How long did it take for you to fall in love with you SO?

[Brattina88]

So me and some of my friends were arguing over the whole "love at first sight" thing lol. Some of the ones who have been married for a while said that it took them quiet a while to fall in love with their husbands. Others said if there isn't a spark on the 3rd date (or so) then he wasn't "the one". So naturally I was wondering what all the chazzers would have to say about that

 

[CharlieDog]

Hmm. We met in high school. I knew about two months or so in I guess. Still together now, so I must have known something lol

 

[stardogs]

There was a spark when we first met - which is why he's the only guy who I made the first move for lol - but the real flame probably wasn't there until 3 or 4 months in. We've been together for 8 years, married for 4, and every year that flame continues to grow.

 

[GipsyQueen]

I knew right away. (before our first date).

 

[oakash]

Probably about an hour. Of course, he doesn't know that he's destined to become my SO, in fact, we haven't talked in a while since he's gone back to college, so maybe I should step out of this thread... P

 

[maxfox426]

My husband and I also started dating in high school, my junior year and he was a senior. I wouldn't say there was a "spark" or that I knew he was "the one" right away. I mean, looking back, I guess I kinda knew, but I never let myself THINK it at the time. (He was also my first boyfriend, so I was trying to be rational as best as a lovestruck highschool girl could, because that stuff only happens in movies, right? )

Later, we learned that we had basically been spying on one another for the previous two years of high school. Neither of us fully realized it, we just had these stories of "that guy" or "that girl" and then the realizations of "Hey, 'that girl/that guy' was ME!" :rofl1:

We dated for seven years before we got married (he proposed the month after I graduated from college), and next month will be Year Five of marriage.

 

[thebigcheese]

I think this is highly subjective and it'll be different for every person. In this sense there's no "right" answer.

I'm not married but I've been in a relationship for 5 years, we were friends at first for about 6 months. It just sort of naturally turned into a romantic relationship. So there was no love at first sight etc for me.

 

[RedHotDobe]

I said I was going to marry him as soon as I saw him.

 

[-bogart-]

HMM , I knew I wanted him , not as a forever thing , but I wanted him to be mine and he needed to be out of the situation he was in. He was a friend of my dads and I knew him for years and saw his first marriage collapse and saw the psycho he was with abuse him . I knew what a wonderful person he is and had to fix it. Well in the whole get his life stable era I resisted falling in love , he told me like a month or so before I realized I could not just walk away when the dust settled.
I told my dad and he was pissed i stole his friend but so happy to have a wonderful son in law finally .

Right after We got together officially his mom died and Caleb started having seizures , we where each others rocks and from then on it is Him and I against the world.
I know him , I know every thought he makes and feeling he has every wish and desire , We have long conversation in a glance . He can even go shopping for me a pick exactly what i will wear or not better than I. He even gets the sizes right and for a fat chick that is true love.
He knows me in the same way and we will be together forever , if he dies first I will be alone after until I die because no one could ever ever compare to what we have and i wont settle for anything less now i know how it is.

We have been together 10 years and I have known him for 17. There is a 10 year and 4 month age difference. I am younger than he is.

 

[RD]

Uhh. I met Tony online and I didn't WANT there to be anything more than friendship/gaming between us. I didn't want any long distance relationships, my previous relationship (also long distance) had ended within the past year, and all I really saw in him was someone to play games and joke with on the internet. We actually got to talking because I was on ventrilo being as disgusting and crude as possible. Definitely nothing there to start with.

I knew him online for a couple of years before we started dating, and I loved him for most of that time too. I was extremely fond of him after a couple days and sought out his company at every opportunity. Probably after 4-5 months of talking to him for hours every day I allowed myself to admit how attached I was.

I didn't know what he looked like until well after I was emotionally attached, so there really was no "first sight" for me. When I first saw him in person, I already knew I loved him.

We are kind of weird though, but even excluding my current relationship, I have never had a case of love at first sight. I do however see a person and think "I MUST get to know this person". I work with one of those people that caught my interest early on, and he just happens to be one of the least friendly people working my shift. Yet my stupid brain keeps telling me to MAKE FRIENDS WITH HIM, even though common sense keeps telling me HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS.

 

[CharlieDog]

I wouldn't say there was a "spark" or that I knew he was "the one" right away. I mean, looking back, I guess I kinda knew, but I never let myself THINK it at the time. (He was also my first boyfriend, so I was trying to be rational as best as a lovestruck highschool girl could, because that stuff only happens in movies, right? )

Later, we learned that we had basically been spying on one another for the previous two years of high school. Neither of us fully realized it, we just had these stories of "that guy" or "that girl" and then the realizations of "Hey, 'that girl/that guy' was ME!" :rofl1:

Basically this, except we were both seniors.

 

[sparks19]

Almost instantly. Even before we met in person I knew I could spend the rest of my life with him. The first time we met in person it was an instant and we couldn't stand to be apart anymore

We have been married for 7 years and it just keeps getting better and we are constantly finding a new level of loving each other.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

lol--the first time I met my husband I thought he was a big jerk. Circumstances threw us together in a way that I got to know the real him--and it was probably about three months later that we both knew we were in it for the long haul. I was 18--he was 19. We met at college--but were apart every summer--so enough to know that we wanted to be together. Married for 26 years now. First impressions are not always correct.

 

[Samantha's pet]

Thought I loved him instantly. We moved in together after a year. Fought a lot, got married and had a baby anyway. I hated him for a while. We worked through it. I was miserable off and on, finally I grew up and after 5 years (in Dec.) I can confidently say that I am very in love with my husband and the happiest I have ever been! It took a while, lol. We have just grown so much closer as a family in the last year. I think we have finally figured out how to get along and make each other happy. Some would say we should have probably given up years ago and at that time I may have agreed but then we wouldn't be where we are now.

 

[Paige]

With Briggs' father I fell for him right away, but I didn't let myself believe it for a little over a month. I loved him so intensely. He was my first everything (boyfriend, kiss, lost my virginity to him, first kid's father) and I still have a very soft spot for him despite the fact he isn't a very involved father. I'd certainly say for both of us it was maybe not quite love at first sight but there was, and probably always will be, a very special connection him and I share.

For Tyler, my second boyfriend it took months of us being together for me to feel it. He fell for me right away but my guard was up from my previos relationship and I don't think I ever entirely let it drop.

 

[Dizzy]

I always liked him. We met through friend, sort of....... Both involved in a party scene at the time, and used to coordinate parties on a forum. The difference being that everyone on there knew each other in 'real life' because we met up frequently in forests

I met him when we were at a party. He bounced up drunk, covered in beer and asked if I was Dizzy (my nickname was Dizzy - bizarre eh ). I said yes, that was that.

We stayed in touch online, facebook, msn etc. Always flirted, we clicked and he made me laugh. I wouldn't say we were 'into' each other or planning anything at all. Although we were engaged for awhile on facebook and used to joke about getting married one day.

We met up again about 4 or 5 years later, and that was that

It took me awhile to let myself go and fall in love, but I do love him billions, and I know that I never felt like that about ex's. I don't plan on ever leaving him, and we're both in it for the long haul. Talk about growing old, kids, houses and our future.

 

[darkchild16]

I knew he was more then just a boyfriend after the few times we talked but the first time I knew exactly what he was suppossed to be was when he skipped firefighter training to sit on the phone with me while Bev had a echo at 3 months old.
Weve had our problems and have almost thrown in the towel before but I never stopped loving him through it all. I hoped I wouldnt at times but that never happened.

 

[Dogdragoness]

A long time lol, he was wild when I met him & I wasn't gonna settle for being anyone's (fling of the week) I didn't give him an ultimatum I just said that that wasn't my style, so we remained friends for a while (no bed escapades lol) til he came to me & told me he wanted a real relationship.

 

[*blackrose]

I knew of him before I even met him, through a mutual friend. What I knew of him had me thinking, "Hm. He seems like a really cool guy." First date I knew I was in it for the long haul - which, from me, was pretty much the beginnings of love. Probably two weeks in, I knew I loved him. A year and some change later we just keep growing and I'm looking forward to spending my life with him. /end being sappy

 

[k9krazee]

I worked very closely with my guy every day for over a year, he was my mentor & teacher. We spent a lot of time outside of work at dinner and different events. I've always been drawn to him and obviously wanted to spend time with him but I never thought anything would come of it. He is 15 years older than me, we were both in "serious", long distance relationships of 5 & 7 years and most importantly, colleagues.

One day we got drunk & he told me that he was falling in love with me. Shocked, I didnt know what to do or say. We didn't see each other for an entire week and all I could do was think about it all. Once I gave myself permission to love him (we went through the appropriate avenues --broke up with SOs and had a meeting with our boss) I realized I had always loved him & he is my favorite person in the world. I can't spend enough time with him and I don't know how I went so long without him. I now know what love & happiness are. /cheese

ETA So I can't say for SURE when I started to love him but it was before we were ever officially a couple. We have plans to get married and I'm moving in with him within the next month. It still feels like a dream.