ok, so long story short my parents divorced when I was 4, I saw my dad practically everyweekend up until I was about 14, when he decided to have a "mental breakdown" and stopped contacting my brother and I for two years.
After two years I finally wrote him a letter to see if he was still even On this planet, he replied, and we met up with him. Phil by this time was with Salina, his girlfriend of a long time (she is, what is it when someone is black but not quite black how do you say that politely? this will be of importance later) and I took Morgan, my boyfriend. And it seemed to go fine.
After that, after a while, Phil got an email about Salina saying that he shouldn't be "tied down" and should "play the field". Salina, me, and my mum, took it offensively, but Phil didn't bat an eyelid.
So, after telling my Dad the other day that I'm moving back to UK, he has sent me an email that really is not very nice.
(Now just to clear this up, as far as I know, Salina is happy that we are coming back, she has been finding my mum jobs, and even said we could stay there as long as we pay our keep which is fair enough. Also, she has a tendancy to be extremely bossy, towards Phil, but to be honest Phil sometimes need's a bit of a kick up the backside. She is also sort of very self-centred, she doesn't appreciate much. But other than that, I do like her, she is my sister in law and I would not want anybody else. Seems nice enough when I'm around her.)
Ok, so this email I got from my dad said something along the lines of (I'm going to make this less rude) :
"I'm sorry it has not worked out for you there K . I'm afraid that Salina does not share your enthusiasm and last night was very aggressive towards me about your return . She has made it quite clear that she does not want either of you staying with her . She doesn't seem to be interested in Philips opinion on anything to do with it . I think it's a bit off of her to be like this since your mum took the little baggage in when her uptight parents woukldn't have her . I CANT STAND THE (female dog) . Is everyone blind as to how she bullies and dominates Philip ? apparantly she thinks your mum is coming back because she wants to freeload on her and philip in their new house , and you are both jealous of their success . I could have slapped the little (moo) quite happily . Poor Philip after all he has been through he lands up with this stroppy bad tempered power tripper . "
Yes, ok she is bossy but that, is a little over the top. I really do not understand why my dad Hates her so much, and my mum thinks it has something to do with him being racist. I don't know if that is true, but I tell you if I go back there and he says ANYTHING like that about Morgan I will have to (restraining temptation to get very annoyed here!) kill him. Then again, he's never said anything about Morgan apart from "thanked him" for being "a good friend to me" and Morgan is, white.
Also, my dad has extreme issuess.. he blames it on everyone else, but I think he is a very angry man. He scares me a little bit. And its so sad because I've totally lost my "dad" that I used to know, but this is all I got now and I wanna see how it gos.
What on Earth do I tell my brother? DO I tell my brother? I don't want to upset Salina again, cos if my boyfriends Dad said those things about me I'd hate it. She lets my dad in her house, stay in her house, feeds him, and this is what he says?? What do I do!!!
After two years I finally wrote him a letter to see if he was still even On this planet, he replied, and we met up with him. Phil by this time was with Salina, his girlfriend of a long time (she is, what is it when someone is black but not quite black how do you say that politely? this will be of importance later) and I took Morgan, my boyfriend. And it seemed to go fine.
After that, after a while, Phil got an email about Salina saying that he shouldn't be "tied down" and should "play the field". Salina, me, and my mum, took it offensively, but Phil didn't bat an eyelid.
So, after telling my Dad the other day that I'm moving back to UK, he has sent me an email that really is not very nice.
(Now just to clear this up, as far as I know, Salina is happy that we are coming back, she has been finding my mum jobs, and even said we could stay there as long as we pay our keep which is fair enough. Also, she has a tendancy to be extremely bossy, towards Phil, but to be honest Phil sometimes need's a bit of a kick up the backside. She is also sort of very self-centred, she doesn't appreciate much. But other than that, I do like her, she is my sister in law and I would not want anybody else. Seems nice enough when I'm around her.)
Ok, so this email I got from my dad said something along the lines of (I'm going to make this less rude) :
"I'm sorry it has not worked out for you there K . I'm afraid that Salina does not share your enthusiasm and last night was very aggressive towards me about your return . She has made it quite clear that she does not want either of you staying with her . She doesn't seem to be interested in Philips opinion on anything to do with it . I think it's a bit off of her to be like this since your mum took the little baggage in when her uptight parents woukldn't have her . I CANT STAND THE (female dog) . Is everyone blind as to how she bullies and dominates Philip ? apparantly she thinks your mum is coming back because she wants to freeload on her and philip in their new house , and you are both jealous of their success . I could have slapped the little (moo) quite happily . Poor Philip after all he has been through he lands up with this stroppy bad tempered power tripper . "
Yes, ok she is bossy but that, is a little over the top. I really do not understand why my dad Hates her so much, and my mum thinks it has something to do with him being racist. I don't know if that is true, but I tell you if I go back there and he says ANYTHING like that about Morgan I will have to (restraining temptation to get very annoyed here!) kill him. Then again, he's never said anything about Morgan apart from "thanked him" for being "a good friend to me" and Morgan is, white.
Also, my dad has extreme issuess.. he blames it on everyone else, but I think he is a very angry man. He scares me a little bit. And its so sad because I've totally lost my "dad" that I used to know, but this is all I got now and I wanna see how it gos.
What on Earth do I tell my brother? DO I tell my brother? I don't want to upset Salina again, cos if my boyfriends Dad said those things about me I'd hate it. She lets my dad in her house, stay in her house, feeds him, and this is what he says?? What do I do!!!
