How can anyone be so stupid? Rant!
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That's very sad. I really don't know if my teenagers realize how overheated a person or animal gets in a hot car in a very short amount of time. I would be telling them before they drove off with one of my animals, though. We live in Florida, so a great part of the year it's too hot to leave an animal in a car unattended. In fact, my daughter does occasionally take my dog to her apartment, and I have told her not to leave him in the car alone and that it's too hot, but she's no longer a teenager.
We've had several cases of parents forgetting their babies, too, in the last few years around here. And one day care worker leaving a baby buckled in the day care bus....forgot about it.
I never understand it, but my husband says he's so forgetful that he sometimes wonders if he could have ever done something like that when he hears these parents say they forgot the kid was in the car. He never did, though, so I guess he couldn't.
Also, a small kid got in the car playing without the parent's knowledge and couldn't get back out.
On a different note, and not at all tragic, but still forgetful, one of my very good friends had her first child, and the first time they went over to the grandparents to visit, they left at the end of the visit and completely forgot to take the baby. That was the first time they had left the house with the baby. He was asleep in another room, and they left like they always had in the past, just the 2 of them. The grandparents patiently waited for them to remember the child and come back to get him.
On the case of the graduation present, I don't really have an answer. As for me, I usually try not to cause family problems, but I don't know what the right thing to do is.
We've had several cases of parents forgetting their babies, too, in the last few years around here. And one day care worker leaving a baby buckled in the day care bus....forgot about it.
I never understand it, but my husband says he's so forgetful that he sometimes wonders if he could have ever done something like that when he hears these parents say they forgot the kid was in the car. He never did, though, so I guess he couldn't.
Also, a small kid got in the car playing without the parent's knowledge and couldn't get back out.
On a different note, and not at all tragic, but still forgetful, one of my very good friends had her first child, and the first time they went over to the grandparents to visit, they left at the end of the visit and completely forgot to take the baby. That was the first time they had left the house with the baby. He was asleep in another room, and they left like they always had in the past, just the 2 of them. The grandparents patiently waited for them to remember the child and come back to get him.
On the case of the graduation present, I don't really have an answer. As for me, I usually try not to cause family problems, but I don't know what the right thing to do is.
I was going to base my answer on asking about the girls attitude. I think this answers it very well. The fact she got another dog so soon clearly shows that they are no more important than a piece of furniture.
Its so sad her parents let her get another one instead of learning the very important consequences of negligence. Now its like the other dog was never gone because this is a "replacement". This sends the message that what she did is okay.
I think we get influenced by many different people in our lives. Obviously her parents did not set the right example, but by you sending a donation in the dogs name you will be making a statement that what she did was wrong.
If she was truly remoseful I would never say to send the donation, but obviosly she is not and needs a reality check.
As for having issues with the family. Some people may take the gift as very offensive and others will feel it was thoughtful. Only you know them.
Would I do it either way? Yes, because I could care less what people would think, but thats just me. You need to decide!
Its so sad her parents let her get another one instead of learning the very important consequences of negligence. Now its like the other dog was never gone because this is a "replacement". This sends the message that what she did is okay.
I think we get influenced by many different people in our lives. Obviously her parents did not set the right example, but by you sending a donation in the dogs name you will be making a statement that what she did was wrong.
If she was truly remoseful I would never say to send the donation, but obviosly she is not and needs a reality check.
As for having issues with the family. Some people may take the gift as very offensive and others will feel it was thoughtful. Only you know them.
Would I do it either way? Yes, because I could care less what people would think, but thats just me. You need to decide!
I disagree that getting a new dog pretty fast means the dogs are just a piece of furniture, as I think it's a good way of trying to forget the pain when we lose a pet.
But I agree also that the parents are probably to blame also... You don't let your daughter leave with the dogs when it's hot without reminding her not to leave them in the car - and frankly, you just don't leave a dog with a teen girl going shopping. There's definitely a lack of education there.
Anyway, about the gift, I would let your husband take care of it and not sign or anything.
But I agree also that the parents are probably to blame also... You don't let your daughter leave with the dogs when it's hot without reminding her not to leave them in the car - and frankly, you just don't leave a dog with a teen girl going shopping. There's definitely a lack of education there.
Anyway, about the gift, I would let your husband take care of it and not sign or anything.
I was just thinking if someone in my family did that, what I would do. But I cannot imagine being negative to them if they accidentally killed one of their animals. I guess because I would know it would REALLY tear them up. LIke mentioned above, it definitly depends on the person that did it and their attitude afterwards. Getting a replacement animal so quickly can be argued either way. You know her and you know your gut so go with that.
Im in FL too and it is so hot here all the time animals and babies in cars alone do not work. If I have to run in a store for a minute or so, I will leave Katie the puppy in the car with the air on...and my rule of thumb is if I cannot see the car at all times, then Katie comes with me.
Im in FL too and it is so hot here all the time animals and babies in cars alone do not work. If I have to run in a store for a minute or so, I will leave Katie the puppy in the car with the air on...and my rule of thumb is if I cannot see the car at all times, then Katie comes with me.
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This isn't a question of if there was anything wrong with it or not. It was VERY WRONG AND IRRESPONSIBLE to leave the dog in the car. That part is not under debate here. My take on the matter is that there are other people in this equation who are not guilty and those relationships have to be considered.
It's not that Keith doesn't think it was wrong, he is thinking of keeping peace in the family. I do probably have stronger feelings about it than him.
I do take mine with me to the corner store, it is quick and I can see the car. I leave the air on, and the windows down. Weird I know...but they have to see me. But, I don't take mine to the mall like she did. Texas is way to hot for that, any state is.
I am really disappointed in her. I really thought she was more responsible than that.
Hubby is going to send her a $100.00 for graduation. He is getting the card I'm not. I refused. I am going to donate the other $100.00, my money, to one of the Boxer rescues in Texas. Were both, sort of happy. To keep the peace I will only mention it at a later date and time. I promised...
I do take mine with me to the corner store, it is quick and I can see the car. I leave the air on, and the windows down. Weird I know...but they have to see me. But, I don't take mine to the mall like she did. Texas is way to hot for that, any state is.
I am really disappointed in her. I really thought she was more responsible than that.
Hubby is going to send her a $100.00 for graduation. He is getting the card I'm not. I refused. I am going to donate the other $100.00, my money, to one of the Boxer rescues in Texas. Were both, sort of happy. To keep the peace
I will only mention it at a later date and time. I promised...