Background:
My ten year old son is dyslexic. His self esteem is extremely low despite our efforts to constantly boost him. I think he's going to have to come into his own...so to speak. My son has trouble controlling his anger and I suspect he might have bipolar disorder. He has been diagnosed with ADHD and I know it's over diagnosed SO MUCH, but he truly does have trouble focusing and in turn he has such horrible days without his medications. I don't take any diagnoses at face value and he's been tested numerous times. I'm constantly reading about the disorder and possible solutions. He's immature for his age, which is often associated with kids with ADHD.
Problem:
Today he hit another classmate and was suspended from school. He talked to my mother tonight and told her that this little boy CONSTANTLY calls him stupid and/or dumb. The anger outburst happened after the boy called him stupid/dumb and then called him a cry baby after my son started crying. Being that he has such low self esteem due to his learning disability being called stupid/dumb is absolutely devastating to a kid like that. He also told her the other kid does it quietly, so the teacher does not hear it. He said the teacher told him to "deal with it." My son needs to learn how to take criticism, however this is beyond criticism. This is mean spirited teasing that should never be tolerated by any member of a schools faculty. I just need objective opinions on the situation. I'm going to talk to my son tomorrow and make it clear that the hitting is not acceptable and there are other means to deal with situations like this. We talked to him tonight, but I want him to feel like I'm on his side, I'm his protector, and that he has the ability to come to me with anything. I'm going to tell him that he's to notify me immediately if the situation is not handled (i.e. kid keeps calling him stupid and it's not dealt with). I'm also going to email his teacher to find out exactly what happened and make it clear that the teasing will not be tolerated. I feel like this is a set back and he feels like everyone hates him.
BTW, this is a private school, it's small and I honestly thought this stuff would be handled better. Anyway, thoughts?
My ten year old son is dyslexic. His self esteem is extremely low despite our efforts to constantly boost him. I think he's going to have to come into his own...so to speak. My son has trouble controlling his anger and I suspect he might have bipolar disorder. He has been diagnosed with ADHD and I know it's over diagnosed SO MUCH, but he truly does have trouble focusing and in turn he has such horrible days without his medications. I don't take any diagnoses at face value and he's been tested numerous times. I'm constantly reading about the disorder and possible solutions. He's immature for his age, which is often associated with kids with ADHD.
Problem:
Today he hit another classmate and was suspended from school. He talked to my mother tonight and told her that this little boy CONSTANTLY calls him stupid and/or dumb. The anger outburst happened after the boy called him stupid/dumb and then called him a cry baby after my son started crying. Being that he has such low self esteem due to his learning disability being called stupid/dumb is absolutely devastating to a kid like that. He also told her the other kid does it quietly, so the teacher does not hear it. He said the teacher told him to "deal with it." My son needs to learn how to take criticism, however this is beyond criticism. This is mean spirited teasing that should never be tolerated by any member of a schools faculty. I just need objective opinions on the situation. I'm going to talk to my son tomorrow and make it clear that the hitting is not acceptable and there are other means to deal with situations like this. We talked to him tonight, but I want him to feel like I'm on his side, I'm his protector, and that he has the ability to come to me with anything. I'm going to tell him that he's to notify me immediately if the situation is not handled (i.e. kid keeps calling him stupid and it's not dealt with). I'm also going to email his teacher to find out exactly what happened and make it clear that the teasing will not be tolerated. I feel like this is a set back and he feels like everyone hates him.
BTW, this is a private school, it's small and I honestly thought this stuff would be handled better. Anyway, thoughts?