...and it's hard when we're supposed to be 'friends'. this weekend was really stressful.
Me and my husband have known this girl for a few years... she has 'issues' by the truckload, but I won't get into it. When we first got Moro as a puppy, she lived with us for a few months because she came to our house one day, bawling, saying her boyfriend had tried to stab her and she was scared and had nowhere else to go. During this time, she had her small dog at our house, and it really helped Moro as a puppy with being afraid of people, slowly Moro began to come out of her shell. She was also good to Moro and to this day, of course, Moro still adores her and showers her with affection.
She got kicked out of our house for reasons I'd rather not get into... she did something very disrespectful to me and basically caused a lot of drama and pain in our house. I've tried to forgive her and consider her a friend again, but I really don't think I ever will.
Anyway, fast forward a few months... she met someone, a really good guy who's been a friend of ours for many years, longer than we've known her. They live together. He works 12 hour days. She doesn't work at all. We both care about the guy she's with, and so I try hard to stay on good terms with her, for his sake, even though...I really dislike her and I don't want her around.
They have (I think, it's been a while since I went to their house) 3 dogs and 4 cats. From what I've heard, their house is in ruins. The dogs chew up everything. One of the dogs is a malamute and very dog aggressive and even people aggressive. She brought the mal over once and it growled and snapped at Moro every time she came near, even though Moro rolled over to show she was being submissive and was trying so hard to be playful and nice.
Anyway, as some of you might know, we had near-blizzard conditions here these last few days. The two of them have no heat in their house. So they stayed with us pretty much all weekend. They just bought an XBox 360 and they brought it to our house, because "I don't want the dogs to destroy it." Yes, they have money for a freakin' XBox, but not to get the heat turned back on in their house.
I almost wanted to get physically violent with this girl this weekend, when she started telling me how "Moro is such a good dog because I WAS THERE to coax her out of being shy" etc. Then she goes on to tell me that HER dogs are tearing up the house because "they're mad that I'm never home". THEN she tells me that she hasn't fed them in a day, and asked me if dogs can live without food for one day.
I gave her some kibble for the smaller dogs and some meat to give to the mal, and told her to go home and feed them. I don't have cats so I couldn't do anything for them. I almost wanted to invite their animals to stay with us this weekend, since they're all alone in that house with no heating and no food, but I'm concerned about the mal's aggression issues with Moro, and I'm very allergic to cats so I couldn't do it anyway.
This girl doesn't work. So she could be home all day with the dogs, teaching them not to tear stuff up. But she says "I don't like being at home by myself", so while her man is at work for 12 hours, she goes off doing god knows what with god knows who. And leaves all the animals by themselves to do whatever they want. Then her boyfriend gets home, after a 12 hour day, and wants to eat something and go to sleep...doesn't want to pick up after their house-destroying dogs. I don't really blame him, she is the one at home with no job, so she should be taking care of them. These dogs are lonely and bored, and so their house just continually gets worse and she refuses to do anything...and I think he's just so stressed from work and depressed about the situation, that he's given up. I don't know.
It just burned me up when I heard her running her stupid mouth about how Moro is a good dog because of HER influence, when her own pets are languishing in a cold house with no food and no attention. I want to remain on good terms with her as long as she's dating our friend, and he probably knows by now that he should break up with her crazy butt, but it isn't really my place to tell him that. I just don't know how long I can hold out being nice to her. I hate to say no when they ask to stay with us because their house is so cold. I'm not the kind of person to turn someone in need away. But every time I see her now... well, what I want to do to her would probably get me arrested
I think this girl is spoiled and has had someone do everything for her pretty much her whole life, and doesn't understand how to take care of herself. I don't know.
I hate the whole situation. I'm glad to know that her dogs got to eat for one night at least, but I have no idea how many nights go by where she doesn't feed them. Christ.
Me and my husband have known this girl for a few years... she has 'issues' by the truckload, but I won't get into it. When we first got Moro as a puppy, she lived with us for a few months because she came to our house one day, bawling, saying her boyfriend had tried to stab her and she was scared and had nowhere else to go. During this time, she had her small dog at our house, and it really helped Moro as a puppy with being afraid of people, slowly Moro began to come out of her shell. She was also good to Moro and to this day, of course, Moro still adores her and showers her with affection.
She got kicked out of our house for reasons I'd rather not get into... she did something very disrespectful to me and basically caused a lot of drama and pain in our house. I've tried to forgive her and consider her a friend again, but I really don't think I ever will.
Anyway, fast forward a few months... she met someone, a really good guy who's been a friend of ours for many years, longer than we've known her. They live together. He works 12 hour days. She doesn't work at all. We both care about the guy she's with, and so I try hard to stay on good terms with her, for his sake, even though...I really dislike her and I don't want her around.
They have (I think, it's been a while since I went to their house) 3 dogs and 4 cats. From what I've heard, their house is in ruins. The dogs chew up everything. One of the dogs is a malamute and very dog aggressive and even people aggressive. She brought the mal over once and it growled and snapped at Moro every time she came near, even though Moro rolled over to show she was being submissive and was trying so hard to be playful and nice.
Anyway, as some of you might know, we had near-blizzard conditions here these last few days. The two of them have no heat in their house. So they stayed with us pretty much all weekend. They just bought an XBox 360 and they brought it to our house, because "I don't want the dogs to destroy it." Yes, they have money for a freakin' XBox, but not to get the heat turned back on in their house.
I almost wanted to get physically violent with this girl this weekend, when she started telling me how "Moro is such a good dog because I WAS THERE to coax her out of being shy" etc. Then she goes on to tell me that HER dogs are tearing up the house because "they're mad that I'm never home". THEN she tells me that she hasn't fed them in a day, and asked me if dogs can live without food for one day.
I gave her some kibble for the smaller dogs and some meat to give to the mal, and told her to go home and feed them. I don't have cats so I couldn't do anything for them. I almost wanted to invite their animals to stay with us this weekend, since they're all alone in that house with no heating and no food, but I'm concerned about the mal's aggression issues with Moro, and I'm very allergic to cats so I couldn't do it anyway.
This girl doesn't work. So she could be home all day with the dogs, teaching them not to tear stuff up. But she says "I don't like being at home by myself", so while her man is at work for 12 hours, she goes off doing god knows what with god knows who. And leaves all the animals by themselves to do whatever they want. Then her boyfriend gets home, after a 12 hour day, and wants to eat something and go to sleep...doesn't want to pick up after their house-destroying dogs. I don't really blame him, she is the one at home with no job, so she should be taking care of them. These dogs are lonely and bored, and so their house just continually gets worse and she refuses to do anything...and I think he's just so stressed from work and depressed about the situation, that he's given up. I don't know.
It just burned me up when I heard her running her stupid mouth about how Moro is a good dog because of HER influence, when her own pets are languishing in a cold house with no food and no attention. I want to remain on good terms with her as long as she's dating our friend, and he probably knows by now that he should break up with her crazy butt, but it isn't really my place to tell him that. I just don't know how long I can hold out being nice to her. I hate to say no when they ask to stay with us because their house is so cold. I'm not the kind of person to turn someone in need away. But every time I see her now... well, what I want to do to her would probably get me arrested
I think this girl is spoiled and has had someone do everything for her pretty much her whole life, and doesn't understand how to take care of herself. I don't know.I hate the whole situation. I'm glad to know that her dogs got to eat for one night at least, but I have no idea how many nights go by where she doesn't feed them. Christ.