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How likely are you able to forgive and forget?
I'm a pretty easy going person. I don't like to hold grudges, though it takes time for me to get over things that were said/done and truly hurt me. But, if I get shaken to my core.. by something someone has done/said.. it's hard for me to bounce back and be all hunky dory with them.
Back in high school I was stalked and my life was threatened but an old, very troubled friend. He asked that we continue on a forgive and forget basis and I was just not able to. I was able to forgive him, he was surely troubled, but I would never forget the rage in his eyes, nor the attempts and threats- on my life.
Hmm. Also in first year of college my then boyfriend and I became talk of the town (small towns suck sometimes) and a nasty rumor went flying around. The rumor was so below me and my standards for my own life that it was silly for anyone to believe, but it hurt that someone would try to hurt me so badly. When I found out who it was- well. *takes a moment to compose herself* I was red with rage. It had been a close friend and her mother. Time healed the wounds and she's now my best friend. Funny how some things work out.
There have been other times and things that I've not forgotten or forgiven, and my heart is heavy with them, but I've not been able to work past them yet. I try to rise above though and remain decent and well-behaved.
You?
I'm a pretty easy going person. I don't like to hold grudges, though it takes time for me to get over things that were said/done and truly hurt me. But, if I get shaken to my core.. by something someone has done/said.. it's hard for me to bounce back and be all hunky dory with them.
Back in high school I was stalked and my life was threatened but an old, very troubled friend. He asked that we continue on a forgive and forget basis and I was just not able to. I was able to forgive him, he was surely troubled, but I would never forget the rage in his eyes, nor the attempts and threats- on my life.
Hmm. Also in first year of college my then boyfriend and I became talk of the town (small towns suck sometimes) and a nasty rumor went flying around. The rumor was so below me and my standards for my own life that it was silly for anyone to believe, but it hurt that someone would try to hurt me so badly. When I found out who it was- well. *takes a moment to compose herself* I was red with rage. It had been a close friend and her mother. Time healed the wounds and she's now my best friend. Funny how some things work out.
There have been other times and things that I've not forgotten or forgiven, and my heart is heavy with them, but I've not been able to work past them yet. I try to rise above though and remain decent and well-behaved.
You?