How to end a friendship?

[rowdy ridgeback]

I have been friends with this lady (Karen) on my street for two years. I would concider us good friends. We usually talk almost every day. She started asking me to do favors for me all the time and I really got sick of it and had enough. I started saying no and she got the hint. I dont mind doing stuff now and then but it was a couple times a week. It seemed like the friendship was one sided. Well she is also friends with a lady that lives across the street from her named Kim. I know Kim but I wouldnt say we are exactly friends. Our sons play together from time to time.
Last month I told my friend Karen that Caleb hasnt been over to play with Sam in a long time.(About 1 month) That day he came over. Coincidence? Anyways I will talk to Kim and she will say stuff that kind of makes me seem that my friend is telling her stuff about me. Kim has been kind of cold to me. So I feel I really need to stop my friendship with Karen. It is very childish to have a friend that does this I think. Maybe she is not that good of a friend.
How do you end a friendship? Should I ask her? Do I just not say anything? There is a lot more stuff too that you take forever to write. Just wanting to know how to end it.

 

[Debi]

I've found that it doesn't do any good to hash it out with someone like that. she isn't a good friend, or it would not be one-sided. she is a user, and most likely a gossip. I'd just get very 'busy' when she wanted something, even to chat. I'd probably smile and make apologies galore as I was walking away 'cause I had a million things to do'. she'll eventually just get it, and you'll be spared a confrontation that you don't really need. she isn't worth that effort. I don't believe in making enemies with neighbors, especially if your kids play together. but you don't have to be stuck either....just 'busy'. lol

 

[rowdy ridgeback]

Great! That is what I have been doing. I didnt know if I owed her an explaination.

 

[Jules]

That's really good advice. No, you don't owe her anything, especially if she is a gossip queen. You don't need "friends" like that. You said, you're hubby is a Marine somewhere else, especially if her husband is military, too, I'd say stay away from her. There is too much sh*t going on with "that" kind of wives or women, it's only drama in the end.

 

[Buckshot]

Ask her to help you hide a body

 

[rowdy ridgeback]

No her husband is not in the military. We dont live on a military base. Sorry that your husband is deployed. Mine is too but not in Iraq. Buckshot, I didnt understand the remark.

 

[rowdy ridgeback]

Jules I just saw that you are in NC. Are you at Lejuene or Cherry Point?

 

[LorriF]

LOL @ Buckshot--that would work!!

No, you don't owe her an explanation at all. Just kind of be unavailable, but civil if you run into each other. I had a similar situation when we first moved here--I made friends with one lady, but she was a terrible gossip and always wanted to know personal info. Her granddaughter played with my daughter, but was horribly mean to her, and this woman would just laugh and think it funny. I just started being busy and she got the hint. Now we still talk if we run into each other, but I don't have her stopping by every day

 

[Renee750il]

All good advice . . . well, almost all, lol!

Buckshot, you silly man . . . never, ever, ever ask a gossip to help you hide a body