My brother is getting married on Saturday. I'm trying to decide what to get them. He and his bride are "expecting" us to buy them a $200 full size goose down comforter.
Why would they expect such a lavish gift, you ask? Because when we went on our honeymoon, my brother's fiance watched Maggie for us that week. I warned her that Maggie has separation anxiety and not to put anything near her crate or it might get destroyed. When we got back, we found out that her full size goose down comforter got destroyed by my own sweet little puppy. The story she gave me at first, because she swore up and down that the bed was about 4 feet away from the crate.. she said her roommate got tired of Maggie's barking and threw a blanket, the comforter, over the crate. (I was so appalled by this... she could have suffocated.. I was so pissed. Not to mention all the feathers. I'm sure she inhaled some, and I had to pick some out from her eyelids when I got her back.) I was told that she was going to try to get her roommate (who is a poor college student) to replace it and not to worry about it. Well, a week later, I get a phone call from my almost-sister-in-law who says.... it turns out, roommate did not put blanket over crate. Dog must have moved crate closer to bed. And so now we're supposed to replace it. I told them we might think about it towards the end of the year, as a wedding gift. I didn't say we WOULD I said we might.
On one hand, I don't want there to be any hard feelings between us. But on the other hand, their wedding is turning out to be extremely expensive for us - Justin is the best man (because I happened to marry my brother's best friend) and they picked the most expensive tuxes, almost $100 more than the tuxes we picked out for Justin's wedding. My dress for her wedding wasn't cheap either. They gave us about a $50 gift for our wedding.
I'm tempted just to give them a gift card for half, but I'm worried that it won't be good enough. What do you guys think? Am I obligated to buy them the whole thing?
Why would they expect such a lavish gift, you ask? Because when we went on our honeymoon, my brother's fiance watched Maggie for us that week. I warned her that Maggie has separation anxiety and not to put anything near her crate or it might get destroyed. When we got back, we found out that her full size goose down comforter got destroyed by my own sweet little puppy. The story she gave me at first, because she swore up and down that the bed was about 4 feet away from the crate.. she said her roommate got tired of Maggie's barking and threw a blanket, the comforter, over the crate. (I was so appalled by this... she could have suffocated.. I was so pissed. Not to mention all the feathers. I'm sure she inhaled some, and I had to pick some out from her eyelids when I got her back.) I was told that she was going to try to get her roommate (who is a poor college student) to replace it and not to worry about it. Well, a week later, I get a phone call from my almost-sister-in-law who says.... it turns out, roommate did not put blanket over crate. Dog must have moved crate closer to bed. And so now we're supposed to replace it. I told them we might think about it towards the end of the year, as a wedding gift. I didn't say we WOULD I said we might.
On one hand, I don't want there to be any hard feelings between us. But on the other hand, their wedding is turning out to be extremely expensive for us - Justin is the best man (because I happened to marry my brother's best friend) and they picked the most expensive tuxes, almost $100 more than the tuxes we picked out for Justin's wedding. My dress for her wedding wasn't cheap either. They gave us about a $50 gift for our wedding.
I'm tempted just to give them a gift card for half, but I'm worried that it won't be good enough. What do you guys think? Am I obligated to buy them the whole thing?