I might lose my dog!
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I'm sorry to hear about the loss. I do think it was best for the dog as it seems he does not like mankind. Good luck with the new pup, actually when I was looking into getting a dog I was hoping for a schipperke! I bet she's wayyy cute. Remember, patience is key! I think it's odd though, that your mom bought the dog and just left it with you as it is her purchase, and a puppy requires a LOT of attention and care! Weird. Well anyway, I hope it all goes well--
One thing I forgot to add -- (this is not a slaponthehand just a serious concern!) Please, never ever ever ever EVER hit an animal again. I'm sure this has affected Capone maybe even more deeply than what your neighbor did and probably even confused him. -In that, he loves you -- and you physically hurt him. Beings learn from those who they love most.
I am sure you understand already that is inappropriate behaviour, however, many people are just prone to repeat subconsious behaviour. It's hard to ration when you're stressed and frusterated, I know this above many things!
Just, take care, and love any animals that you associate with. Remember you are shaping their little impressionable hearts and minds in everything you do.
I hope all goes well for you concerning your personal health and well being. I'm not giving you pity or anything like that, like i mentioned above, I can relate to the social stuff. : ) Take care.
One thing I forgot to add -- (this is not a slaponthehand just a serious concern!) Please, never ever ever ever EVER hit an animal again. I'm sure this has affected Capone maybe even more deeply than what your neighbor did and probably even confused him. -In that, he loves you -- and you physically hurt him. Beings learn from those who they love most.
I am sure you understand already that is inappropriate behaviour, however, many people are just prone to repeat subconsious behaviour. It's hard to ration when you're stressed and frusterated, I know this above many things!
Just, take care, and love any animals that you associate with. Remember you are shaping their little impressionable hearts and minds in everything you do.
I hope all goes well for you concerning your personal health and well being. I'm not giving you pity or anything like that, like i mentioned above, I can relate to the social stuff. : ) Take care.
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I am so sorry to hear about Capone. That made me cry and thinking of what it was like to have to put my cat down! I had my husband go in with him because I couldnt bare to see him die. Now I feel guilt because I wasnt with him and I should have been. It's just one of them things, whether you was with him or not, you will feel guilt. But know one thing, Capone loved you and he knew you loved him.
As for the new puppy....your mom should have waited. She certainly shouldnt have left him for you to take care of but it could be she just was so desperate to make you feel better she thought the puppy would help. Poor judgement. But she might have thought she was doing a good thing.
Please dont take out your saddness on this puppy. No this puppy will never replace Capone. But remember it isnt the puppies fault she was brought into your home when you wasnt ready. Dont ever make this puppy suffer because of a bad decision to take it in. She is there, give her a chance. Dont yell at her to get away, she doesnt understand about Capone dying. She is an innocent little thing that had no say in any of this. For Capone, see to it this little girl has a wonderful happy life and that she is always treated with love and kindness.
As for the new puppy....your mom should have waited. She certainly shouldnt have left him for you to take care of but it could be she just was so desperate to make you feel better she thought the puppy would help. Poor judgement. But she might have thought she was doing a good thing.
Please dont take out your saddness on this puppy. No this puppy will never replace Capone. But remember it isnt the puppies fault she was brought into your home when you wasnt ready. Dont ever make this puppy suffer because of a bad decision to take it in. She is there, give her a chance. Dont yell at her to get away, she doesnt understand about Capone dying. She is an innocent little thing that had no say in any of this. For Capone, see to it this little girl has a wonderful happy life and that she is always treated with love and kindness.
I'm crying reading about what happened to Capone. You made the right decision and do have to grieve over him. It's hard not to blame yourself, but take things a day at a time and you'll slowly be able to deal with him being gone.
Your mom was probably trying her best to help you cope but just doesn't realize that you really need time to yourself without another dog to take care of. When your mom gets back, sit down and have a talk with her explaining how you feel inside. Do you have someone who can help you with the puppy till you mom gets back?
Again, we're here for you if you need to talk.
Your mom was probably trying her best to help you cope but just doesn't realize that you really need time to yourself without another dog to take care of. When your mom gets back, sit down and have a talk with her explaining how you feel inside. Do you have someone who can help you with the puppy till you mom gets back?
Again, we're here for you if you need to talk.
I can't imagine how more torn up you are by being there with Capone when the "time came". Don't beat yourself up. Just learn from it, know that Capone wasn't in any pain and didn't feel his passing (he just went to sleep in his loving owner's arms, so he was comfortable). And learn from your lessons! A major investigation into any breeder before getting a pup is a must! Make sure they are properly socialized and if you don't know what that means, just ask us! And call other previous litter pup buyers to see how their dogs turned out. Life starts with the pup at birth and it's up to the breeder to make sure they will be mentally healthy before placement at 8 weeks. Then it is up to you to be their mentor and leader when you bring them in your home. And that includes much more socialization... throughout their entire life.
This is a BIG reason I will only rescue a young adult or older dog. They've been evaluated and you know what you're getting. And they are the real dogs in need of homes. Everyone wants a "puppy", only to have something like what happened to you down the road or "they get too big" or "eat too much" or "shed too much" yadda, yadda, yadda (which I know isn't your case). People will argue "If we get a puppy, we will have more years with it and get to turn it into the dog we want!" That's bull. No one is guaranteed how many years any dog will live or what their personality will be when they're a puppy.
Your mom was wrong to automatically get another puppy and shove it off on you then leave on vacation. Her heart is in the right place, but she wasn't thinking. Please do the best you can with this new pup and try and have a conversation with your mom about the situation. If she was doing it for YOU, before you were ready for another pup and the responsibilities that come along with it, that's just plain wrong. Hopefully, deep down, it was for HER and the dog will still be loved, socialized, and taken care of appropriately. Please keep us posted and don't beat yourself up. God bless...
This is a BIG reason I will only rescue a young adult or older dog. They've been evaluated and you know what you're getting. And they are the real dogs in need of homes. Everyone wants a "puppy", only to have something like what happened to you down the road or "they get too big" or "eat too much" or "shed too much" yadda, yadda, yadda (which I know isn't your case). People will argue "If we get a puppy, we will have more years with it and get to turn it into the dog we want!" That's bull. No one is guaranteed how many years any dog will live or what their personality will be when they're a puppy.
Your mom was wrong to automatically get another puppy and shove it off on you then leave on vacation. Her heart is in the right place, but she wasn't thinking. Please do the best you can with this new pup and try and have a conversation with your mom about the situation. If she was doing it for YOU, before you were ready for another pup and the responsibilities that come along with it, that's just plain wrong. Hopefully, deep down, it was for HER and the dog will still be loved, socialized, and taken care of appropriately. Please keep us posted and don't beat yourself up. God bless...
Oliver, I too send my love and sympathy to you. I echo EliNHunter.....don't take your frustrations out on this new pup. You seemed disappointed that it's a female ...she's still a creature of God that is now in your care. We're here to help you. Why don't you start a new post.....tell us her name and start anew ! If we didn't make mistakes through life, how would we learn.?? This is a new chapter in your young life...move on...Capone's in a better place and you were with him as he passed over..it's a bitter/sweet happening. I only wish I could go on that way when the time comes !! be brave...Grammy
Some Trainers who specialize in aggressive dogs will sometimes take them train them and then train YOU how to handle him but their hard to find. im so sorry this has happened. I have three well behaved and trained American Pitbull Terriers who are the sweetest most well behaved dogs i have eve known. But i have put tons of time into training them and socializing them in the first place because I did'nt want to go through want your going through. Good luck is all I can say and keep us updated.
I'm so sorry. Don't beat yourself up. Move on. Be strong. I don't think you caused all this. I think dogs are born with various temperaments and some just aren't good, no matter what you do. So, try to take an interest in this new life which was given to you to make things better. Step up to the plate and learn all you can. I truly believe things happen for a reason. Sometimes we don't see the reason at first. But I bet down the road, you will. This pup might turn out to be your best friend. She doesn't replace Capone. No dog can ever replace another. But it is a new life which deserves the love you have and can give. You obviously have a big, full heart or you wouldn't be so torn up. Now, just turn it to good use. The sharpness of this pain will ease in time. Bless you.
Please know you can vent here...please take your frustrations out on us ! it's hard Oliver. But Capone's gone and you have to move on. You'll never forget, it never gets easier. It's another chapter in your life. If you don't want to vent here, please PM Grammy......I've been where you are many,many times.