I need some prayers

[Laurelin]

I am contemplating a huge change in my life and am struggling to make that decision. I've realized that I'm just not happy here at all. Even though it means 4 years of college down the drain I think it might be a better solution for me. I have been plugging through and ignoring the fact that I am miserable for four years. I hate it here. The only thing that keeps me sane is my dogs.

I'm thinking about going back home to OK and finishing up some sort of degree there. I wish I had just stayed there to start with.

Sorry to wound whiny.

 

[-bogart-]

i absoutly support you in whatever decision you make. Being away from home is hard especially all your family has been through lately.

Is ther anyway the credits wont be wasted with the move back? some have to be transferable i would think , but i really dont know much about colleges.

good luck in whatever you decide.

 

[xpaeanx]

Why don't you talk to colleges in OK. A lot of your credits will probably transfer.

 

[Fran101]

I hope some of your credits transfer, and laur, its really great that you figured it out now some people go through their WHOLE lives and even start careers knowing they are not happy.

Ill be sending prayers and vibes, it WILL all work out

Life is full of choices, if you wake up in the morning and aren't smiling..make another choice

 

[milos_mommy]

Transfer! You shouldn't lose many credits at all...I know there's a website and you can put it both colleges and will tell you how many and which credits WILL transfer.

Good luck...I know trying to change where you're living in college is tough...

 

[Laurelin]

I'm pretty sure most will transfer over. It's just a hard thing for me to admit that I don't like it here. It's not really to be closer to the family although that will be a nice side effect. It's just I feel so lost here and no matter what I do to try to get to understand the material better no one is willing to help me out. I've spent years banging my head into a wall and I feel like for no reason. I thought about transferring 2 years ago. I really should have then.

It's been somewhat helpful since I have a friend going through the same thing.

 

[Laurelin]

I've just been struggling even to renew my lease here. I think that's a sign. I just keep putting it off and putting it off. I know now I don't want to be here.

Sucks though because I've already earned my ring, lol. I'm so freaking close but I don't think I can put myself through another semester or two of this.

 

[bubbatd]

I support whatever you decide ! You are smart and sensitive . What you have accomplish will always be on record for you to pick up . Happiness is more important and I know you love your sisters .

 

[Beanie]

(((((HUGS))))) hon, and don't look at it as 4 years of college down the drain! You had four years of great experiences and I'll bet you learned a LOT - a lot about yourself, too. Pursuing more education is never a waste IMO, even if you decide not to go down that route in the end.

 

[mjb]

People transfer all the time for a variety of reasons, and probably the main reason is that they just don't want to be where they're at. I know you've been there for 4 years, but most will transfer, and you've learned a lot in those 4 years, so they're definitely not a waste. It doesn't sound like it's a spur-of-the-moment decision. If that were the case, I would think it would be better to give yourself some time, and see if you still feel the same way in a couple of months. It doesn't sound like you came to this decision quickly, though.

Is your dad or some kind of counselor there a good sounding board to talk about this with?

What is the degree that you're pursuing? Will you continue with the same degree when/if you transfer, or are you going to go in a completely different direction?

Good luck, and I'm sure things will work out fine. You'll feel much better when you make your decision, whatever it is.

 

[bubbatd]

I had to go to a Junior College or take a year more of High School in Ontario to get into a 4 yr. American College . I'd always planned to transfer , got married instead . No regrets .

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

Laur--life it too short to be miserable. Do what your heart tells you--despite what your head tries to talk you into! You have an angel guiding you--she won't fail you.

 

[hotdog2007]

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and wish you the best in moving on! It sounds like you've just reached the end of your rope, and you may start to feel much better once you are out of your current situation. When you're so depressed, it can affect your concentration, comprehension, sleep, etc., making your coursework seem even more difficult. It's a vicious cycle!

Many of your credits may transfer, so you won't lose too much time. It's really a shame that you haven't been able to get more academic support at your university, but I think things will work out for the best in the end. For getting through this semester, I'm not sure if this will help, but I've been in a similar situation where I struggled to get out of bed to go to work in this morning, and once I got there, had trouble concentrating on anything. I ended up making a 'to do' list each morning, the last item of which was 'go home!!', and just pretty much just focused on working my way through it each day. Then, when I got home, I'd try to do something special for myself (rock climbing, hot chocolate, etc.). Whatever you decide, you'll get through this!

 

[FoxyWench]

HUGE HUGS

you need to make yourself happy, if going back to ok is whats going to do that...do it.
struggling through is simply going to continue a cycle of being miserable and not living up to potential because of it.

no regrets, transfer your credits and go for it!

more hugs!

 

[smkie]

Go where your happy and follow your bliss.

 

[Renee750il]

You've always had wings, Laur . . . now's the time to use them

 

[MPP]

Laurelin, you're not some airhead making an impulsive choice. You have thought about this and considered options. It is your nature to be happy--not everyone is like that--and if you are miserable, then something must change.

If you think that moving back to OK would be better for you, go for it. You won't be ruining your life. Many of your credits will undoubtedly transfer, and if you have to put in some extra time, at least you won't feel as if you're dragging a sack of rocks. It sounds as if you are already subconsciously "arranging" to leave, as witness the lease thing.

Whatever you decide will be the best thing for you to do. I believe this totally. And you must know that everyone here will support you to the max.

 

[Laurelin]

Thanks so much guys. I talked to my dad some and he's supportive of it. I'm going to meet with my department's counselors and just kind of lay it all out and see what they say. There's a lot of benefits to OK... closer to home and family and friends. I'd be at the most 1 1/2 hours away. Much nicer than 7 hours away. They have an art program at the two schools I'm looking at too! (Yay!) Also, they're smaller schools which I would really really want. Being just one of 47,000 is not always a good thing.

The only thing is they're less prestigious, I suppose. but I really feel like I'm getting lost in the crowd here now and not getting the best education I could. It's not a bad school I just don't think it was the right choice for me.

 

[Xandra]

Do what makes you happy! Like Fran said, some people retire after a lifetime of hating their job.

That said I realize it must feel sucky to have spent all that time and then not finish it, but focus on the good. Leave that awful math course behind you

 

[Whisper]

((((((((HUGS)))))))) and ((((((((((VIBES)))))))))