I need some cheering up please and thank you

[Miss Marley]

This is kind of a long story,

It all started in May/June this year. My friend James and I were talking about taking our friendship to the next level... but I was really busy with exams and studying and eventually said no because I wouldn't want to be the girlfriend who neglected her boyfriend. He said he'd wait for me, and I said don't, who knows what might come along... and he'd said that there was nothing better than me.

As these past few months have gone on, I've been busy, and things have started to quiet down and I have realized just how much I care for him, and tonight I took a leap and asked him if he was still interested, and I said that I really cared about him, and I was just so nervous... and then dropped the bomb. He's seeing a girl from our law class.

I felt like such an idiot, I mean I should have known better. He's such a great guy, someone else would've seen it and taken the chance. I just waited too long.

Its my own fault, and I think thats what's hurting the most right now. I can't even cuddle Marley because I got home tonight and she ate one of my books. So she's crated for the night.

Ugh this sucks so much. I just want to go and eat myself into a stupor. I'm exercising all restraint that I have. I am just so effin sad.

 

[smkie]

ahhh crating her for the night will not teach her the lesson you want her to learn..you made your point with her she knows your not happy..but let her do what she will need to do the most and that is to help you..uncrate her, pull her close, show her the book and say you didn't like that but you still love her forever and always and see what happens..the book doesn't matter, but love does. She will learn two things..one that the book made you sad and two...you love her more. Open it up please.

 

[bogolove]

I am so sorry. I know how hard this must be, but hind sight is always like that. You have to do what is right for you at that moment, and if it didn't work out, there is a reason that it wasn't meant to be. If he knows what he is mising, then he will come around, and if not, then he is not worth your time anyway, your precious time. You want someone who loves you enough to be patient with you and if it is not right at that moment, then it is not right. You can't blame yourself or feel stupid. I had so many things like this happen with friends, or even just guys I really liked, and now that I am married I see how in the big scheme of things, that certain people were not right for me, though I may not have seen it at the time. I was crazy for this guy for like two years, and then one day I was finally ove r it, and a few months later I met my hubby and it just clicked and I just knew. If you two are right for each other it will happen, and I truly wish the best for you, but keep your head up bc it is not your fault for being true to yourself and to your friend. You were the bigger person for admitting that you were not ready /did not have time to devote to a relationship. It'll all work out, I am sure of it.

 

[bogolove]

ahhh crating her for the night will not teach her the lesson you want her to learn..you made your point with her she knows your not happy..but let her do what she will need to do the most and that is to help you..uncrate her, pull her close, show her the book and say you didn't like that but you still love her forever and always and see what happens..the book doesn't matter, but love does. She will learn two things..one that the book made you sad and two...you love her more. Open it up please.

I agree, pull her out and love on her. If it will make you feel better, and that is the therapy you need, why deny yourself or your sweet girl? Besides she can't remember what she did so she doesn't really remember why she is in the crate, and the crate should be her happy place, never her bad place. Give her a treat and love on that girl.

 

[Miss Marley]

Thanks

Her happy place is actually on my pillow lol. She sleeps there every night.

I didn't put her in the crate, my mom did. And I'll let her out for now, but If I value my life I'll put her back for the night.

 

[blue]

Go cuddle and play with your dog, crating her all night isnt gonna teach her anything.

Besides you got a dog for company and to make you happy when you are down, let her cheer you up.

 

[GlassOnion]

Yah go curl up with your dog.

And if misery loves company, I'm here.

At least you asked him. I went a while without asking a girl out who I really wanted to but didn't, only to find out she liked me as well (classic...).

So at least you tried.