had a big fight with mum.

[mrose_s]

i had a fight with my mum a couple of nights ago and she called my semi-boyfriend a f***wit and i lost it and swore at her and went off my face. i hate her when she is drunk. she always wants to "talk". i took off to my room and she followed me and kept yelling. i thought she might hit me or soemthing but she left. if she had come in again that night i would have taken off out my window for a couple of days. but instead she left me in my room to cry. she thinks im depressed and all but just keeps yelling at me every day to either get a job or work harder in school. i'm so confused about absolutley everythign! i don't know what to do about any aspect of my life.

i hardly even go to school anymore

 

[nancy2394]

mrose... without your education you will have a difficult time finding a job when you're an adult that pays anything remotely decent.

I know you're angry with your mom right now... but try and get motivated to go to school. It will allow you to have an outlet when things are bad at home.

Don't you have some good friends you can hang out with at school that can help get you out of this rutt you're in? Sometimes having just one close friend can make all the difference in your teenage years.

You can never get this time back... so try and make the best of it and strive to make yourself succeed. One day when you're older you will look back on these days.... MAKE THEM COUNT.

 

[Tinaweena]

Please continue to go to school. Honestly take this from somebody who is 22 and a highschool drop out. It was the biggest mistake I ever made.
If you continue to go, then in a few years you can go off and do your own thing and not rely on anybody else for anything. If you stop going, you'll always be broke (even if not totally broke). I have a job now, and make dcent money, but it's always a struggle at the end of the month to pay bills. With an education, you can earn whatever you want! I'm now starting online college courses to get outta the mess I'm in.
Stay in school...parents can only mess up a small portion of your life, don't have yourself mess up the rest by leaving school!

 

[TAVS]

I too am concerned about the school thing.
I only know one high school dropout....

She's 25, has two kids from two different fathers, isn't with either of them and lives at home with her folks. She hasn't had anything I consider a real job since she was 16.

 

[akaspaddero]

If your mother is an alcoholic, maybe you could go to some Alateen meetings or Alanon meetings. It may help you and your confusion and give you some clarity.

 

[Renee750il]

Stay in school...parents can only mess up a small portion of your life, don't have yourself mess up the rest by leaving school!

EXCELLENT observation, Tina! And expressed well! Mrose . . . you listen to Tina

Think of school as a place where your mother ISN'T.

 

[Buckshot]

You need that stupid piece of paper that says you endured getting your head crammed with useless information, 12 years of crap from peers and teachers and a little bit of information that you can actually use in life. Some of the stupidest people I know have graduated high school and some of the smartest people I know havent. The unfortunate thing is, that those smart people who couldnt handle the educational system had a very rough time getting higher education in subjects that were needed in their lives. As much as I hate to say it, if you are on pace to graduate, stay the course and get your diploma. It will make going to school for useful courses much easier.

 

[smkie]

somethings you have to do for yourself..especially when the times are ruff...

YOu know that you will need a future, you know you are an intelligent young woman...

don't lose sight of the long term because of the short crisis, they will pass one way or the other, but if you don't follow through you are selling yourself short, and that will make you feel worse then you already do. Dont make things worse, figure out what you need to make them better, what you can have control over. YOu can't change mom or boyfriends, but you can change school. Go don't miss a dang day, turn it around and you will feel much better about everything. And 5 years down the road you won't be sorry.

 

[Tinaweena]

EXCELLENT observation, Tina! And expressed well! Mrose . . . you listen to Tina

Think of school as a place where your mother ISN'T.

Thanks Renee!! Maybe they will use my new slogan on a "The More You Know" on an NBC commercial? Since it sounds so professional....

 

[Renee750il]

They should, Tina . . . they really should!

 

[Denaluvscorgis]

(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this...it's hard on kids when parents get drunk!!!

I agree with everyone else....I know it's tough, but PLEASE stay in school. It will benefit you so much in the long run. Be strong.....you can do it.....I have total faith in you!!!!! Do this for YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[bubbatd]

I agree !!! EliN didn't really want to go to College.... we were financially strapped at the time and it meant hard work and 2 jobs for her. I said give it a year . We'll, not only did she get through in 4 yrs., she now makes more than her bro. and sister who went on to Grad School . A very resonsible job and a lot of foreign travel .

 

[mrose_s]

If your mother is an alcoholic, maybe you could go to some Alateen meetings or Alanon meetings. It may help you and your confusion and give you some clarity.

my mother is NOT an alcoholic. when she gets stressed though she gets drunk more easily. she doesn't drink often. maybe 3 times a month. she's cool. its just occasionally that stuff screws up

 

[mrose_s]

and guys. please remeber i love my mother. she has saved me from a lot of worse stuff and she supports me no matter what. it was just that i needed to vent on a fight we had.

she eventually got rid of chris who made my life hell and apoligises nearly everyday for letting it go on so long. she's the strongest woman i have ever met and i have So much resepct for her.

 

[Renee750il]

my mother is NOT an alcoholic. when she gets stressed though she gets drunk more easily. she doesn't drink often. maybe 3 times a month. she's cool. its just occasionally that stuff screws up

Mrose . . . it might still help you understand how to deal with her better when she does drink if you tried going to Alateen. (((((HUGS))))) You're a special daughter to be able to come back and tell us how much you love and respect your mother, even after being so angry with her.

 

[Senna]

trust me you dont want to drop out,but if your mom is treating you like that you should move as soon as possible!!!

 

[mrose_s]

its ok. she doesnt traet me bad. we argue a lot but i don't know a single teenage girl that doesn;t do the same thing with their mum. some of my friends have it a lot worse. she used to get drunk about 4 or 5 times a week and she gave up drinking almost entirley. and quit smoking after doing it for 35 years.

things are better now.

 

[sisco16]

i was to

let me tell you that dropping out is never the awnser to anything my freshman year was horible i was extrelly derpessed and had thoughts of suicide but things do get better and go on im now a junior and still have no true friends that i could really talk to about personal stuff and i have switched schools sometimes its just not that im pushing anything here we all are different some know what im talking about. when i feel depressed now even if i dont have any real friends or teachers i feel i can talk to at least i know that i can go to the bible and take cofort insome of the stuff there sometimes life throws you a curve ball but dont strike out just keep batting at it i promise things will get better.

 

[mrose_s]

everyone promises that. i knwo things will get better and i am not dropping out because i am depressed. i really thihnk that at the moment it is the best option. my school is awful. the teachers dont care if you learn. they sit there and watch me do nothing every lesson and dont say anything. i wag most days and havn't got into torouble not once.

once there were only the year 11's left in the school. and i set some paper on fire and about 5 of us all sat around it about 20 metres from some teachers and they didn't even look up. the school isn't worht it and i feel like i am wasting my time ther. i can finish later at TAFE. i'm sick of the pressure that you cant fullfill your life unless you finsihs school. I know a lot of people that dropped out and lead happy lives. i cant keep wasting my time at school.

 

[smkie]

i know a lot of teens because i just raised two, and was stepmom of two as well. OF those that dropped out, they felt "less" then their peers. Their job search was much much more difficult. When they did earn their ged the stood straighter and felt better about themselves, but some of those were wrapped up with families of their own before they ever got the chance. It is hard enough to secure a good job with only a high school diploma, and that is considered more then the ged. Don't cripple yourself before you have even had a chance to get started. Make school your goal, your most important race to finish. Do it for YOURSELF! I couldn't stress this enough, no matter how bad your life is, don't lose sight of the fact that school is your ticket to a better one. One foot in front of the other, no matter what GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
IT can be done even when your homelife is insane.
Good for you for sticking up for mom..now stick up for yourself.

It doesn't matter about the teachers, or the classes or anything else, you will get out of it what you put in. Want a good education? teach yourself...make them teach you..read everything. JUST FINISH!

Maybe you can take the option my son did. He was able to transfer to a computer school where he received the same credit, but worked at the computer for three hours a day instead of the full 8 at the highschool. He recieved was able to graduate this year.