as her own little personality and not a replacement for our ol' boy?
Sigh. I'm sure I sound completely lame here, but I'm hoping someone (anyone?) might understand....and thanks for reading.