Inlaws *rant* Long!

moxiegrl

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Ok...First of all I know Im going to sound like a spoiled brat who is totally out of her mind, but thats ok.

My Inlaws are here for a week or so. They just got in Friday night and are already driving me crazy. I feel so bad even saying it, but they are. They came down for the sole purpose of helping get the nursery done, and I feel like they take over my house. I know theyre excited about the baby, as I am obviously, but its almost like they take away from my excitement.

Its mostly his Mom that irks me though. She doesnt seem to particulary care for Katie, and his Dad really seems to like Katie, but Katie isnt sure she really likes him. But anyway back to me. ;) For example, his Mom finds it necessary to tell me EVERYTHING about babies, like I am a total idiot or something. Yes, she is my first, but I have been around newborns since I was 13. And I am really looking forward to arranging MY babies room, and I know that she will have a MAJOR opinion on where everything should go. Aaron says I need to be more proactive, but he doesnt understand.

They just finished painting the babies room, which I cant be around anyway so I let them do it. But we are picking up the furniture tomorrow, and then it will be decorating, organizing, and what I'm really looking forward to putting all her clothes up. Maybe its just hormones, but I should be excited about this, but Im dreading doing it with her!!!! And to make matters worse, they paid for everything. They bought all the furniture, and all the decorations, so who the hell am I to be a b!tch about it. It really shouldnt annoy me but it does. It just seems like she has to control every aspect of everything we do. All the way down to where the pizza box is on the table!
OK this is long enough, and since they are here for the week Im sure I will have another rant or 2. Oh and here are some pics of the babies room so far, I'll keep posting as it comes along.



We're doin the room in frogs


I like the closet
 
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I love the color.. very pretty!!

My sister-inlaw is expecting and she wants to paint her baby's room that same color.

My inlaws are annoying too... I cant stand my mother-inlaw.. she's crazy!! My father-inlaw is pretty cool.

Here's what I do... I say yes, yes, yes to both my mom and my mother-inlaw and then do the exact opposite.. drives them nuts :D
 

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What a soothing color for your baby's room and I love the frog theme. :)

Now on to your in-laws. Take a deep breath, let it out. Just keep in mind they are only here temporarily and they are also both excited about the baby. They may have bought the furniture but it is your baby's room. If it were me I wouldn't sweat the arrangement right now while they are here helping. It's not worth it and will only bring anxiety to you as well as them. Even if everything doesn't end up how you want it arranged once they go home you and Aaron can fix it anyway you feel is best.

As far as your MIL telling you everything about babies this may be her way of remembering how much she loved becoming a mom and she wants to share that joy with you as well as possibly share some little hints that you might end up finding helpful along the way.

And you can always look on the bright side - they apparently don't live close. It could be worse - they could live a couple of miles away.:)
 

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I love the frog theme its sooo unique :) and I absolutely love the colors..
 

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I can totally relate! I love my in-laws, but my MIL is very controlling. Hang in there :)

I love the frog theme by the way. I've always wanted to do my nursery in frogs or turtles....I haven't decided yet. But then again I'm not pregnant yet so I guess i've got time :p
 

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Moxie... part of you being aggrivated could be your hormone levels. But also, it's very hard to swallow an overbearing inlaw. I hope they're just being nice inlaws by helping you with the nursery. Maybe once the baby gets here they'll just be regular everday grandparents and leave the mothering to you. Goodluck!
 

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Very pretty colour for the room and I like the frogs too.

When we have kids both of our mothers want to be our nanny for a few months LOL. Interesting since both sets of parents live over 9 hours away from us lol. BUT I am thrilled with that idea if they are willing to come through LOL.

I know I am completely unprepared for a baby and while I have always been around babies it is different when they are yours and you can't give them back :D So I will need all the help I can get.

Poodlemom makes a good point. If you don't want to stand up and tell her how YOU want it then wait till they leave and move stuff to where you want it :D

of course, I haven't even met my inlaws yet LOL just talked to my mother in law on the phone. But she is very sweet and the only thing she pressures me to do is GO SHOPPING :D
 

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Thanks everyone! We went shopping today and got all the furniture, and numerous other baby items. As far as changing the room after they leave, thats what will happen. Although it will mainly be changing the things like where her clothes, diapers, shoes, etc.

Sparks- My whole family lives w/in 10 minutes of me, and I know I will appreciate the help!!! My mom and sister will be my nannies :) Its also kind of weird for me to have 2 people I barely know be SO excited about my baby, its nice, but strange. Its even more strange/annoying to have a lady (my MIL) telling me about how to be a Mom, when I dont know her very well!!

Dont get me wrong I appreciate what theyve done and are doing SOO much, I just cant help the way I feel. And that makes me feel worse too. :(
 

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Thanks everyone! We went shopping today and got all the furniture, and numerous other baby items. As far as changing the room after they leave, thats what will happen. Although it will mainly be changing the things like where her clothes, diapers, shoes, etc.

Sparks- My whole family lives w/in 10 minutes of me, and I know I will appreciate the help!!! My mom and sister will be my nannies :) Its also kind of weird for me to have 2 people I barely know be SO excited about my baby, its nice, but strange. Its even more strange/annoying to have a lady (my MIL) telling me about how to be a Mom, when I dont know her very well!!

Dont get me wrong I appreciate what theyve done and are doing SOO much, I just cant help the way I feel. And that makes me feel worse too. :(

don't worry about it. lots of people have overbearing inlaws. My grandmother (on my fathers side) for instance. She basically single handedly broke up all of my fathers marriages because she was so overbearing. Nothing was good enough for her. She was like the mother on Everybody loves raymond (don't know if you have seen that show or not but for anyone who has you can imagine)

I on the other hand have a sister that is overbearing. I was considering moving back to Canada some day with brian but after a vacation with her and the annoying demanding emails she sends me, I have reconsidered. 9hours away is not far enough :D

There are always people who think they know better than you do, I just nod my head and smile and do what I want after they leave. it isn't worth the effort to try to fight them about it, they already have their minds made up. Just go with the flow and then do what you want :D
 

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