Giving up my dog. kind of long :(

[Dulce Pit Bull]

We are only thinking of the dog.

How is this dog going to feel when it's out of it's own again???
(I'm not saying you're going to throw it out on the street, of course)

From what I gather from your posts..you rescued this dog..great!!
But now you don't want it, and you want a bigger, better dog.

That's not fair to the dog.

But by no means, are we trying to come down on YOU. You came here looking for input, and we're giving it to you. Please try to understand.

Maybe I shouldn't speak for everyone else when I say this, but, I only want what's best for the dog. I've been in your situation many times. It's tough, but you'll get thru it.

Please try and re consider for the sake of the dog.

 

[Zoom]

You guys, re-read the OP.

I personally see your side of it. It's not like you went out and bought the dog and gushed over it and now suddenly you don't like it anymore because it doesn't match the furniture. It was a dog she took in out of the kindness of her heart so it would be a stray anymore and made sure that it's learned how to be a good dog for someone else.

Yeah, it would be nice if she could/would keep it, but oh well.

 

[krisykris]

I agree totally with what Misticaleclipse and Dulce said!! I'm normally sympathetic to situations which require re homing an animal because I know how traumatic and difficult it can be, but from what you stated in your post I see no legitimate reason to find this dog a new home.. you just want something else and to be rid of the responsibilities of this animal for your personal gain.

What happens when you get this "big dog" and it's too much for you, or you can't find a place to live with this NEW animal? Are you going to pawn it off on someone else?

I don't think that what you did was fostering, I think that you rescued her and placed her in your home to be a pet without the intention of giving her up. If you really wanted to foster you would have contacted the humane society in your area or posted her on petfinder or something of the like. But you didn't do that. You made her a part of your home and of your life.

I'm not trying to be harsh or chase you off, but you asked for our opinions and I'm giving you mine.

 

[Dulce Pit Bull]

The person said she/he wanted a BIGGER dog. That's it. Doesn't want this dog because it isn't "big" and is too "mellow" and wants to trade it in for another.

I'm not sympathizing, but I'm not being rude either.

I'm frustrated with how often I see this happen.

Yes, it was GREAT you took the dog in. But it's a COMMITMENT. You MADE that COMMITMENT when you took the dog in. You CHOSE to love, and care for that dog, and now you don't want to ebcause it's not "what you want".

I'm sorry, but I don't agree with that.

 

[Dulce Pit Bull]

PS..when you move out on your own, and when to get a "bigger" dog..I would reconsider.

I don't know if you read my story, but you should.

It's going to be very difficult, and expensive,and time consuming. I wouldn't want this to happen to another dog.

 

[MafiaPrincess]

I'd have no problem with it.. If it weren't mentioned that you want to potentially rehome this dog and get a different one. If it was a foster situation you would have been looking into rehoming from the beginning, not just now when it becomes potentially difficult.

If you 'can't' have this dog in your new home, why are you considering another one that is larger?

 

[showpug]

I just wanted to ad that giant dogs generally aren't active at all. You said that a dane is your dream dog, well watch out because they can be really lazy couch potatoes LOL! In the future, just make sure to do your research on the large dog you are dreaming about. I have a feeling you will have trouble finding a giant that is highly active, it's usually the opposite.

With the beagle, if you do give her up, just make sure it's the best of the best and that she finally gets a forever home...

 

[RD]

You guys, re-read the OP.

I personally see your side of it. It's not like you went out and bought the dog and gushed over it and now suddenly you don't like it anymore because it doesn't match the furniture. It was a dog she took in out of the kindness of her heart so it would be a stray anymore and made sure that it's learned how to be a good dog for someone else.

Yeah, it would be nice if she could/would keep it, but oh well.

I agree.

Honestly, if you have no connection with the dog and your parents can't keep her, I think it'd be in HER best interest as well to rehome her. Dogs are very perceptive and I think they can tell when someone doesn't like them. I wouldn't want to live with and rely on someone who doesn't care for me.

Would I ever get rid of my dogs because I had to move? No way. I'd live out of my car first. But that's me; I value my dogs a lot more than most people do. 99% of my friends would toss their dog in a shelter without a second thought, if they got the chance to move out. I think forest is doing right by this dog to at least go looking for advice before placing the dog in another home.

That being said, I hope you don't get rid of this dog and then run out and get another, larger one. Keep in mind what it would cost to FEED a great dane, alone. Dane puppies are like vaccuums and good quality kibble ain't cheap. Come to think of it, neither are the puppies! I'm sure you would be heartbroken to get a dog and then realize that you can't afford to feed him.

Do your research. I hope you can find a good home for your Beagle.

 

[ihartgonzo]

D: geez. Im sorry, my00forest, really I am.

there have been people who have actually dropped their dogs off at a shelter who were treated better than this. all of this is probably going to scare him away, I know I would be.

 

[Carolyn]

Ok firstly, I don't think the OP is going to scoot out the very next day and get a big dog. Sometime in the future he wants a big dog and thats his choice. Did he SAY he doesn't love the dog? Absolutely not.

The real world isn't always prince and princessess and happy endings. He did not ask for this dog neither did the parents. In saying that he has done the very best for this pup, and is now going to do his best in finding her a special home (if she doesn't stay with the parents/family that he mentioned)

To the OP yes some people can be harsh, often thats the way when someone believes in something very strongly, it's hard to see both sides. I'd rather see that if you have to, you rehome this dog to a special forever home, rather than keep her when you don't really want too, and in the end thats worse for both of you.

What a heart wrenching time for all concerned. And yes you're 21 years old, the world is at your feet, you have a life and future, and you are being honest in saying that this pooch does not fit in with that future. That takes a ton of courage Does it make you not love animals? Absolutely not!!!

I wish you the very best of luck in both Mattie's situation and in finding your own place and moving on with your life

 

[makka619]

^^Well said Carolyn.

 

[MyIrishWolfie]

I hope you find a good home for her

 

[Doberluv]

Yes, very good post Carolyn.

This is no different from fostering a dog and people do that all the time. It's an admirable thing the OP did, taking this dog off the street, preventing him from staying lost, hungry, alone, preventing him from being run over. He and his family took this dog in and cared for it. It doesn't matter what reason he has for not wanting to keep the dog. That's his business.

As long as the dog gets a good home, that's the important thing. Dogs are very adaptable to getting new homes. All they need and look for is someone to take care of them. They need a leader, a provider and they'll latch right on and bond with their new owner in a short time. The dog will be fine after the initial confusion.

If anyone objects to what the OP is doing, why aren't you objecting to everyone who takes in a dog as a foster? They choose to take the dog in. Some might have it in their minds to keep the dog themselves, some end up doing just that, some don't because maybe the dog doesn't fit into their life style. I suppose most take the dog in with the intention of finding it a new home. I don't really think the intention of the OP is relevant. It's enough that the dog was rescued, fed, given warm shelter and treated kindly and will now find a good home.

The number of people who foster is a small minority. The number of people who save a dog off the streets is not a huge number. How dare anyone critisize the OP for making this dog well and wanting to find another home for her? I just don't get it at all.

The OP or neighbor could have just as well left the dog on the street to fend for herself. Would that have been better?

When I was young I saved a couple of dogs off the street. The first was a tiny dog. I wanted to keep it but we had two dogs and my parents wouldn't let me. We found the dog a home. Is there something terrible about that? Should we have left it running loose? I think it was a Chihuahua or mix....tiny dog. That happened twice. Ironically, the next time this happened it was a Doberman mix. LOL. I wanted to keep that dog soooooo badly. I was about 12 years old... another no go.

 

[MyIrishWolfie]

It's an admirable thing the OP did, taking this dog off the street, preventing him from staying lost, hungry, alone, preventing him from being run over. He and his family took this dog in and cared for it. It doesn't matter what reason he has for not wanting to keep the dog. That's his business.

Thanks for saying that. I totally agree!! :hail:

 

[my00forest]

well looks like things are coming back around.
i agree with all of what you guys are saying. about how i should be keeping her ect. and if it don't find a place where she can be happy for the rest of her life then i will keep her and stay at home a little while longer.

my plans are not to get another dog as soon as this one is out of the door. i am talking about further down the road in another year or two.
i know the great dane is a lazy dog for the most part but i will more than likely end up getting a lab or something of that nature.
keep the controversy coming

 

[my00forest]

Ok firstly, I don't think the OP is going to scoot out the very next day and get a big dog. Sometime in the future he wants a big dog and thats his choice. Did he SAY he doesn't love the dog? Absolutely not.
The real world isn't always prince and princessess and happy endings. He did not ask for this dog neither did the parents. In saying that he has done the very best for this pup, and is now going to do his best in finding her a special home (if she doesn't stay with the parents/family that he mentioned)
To the OP yes some people can be harsh, often thats the way when someone believes in something very strongly, it's hard to see both sides. I'd rather see that if you have to, you rehome this dog to a special forever home, rather than keep her when you don't really want too, and in the end thats worse for both of you.
What a heart wrenching time for all concerned. And yes you're 21 years old, the world is at your feet, you have a life and future, and you are being honest in saying that this pooch does not fit in with that future. That takes a ton of courage Does it make you not love animals? Absolutely not!!!
I wish you the very best of luck in both Mattie's situation and in finding your own place and moving on with your life

that about sums it up to a T. thank you
yea we actually werent looking for another dog. just kind of fell into our laps

 

[Doberluv]

keep the controversy coming

ROFLOL!!! That was good.

Ok....so what else would you like to read? opcorn:

 

[jess2416]

Some of you need to start really reading what other people are saying and not just skim and make your own ASSumptions...

To the OP....
Good Luck with whatever you decide to do....

 

[my00forest]

Some of you need to start really reading what other people are saying and not just skim and make your own ASSumptions...

To the OP....
Good Luck with whatever you decide to do....

ha, thank you.
i feel like people have been reading the title and then going to town about how mean i am.
i'm glad others have been reading the thread through prior to reeming me out

ROFLOL!!! That was good.

Ok....so what else would you like to read? opcorn:

haha, just trying to keep it light

 

[Brattina88]

Some of you need to start really reading what other people are saying and not just skim and make your own ASSumptions...

To the OP....
Good Luck with whatever you decide to do....

:hail: perfect example of why I love your posts :lol-sign: