"He's 14, I Got Married and Hubby Says He Has To Go!"

[FluffyZooCrew]

There's a woman on the petfinder.com classifieds in my area giving away a 14 year old terrier poodle mix. I contacted her to find out why the hell she's giving him away. She wrote back, with a photo (he's so darn precious), explaining that he is 14 years old, going on 15 and that she's had him all of his life since a puppy. He's neutered, healthy, with good hearing and vision, and still active. BUT, she got married a couple months ago, her new husband said that he doesn't want a dog, so she decided to get rid of him. Free to whoever wants him!

First, I want to slap the stupid out of her. Secondly, I'd get rid of the new man before I'd get rid of my 14 year old dog!

Ugh, stupid stupid woman!!

 

[smkie]

THat's the saddest thing ever. Horrid man. Bet this is just the first of his control issues.

 

[FluffyZooCrew]

It's so sad smkie. I'm not in a position for another one at all, especially a teenager who will eventually have health problems, probably sooner than later. Wish I knew someone who could take him in, before she hands him over to the first person that takes him off her hands.

 

[Punkygirl0101]

Just like with my aunt. She has a now 12 year old dachshund, she got married about 6 or so months ago, and the dog is banished to the outdoors. This dog was a house dog for 12 years, and then she gets remarried and he won't allow him inside, so now he has to live outside in the cold.

 

[FluffyZooCrew]

That's so sad, Punky. What is WRONG with some people?!

 

[ma-vie-en-vert]

I don't get how these things can happen. Like when you're first dating a guy won't he say something like "oh, I don't like dogs" and then you dump him before you get even close to marriage?

Weird.

 

[FluffyZooCrew]

No joke, Ma. I wondered the same thing. It's like, did you suddenly get married and THEN find out he doesn't like dogs? WTF?

Poor dog. I'd post his photo, but I don't think I can. She didn't post it on Petfinder, she e-mailed it to me, so she didn't really make it public.

But he's around 20 pounds, mostly grey like a schanuzer, but looks like a big, fluffy terrier mix, MAYBE with some poodle in him. He's precious.

 

[corgipower]

I don't get how these things can happen. Like when you're first dating a guy won't he say something like "oh, I don't like dogs" and then you dump him before you get even close to marriage?

Weird.

Yea. Like you don't make it past the first date.

 

[ma-vie-en-vert]

No joke, Ma. I wondered the same thing. It's like, did you suddenly get married and THEN find out he doesn't like dogs? WTF?

Poor dog. I'd post his photo, but I don't think I can. She didn't post it on Petfinder, she e-mailed it to me, so she didn't really make it public.

But he's around 20 pounds, mostly grey like a schanuzer, but looks like a big, fluffy terrier mix, MAYBE with some poodle in him. He's precious.

That sucks. I hope he finds a good home.

And yeah smkie, this is no doubt just the beginning of this guy's control issues.

 

[FluffyZooCrew]

I hope so too. I'm gonna call my vet in the morning and talk to the tech that's been there 15 years. She does rescue work with me, I'm gonna see if they know of anyone that would want to take him in.

 

[Buddy'sParents]

Love me, love my dogs.

You don't wanna? See yourself out the door and don't bother looking back.

 

[Tankstar]

IMO, thats just the start of a very controling lfie. I can udnerstand not liking dogs, ok. But this do is 14, let it just live with you for another 1-3 years. Not like he is a puppy. Poor dog.

When i first met Ryan he knew of my pet obsession, and I told him, you dont like pets, keep moving. At the time we had.
2dogs.
2turtles.
1 rat.
2 mice.
3 birds.
3 rabbits.
and
1 guniea pig.
lol
and that didnt scare him away.

 

[bubbatd]

Shows the man's character !!! Bye , bye !!! She couldn't have loved her dog much ! Too sad !

 

[FluffyZooCrew]

Me and my BF were together for 7 years, since I was 15 (I'm 24 now). He had a cat, no dogs, and wasn't a "dog person". Over the years, I got more dogs and he got more agitated. Eventually he wanted to marry me, but it got to the point where he wanted a life with me, but not my dogs. I showed him the door and told him to keep going.

 

[MisssAshby]

If I had the dog before we got married don't think anything will change after the wedding. If someone in the relationship isn't an animal lover and the other is it is something that needs to be talked about before getting married. It pretty much falls under the same talk as the one about kids.

If you marry someone with kids you accept the kids...if you marry someone with dogs you accept the dogs.

 

[FluffyZooCrew]

I totally agree MissAshby. And I still get flack from a few people in my family, mainly relatives, for leaving that relationship. But as I told them, why on earth would I marry someone who does not like dogs, when my whole life is about them? I raise dogs, I rescue dogs, I work and volunteer in dog related fields... it makes no sense. My house will always be full of dogs, my furniture full of dog hair, and dogs will always be a huge part of my life. To marry someone who doesn't like dogs is ridiculous. Because that is one marriage that I know wouldn't last. We argued while dating about the dogs. Imagine us being married and living together with the dogs. Boy, how much fun THAT would've been!

 

[MisssAshby]

I totally agree MissAshby. And I still get flack from a few people in my family, mainly relatives, for leaving that relationship. But as I told them, why on earth would I marry someone who does not like dogs, when my whole life is about them? I raise dogs, I rescue dogs, I work and volunteer in dog related fields... it makes no sense. My house will always be full of dogs, my furniture full of dog hair, and dogs will always be a huge part of my life. To marry someone who doesn't like dogs is ridiculous. Because that is one marriage that I know wouldn't last. We argued while dating about the dogs. Imagine us being married and living together with the dogs. Boy, how much fun THAT would've been!

I can't say you did the right thing -- only you know that. I can say that I would have made the same decision you did.

My husband grew up without any animals other than a few fish for a year or so. I grew up knowing animals my entire life and never had a doubt that I would have several dogs as an adult. Our first dog was Kai and he saw how much I spoiled her. He used to and still does make comments that I spend too much money on them (which I probably do). However, in the same breath he will tell me that he wouldn't have them any other way. His stand on it is he provides the money and I do the shopping which is fine by me.

He is also the first to tell someone that I would kick him out before I did the dogs! :rofl1:

 

[SizzleDog]

How heartbreaking... I couldn't marry someone like that. I couldn't even date someone like that.

Heck, I'd have to try really hard not to spit on someone like that. Disgusting.

 

[Jadens_Slave]

That is terribly sad. My husband wasnt much of an animal lover either, but 6 years later we now have 10 birds and 2 dogs (1 currently fostering for Typhanie) and hes perfectly okay with all of them. Despite any issues weve EVER had he has NEVER said "that dog has to go". He would hint he was annoyed but the decision was always my call.

I find alot of adds like that with parrots too. The BIGGEST excuse i find is "were havin a baby and dont have time or were moving out of state". Its extremely sad. I think when you take in an animal you take in the responsibility to care for it the rest of its life. I consider it almost like a marriage/commitment (if that makes any sense?). Grr ppl **** me off

 

[AGonzalez]

Yikes, that poor old dog!
My husband isn't the dog lover I am. He tolerates them. I knew this from the beginning though.
With that in mind, he deployed to Iraq and "we" (read: I) got a dog while he was gone. He wasn't thrilled, mainly because I didn't say anything until he came home, lol.
Then it came time to move from Arizona to New York, and when he said "we're not taking the dogs" my reply was "I hope you enjoy NY then".

The shock and awe I got from that reply was priceless. He has since realized either the dogs come with, or he goes alone. I am glad he loves me enough to put up with my crap! :rofl1: