I feel upset :(

[Lily]

Lately I have been feeling really unhappy. My parents are not talking to each other and when they do there screaming. It's really upsetting because my Mom takes it out on me. They tell me that they would never get a divorce but I’m getting worried. My older sister hates me and I don't know why. One day she just started being mean and telling me to shut up and stuff we used to play and laugh together. My little brother’s temper is really bad, but I don't blame him He's only 8. But what really make me mad is that all of this is rubbing off on my dog and making upset too.

Can anyone help me?

 

[gaddylovesdogs]

Try talking to your Mom and let her know how you feel. It's not right of her to take her anger out on you.
As for your sister...just ignore her. If she's mean to you, smile, and walk away. Don't let it bother you. And don't lower yourself enough to argue with her.

 

[Lily]

Thanks That really helps, The only thing is that I don't know how to approach my Mom to talk to her.

 

[Saje]

I agree. You need to talk to your parents. They love you and they may not realize how much they are hurting you. Sometimes it helps to put your feelings down on paper and write them a letter. Or ask your mom if you can go for a walk with her. Anything to get her to stop and think about what's going on. It sounds like she's getting caught up in the arguements and is forgetting what is going on around her.

As for your siblings, well that's a little tougher. You can try and ignore them but I know it's hard. Maybe you can talk to them too but people go through different phases of their lives at different times and you may not be able to get them to see how you feel. Try asking your sister if you've done something to make her angry or if she needs anything from you. Just talk. Don't blame her or say "you always do this..." just talk. It's hard to do but hopefully you'll get through

Talk to us whenever you need to!

 

[Lily]

Thank you guys so much! I will try to talk to my parents today.

 

[gaddylovesdogs]

The best thing about ignoring is to see the look on the person's face. They can't believe you aren't replying.

 

[Denaluvscorgis]

Lately I have been feeling really unhappy. My parents are not talking to each other and when they do there screaming. It's really upsetting because my Mom takes it out on me. They tell me that they would never get a divorce but I’m getting worried. My older sister hates me and I don't know why. One day she just started being mean and telling me to shut up and stuff we used to play and laugh together. My little brother’s temper is really bad, but I don't blame him He's only 8. But what really make me mad is that all of this is rubbing off on my dog and making upset too.

Can anyone help me?

Awwwww Lily ((((((((HUGS)))))))) It's so hard when parent's do that, and it affects their children. I have to admit that I've been guilty of that at times in my marriage, where we'll argue, and, then be silent for a few days. It certanly makes for tension within the household. I've never taken it out on my kids though.

I would just sit down with your mom or dad, which ever one is more approachable to you, and, let them know in a very calm, non-confrontational way, how much it hurts you when they do this, and, how it makes you feel. Maybe you could talk to them both together. I'm not sure what your families dynamics are.

I hope this has been a little help for you. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[smkie]

If you can'T say it, write it. Sometimes that is best anyway for it allows you time to reread what you want to say and keeps you from throwing in anger. Try to write it out without using any anger at all, and the response towards you hopefully will be the same way. I would do that with my SO, when there were troubles. Tell him i was confused by his actions and not sure what was really bothering him. Taking that approach instead of saying WHY ARE U ACTING THIS WAY TOWARD ME allowed the field to be open for a more honest conversation.I would never bring up old stuff and wouldn't allow the conversation on his end to go that way either. THe best way is to set your field on one topic and deal only with the one, good luck!

 

[filarotten]

Lilly I am so sorry. It really can be hard on kids when their parents fight. I think all parents have been guitly of that at some point in time. Just remember they love you.

I agree, a good talk my clear the air and make you feel better. (((Hugs)))

 

[Lily]

I love you guys!

 

[bubbatd]

I'm in your corner ,dear girl !! It's also hard for you to be the middle child. Your sister is probably going through that " pissy stage " with you being the whipping post because of her anger through this and Lord knows your brother needs your love and support at this time. Try to get this across to your parents. We're here for you ....sometimes just writing thoughts down helps.......I just lit a little candle for you .... tonight I'll ask one on my angels to be close to you . ((( HUGS )))

 

[Denaluvscorgis]

I love you guys!

We love you to!!!!!!!!!

 

[Renee750il]

I think that writing it out was a great suggestion, Lily. Too often, when you're talking and parents (or anyone) aren't really prepared to listen, they get defensive and nothing gets accomplished other than you feeling worse - and we don't want you feeling worse!

Try to spend more time outside, away from the tension, with your little Phillipe. That will help you AND Phillipe!