Inappropriate and child abuse, or innocent bath time?

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Honestly I think it is just another opportunity to bully someone they don't know therefore feel they aren't accountable for it. It is really sick what people do on the internet with random
Photos. They are so hateful and vile. I honestly can't understand it. I don't think these people truly see anything wrong with the photo but just see an opportunity to be vile.
 

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I think that it is just a sweet, innocent picture of a father posing with his daughter that has totally been blown out of proportion
I agree.

It's sad people are bringing race in to this and the fact if this was a mum and her son, more people would probably be alright with this photo. When I was a kid I took showers with my dad, he always wore undies though.
 

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uhh, well...yeah, this could be some kind of weirdly sexual pedophelic ritual bath.

Or, ya know, it could be a father playing with his young daughter in a bubble bath :rolleyes:

They could have bathing suits on for all we know...and even if they don't, I highly doubt there's anything going on. Pedophiles who take pictures of their children in sexualized situations (or innocent situations and make them sexual) do not post them to facebook to share with family and friends, usually, as far as I know. And it's a pretty cultural thing to take baths alone. It's not unusual in most countries for people to bathe with their families, nude.
 
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People have odd hangups about nakedness. Naked does not equal sex. In fact, IMO the more open people are about bodies and nakedness, the less it becomes some big secret and is not shameful/dirty.

When is it time for parents to not be naked in front of their kids? When the kids start getting uncomfortable with it.
 

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People have odd hangups about nakedness. Naked does not equal sex. In fact, IMO the more open people are about bodies and nakedness, the less it becomes some big secret and is not shameful/dirty.

When is it time for parents to not be naked in front of their kids? When the kids start getting uncomfortable with it.
This. I am all for letting the child lead when it becomes uncomfortable.

On a similar note... I have a photo of me and two of my best girl friends when we were about 8 all in the bathtub together. If that photo were taken now my mom probably would be brought up on child pornography charges
 

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I bathe/shower with Clive frequently, because sometimes I end up just as wet by hanging over the side of the tub to wash him. He's two and oblivious. People are so odd:(
 

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There is nothing wrong with the pic, but I would have never posted anything like that because I know this would be the reaction. It's sad, but people suck sometimes, and that seems to be magnified on the web.
 

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There is nothing wrong with the pic, but I would have never posted anything like that because I know this would be the reaction. It's sad, but people suck sometimes, and that seems to be magnified on the web.
I agree there, I would never post it, and am careful even when we post pics of Kolby....

Not because I think there's anything wrong with these type of pictures, but sadly because of how people respond.... And also because maybe someone could take an innocent picture and use it in a not innocent way... It's sad we have to even worry about that...
 

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Like always, people have nothing better to do than get up in other people's business.

I see it as an innocent photo of daughter and father in the tub. Big deal.
 

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I don't see the problem...I'm pretty sure when I was little I used to bath with my dad and little cousins too....

And let's say it's a mom and her daughter. If it was really sexual abuse, who says a mother can't be abusing the daughter???
 

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*I haven't read this whole thread so my comment is based on the OP, not all of the other posts.*

I see absolutely nothing wrong with this. In Finland it is normal for families to take sauna together until the kids are about 5-8 depending on the children's curiosity level (for lack of a better term). I took baths with my cousins and brother until I was, maybe, 7. I took baths with my dad when I was young, as well. Maybe it's a cultural difference because my mom is Finnish and we spent time in Finland when I was young. My dad and his family are American, though, and none of them had a problem with taking baths with cousins. Maybe it's just a different time, now. Maybe we watch too much Law and Order: SVU. Whatever the reason, it's really sad.
 

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In addition, although I am not odd about the human body, who is to say he's not wearing a swimsuit? My husband wears one when he has to bathe with Clive. I don' t know why, but it is what it is, lol
 

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Well.....

Context helps. For starters.


If we are assuming this is a photo of a father sharing a bath with his young daughter, and mother took the picture, then all is ok right?


But if we are assuming this man isn't her father and another male took the photo, then that really changes the the subject of the picture....


And as we have no context to the photo, we can't really say whether its right or wrong.


If it was the first option, no child protection agency would touch it. If the man was her uncle.... Then they'd likely make a phone call. If the girl was 10.. 9... 8 maybe..7??? They might get a phone call.


If this was the latter then yes, of course there would be issues.


What's sad is we don't know, and that man and that girl are now subject to public debate and criticism.
 

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If it's dad/daughter, I have no issue with it at all..........they BOTH look happy to me!

BUT

As someone else mentioned, what was the purpose of posting this picture? Why in the world would you WANT to post bath time pictures of ANY KIND of the internet?

I have bath time pictures of my kids, I've shared them with friends and family privately........but it would never cross my mind to post them on the INTERNET! I mean, why don't they run around town posting them on public bulletin boards? LOL Enter grocery store and "help wanted......need a baby sitter?.......Lawn service.......puppies for sale.......BOOM....bath time pictures on the cork board! Weeee! LOL
 

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*shrugs* I dunno, I'd post a picture like that. I know that privacy settings don't mean much...and I doubt I'd go plastering it all over public forums or a blog or something...but sharing on a private FB or private photo-sharing site? It's a cute picture of a family sharing a bathing. ANY family photos can be creepy if the parents are abusing the child, and ANY photo of a child can be used in horrific ways. This photo doesn't show an excessive amount of the child's body, any more than a picture of her playing in a diaper, or in a swimsuit on the beach would.

Years ago, family photos were kept in photo albums or boxes or frames in the family's home. The only people who saw them were people invited into the home, or people you physically showed the photos to. Now, they're on the internet for all your family, friends, and often acquaintances and strangers to see, if you put them there (and even if you don't). I don't see anything wrong with this photo compared to other family/childhood photos going on FB, aside the idea someone might freak out about it.

Lots of chazzers post pictures of their kids, we've seen some tasteful bathtime photos on here. The only reason they haven't had a whole commentary is because the parents aren't in them. I'm sure if you go on Finnish or Scandinavian or Japanese forums where people post their kids, there are plenty of photos like that.
 

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