This was mentioned in the other family thread (by Cali ) and it made me want more opinions on the subject. I was going to do a poll, but I think there are far too many variables. I'll just ask here and you can adjust as needed in your post 1. Are you/were you the favorite child growing up? (only children don't count, you lucky ducks! LOL) 2. If you weren't the favorite, did you resent the favorite and/or resent the parent/s who made a difference? 3. If you weren't the favorite, how has the favorite turned out as an adult? 4. What are some difference made between the favorite and non favorite in the household? For me, I wasn't the favorite and at the same time I was relied upon heavily since I was the oldest of 5. My brother (surprisingly not the youngest child, he is the oldest boy actually) was the favorite, or at least coddled the most. I was given more responsibilities and he was given ZERO responsibilities. He was never held accountable for anything. Looking back, I am thankful. He turned out an irresponsible mess as you'd expect. Doesn't hold a job, doesn't take care of his bills, and most importantly, doesn't take care of his children/child support responsibilities Part of me blames him, he's an adult now, it's looong past time for him to grow up. Then there's the part of me that knows it's my parents fault as well.........they helped mold him into what he is My husband has one sister, OLDER SISTER, she was/is the favorite. Even now the difference made is staggering. She is in her 40's and mom/dad still pay for her existence, seriously raised her 5 children, currently paying for one of them to be in college, you name it, they do it. It's sad how crippled she is by them. Some day when they die, I really don't know what will become of her. But again, I look at that situation and am soooo thankful. My husband is the man he is because they doted on HER and not him. I couldn't have gone on a single date, never mind marry someone like that! Further proof that spoiling your children is NOT doing them any favors!