I HAVE MADE MY MIND UP! cracking down!

[hedwig]

first of all im going to start off by describing what our life is like, whats happening now n in the future n so on....

here is a thread i posted not that long ago

http://www.chazhound.com/forums/showthread.php?t=56778&highlight=do+i+make+a+worthy+owner

the situation is exactly the same now as it is then, the only difference is the fact im struggling with money a little, but i have decided to hunt for a full time job including live in jobs.

there are no jobs at the moment in my legua, i only have experience with animals n cleaning but these jobs are all taken so i will start looking further afield, which i didnt really want to do becuase i will have to leave my family.

but i need to lead my own life n cant do that sat in my mums house so at least i will be able to live freely,

i have been ringing trainers EVERYWHERE but they all closed so i left messages so im hoping we can over come brunos fears.

bruno is well trained (now) the only real problem is his fear of strangers and him snapping occasionaly.

most of the time people dont bother to even try touch him because he looks scary lol but when they do he snaps.

he is alot better then he was, he used to tie me to trees to try get away from people but he camly sits next to me now.

as for rehoming, i stand by what i said, i would rehome IF i thought someone could offer a more secure home for him. IF! I never even considered taking him to a shelter because he will be pts for sure. i will still consider fostering as this will give me a chance to set a home up for us alot faster.

i still dont think i was irrisposible to buy him as he would of been pts if i hadnt of taken him, plus i was in a stable relationship, with plenty of money,
it just didnt work out so we moved back to mums, thinks were not perfect but we were getting through it, and i would never of considered rehoming if my sister wasnt moving back here soon, this one house cannot support us all, and who could preddict this was to happen.
so if your house burnt to the floor or got flooded n you had to suddenly move to a no animal shelter, you wouldnt CONSIDER rehoming even though its better for the dog?

i accept my resposibilty and will stand by him for better for worst and like i have said many times, if someone can offer better care then me then i would want that.

no one is likely to want to rehome a nervy dog so i will always have him by my side because i would rather die first then let him be pts!

my situation is not ideal but managable, but its time to pull the weight n get cracking to find a new home for us!

i was so deppressed when i last posted that message but i think i finally got my wake up call

 

[~Jessie~]

I just saw that you tried to find a home for him in March:

http://www.chazhound.com/forums/showthread.php?t=49441

 

[Sunnierhawk0]

opcorn: opcorn:

 

[~Jessie~]

I don't mean to be rude, but you mean to tell me that you couldn't find a job in 4 months? Or spend time training and rehabilitating this dog in that time?

 

[Doberluv]

This thread is just like the other one. Do we really need two of the same? Couldn't we continue this on the other one and ditch this one?

I think it souds like you're having a hard time, you're confused and want to do the right thing. That is why the indecision Jessie, I'm thinking. It's tough, but if you pull yourself up by the boot straps, it can be done.

There was a story once (I think posted here?) a news story...where a bum with no home who ate in donated soup kitchens and such had an old dog by his side. There was a picture of them. The dog looked well fed and content and the two of them were like two peas in a pod. They stuck together like glue....a homeless old man and an old dog who had been through it together for a lot of years. Now, that was true love.

 

[hedwig]

i did try n rehome yes because even though i was allowed back at mums the council didnt like me having the dog n wehad no fencing, but we sorted it out, i repeat, i wanted the best for him that was then this is now.

and i was working yes with the rabbit breeder, very poor money but it was the only job i could get at the time, i also did some tempory cleaning jobs, and bits and bobs, and i have been training him myself, its not like i let him run riot you no!

LOOKS LIKE IM WASTING MY TIME TRYING TO TALK TO YOU ANYWAY

you think im a back stabber, irrissonsible coward who doesnt deserve to live let alone own a dog, why try n talk to people here, no matter what i say you have already made your mind up!

 

[Beanie]

I have a friend who's been trying to get a job for 8 months, even applying at food service and secretary jobs. Most of the places didn't even call her back. She kept a running tally of how many resumes and applications she turned in one week and it was over 40.
The job situation sucks in a lot of places right now. I don't doubt that somebody can try very very VERY hard to find a job and still come up empty - I personally did the same thing, twice, for three month long periods. It can definitely happen.

that's all I'm going to interject here.

 

[Sunnierhawk0]

Do not get mad at people trying to understand your situation hedwig.....

I dont think anyone said you dont deserve to live???? Last time I checked there wasnt a Chaz hitlist out, with hitman waiting to follow you home

 

[hedwig]

ya never no! i keep seeing shadows.........arrrrrrrgh!

 

[noludoru]

I know this is going to sound rude.. but are you a guy or a girl!?!? (not what you thought I was going to say, I bet, LOL) I am o confused. I have heard him he she her they, and I don't know. I'm sorry. I don't know a polite way of asking...

Edit: nevermind, I see. All of you posted before me, I had no idea I took so long LOL.

 

[hedwig]

im a girly, tom boy actually!

harry potters owl is called hedwig! A GIRL ALSO I MIGHT ADD LOL

 

[noludoru]

That's what I thought. You sound female and Hedwig the owl is female, as is the Goddess her name is based on. (I think it's a goddess, right? Something in mythology)

 

[ToscasMom]

Last time I checked there wasnt a Chaz hitlist out, with hitman waiting to follow you home

...else I would have been gone long ago!:lol-sign:

 

[Renee750il]

Job situations are rough in a lot of places, and when you're depressed, it's very much more difficult to get hired.

It sounds as if you're making yourself a plan, Hedwig, to dig the two of you out of this funk. I'd bet, too, that when you feel better, Bruno will also do much better and you'll be able to make more progress on his fears.

 

[Boemy]

That's what I thought. You sound female and Hedwig the owl is female, as is the Goddess her name is based on. (I think it's a goddess, right? Something in mythology)

I thought Hedwig was an obscure saint. I could be wrong . . . Maybe she's a goddess and a saint (and an owl. )

Hedwig, I think you and Bruno can get through this. Carefully make a list of what you want to do, what you can do right now, and what you need to do to achieve your goals.

Regarding the housing situation . . . I sympathize with your desire to move out of your mom's house, especially with your sister coming, but it's sooo much cheaper to live at home. Be sure you figure out all the costs of food, electricity, heat, etc, before you move into a flat.

Are you planning on moving into a flat in the town / area you're in now, or somewhere else? Maybe you can find an area with better jobs / more jobs somewhere else. Of course, you absolutely should have a job that pays for rent, heat, the dog, etc, BEFORE you move. Not being able to pay the rent sucks!

 

[Kase]

Hedwig I know it can get hard sometimes and you know sometimes giving up and running away is the easiest option but I know Bruno loves you and you love him so you can get through this if you set your heart on it. Good luck!

 

[ToscasMom]

I thought Hedwig was an obscure saint. I could be wrong

No I believe you are right.

 

[Aussie Red]

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[hedwig]

thanks for the people that gave advice x

 

[Ladychaos]

well hedwig I don't know the backstory on any of this but maybe my situation will give you some insight. Right now I am in a tough situation I have no job, no car, no money saved, well no money period, 2 cats, and a dog. Here is what is going on. I just got dumped out of a three year relationship/engagement. I know it has happened before. I am in the same **** situation I was in about 6 months ago. I have no car, no money, and I have been looking for a job for 8 months with no luck and only 3 interviews with no call backs. I am now living with my ex, he is moving out at the end of august. I have no place to go, no one I can stay with. If I rehomed my cats hey my idiot dad might let me stay with him. His wife and his daughter are both allergic. But I could never rehome any of my animals. Well my dad compared my compassion for my animals to that of a hoarder, I called him to help me co-sign a loan for student loans. So I can goto college. Instead of saying yes or no he lectured me on how bad my choices are. Oh and he said maybe me being dumped was a good thing. So you can see my relationship with him isn't a good one. I don't talk to most of my family. My grandma (mom's mom) doesn't want my animals there, but I could stay with her if I didn't have them! My mom doesn't have the room for me or my animals because of her husband and his daughter, that situation is a whole nother pile of stress. So I was dumped july 7th. I was looking at basically being homeless but I made out a gameplan in less than 12 hours. I applied for a student loan, got approved without a co-signer, enrolled into heald college even though no one has once told me heald was a good school if anything "its to expensive" "its not good enough" ect, ect. I am currently looking for roommates the only type of affordable housing willing to accept pets. California is ridiculously expensive. I am still waiting for paperwork to be mailed to me by the bank for my loan so i can sign it, fax it back to them, and then they mail me a check. That money is going to be used to pay for school, a roommate, new clothes, a new laptop, and a car. Then I will have to go get a part time job and goto school and work non-stop. I have been stressing non-stop about every little detail in life. And I've had no one telling me I can do it. I have to get a part time job while going to school full time. And do you know why I have to do all of this? Because of my animals no one in my family will help me. They are the reason why I was almost homeless. I am doing all of this so I can keep all three of them. I've took nothing but flak for caring about them. Oh and to top it all off Coal's medical problems are back and I cannot afford to take him back to the vet. I feel like a horrible owner because I can't help him. But luckily I have a lot of kind people actually offering to cover the costs to take him to the vet and take care of his skin problem. I've been dealing with his skin issues since he was a pup. It started off as just a bad flea infestation, turned into demodex, turned into skin yeast, and is just an ongoing battle. I've had my heart broken by the same guy twice, I've been abandoned by my family and all I have are my animals. So I don't know really how hard your situation is, I don't know what you are going threw. But that is what I am going threw. And if I can go threw all of that (and that is the cliffnote version!) and make it out the other end okay I am pretty sure anyone can do it especially if you have a place to go.