Did you have wedding frustrations?

[Dirk]

I thought about this because of my sister in law's recent wedding. My sister in law is in upper management of a large company. She invited the President of the company as well as some coworkers. They all came to the reception($100 a plate). After the reception, she and her new husband went through the gift envelopes and she didn't find any gift from the President and one of her coworkers. There was nothing from a few other people too. She feels hurt. It's possible that someone grabbed a handfull of envelopes out of the box at the reception. This all puts her in an awkward position.

As for my wedding, my mother was the biggest pain. My fiance and I were set on hiring a DJ(we're not rich by any means). My mother had a fit because we didn't hire a live band. We felt a DJ was perfectly fine. After some grief, my mother offered to pay the difference so we went ahead and hired a band. It really bugs me when someone sticks their nose deeply into your business.

I'll also will never forget my next door neighbor of 26 years who came through the reception line and pretended that he left his envelope on the kitchen table. He never delivered the envelope. What a jerk.

What frustrations did you go through?

 

[Jules]

Hmmm... actually, none

Oh lord, this will sound so cliché... well, my boyfriend proposed to me after he came back from Boot Camp in March. Actually, he proposed on his last day of leave before going to training again. I visited him the first weekend of June in California... we talked things through and decided to get married in July, when he would be coming home for leave again and before he would get stationed at his first duty station.

So I had about 6 weeks to plan a wedding... by myself. I worked full-time, went to school full-time and ran around like a crazy person to put this wedding together. I didn't want anything elaborate... we invited our closest friends... closest family (my family is in Germany, so nobody was able to come over because it was so short notice). I found a great tiny old church, a cute little restaurant for a reception, not $100 a plate, but veery personal and lovely... and an awesome B&B in the countryside where we rented the honeymoon suite for our whopping 2-day honeymoon.

To cut down on costs, I worked nights and weekends on making decorations by myself. Everyone there made the day so special. We had a photographer and an awesome get-away car. I just remember being happy as a honeybee... whereas my sister, who invited 300+ people to her wedding and spent about 30.000 Euros was stressing out the whole day.

Long story short: no, no wedding frustrations

 

[Saintgirl]

YES! YES! YES! I still shudder at the thought of the wedding stress that I went through! We got married on a Saturday, two days before our wedding we were told due to unfortunate circumstances that the person responsible for the cake could not bake it. The bridesmaid dresses came in the wrong color, but because they ordered them only 3 months before the wedding there wasn't enough time to return them and have the proper ones sent. The bustle in my dress was not completed (very long story)- thankfully my MIL manages to sew it in and then steam the dress the morning of the
wedding,the sound system for the actual ceremony was not working, and the icing on the cake was one of my husbands groomsmen did not show- we were married 5 months ago and we still have not heard from him (although we know that he is alive and well).

In the end it was a wonderful day, and things did go as smooth as possible! You would think that we left the entire wedding details until last minute, but we didn't. I know that I am a control freak, but because my plate was full with so many other details other family members and good friends insisted they take on some of the responsibility! Oh well, it gives my husband and I a good laugh now!!!

 

[eddieq]

We didn't have any major wedding frustrations. The planning was fairly easy. The only big one was that my wife's wedding dress was the wrong one. When it came in, it wasn't the dress she ordered and she told them right away. Turns out that the shop ordered the wrong one - no mix up on our end or at the dressmaker. The shop basically said, "well, no time to order another one, so this is your dress". They gave it to her for like half off, though and didn't charge her for the alterations.

Then on our wedding day, my wife fell down our basement stairs (she stepped on a tennis ball that she had tossed aside earlier). I was not at home and she managed to crawl up the steps and finish getting ready. She didn't tell me about it. A few days into our honeymoon (where we took several walking tours of the historic area) she complained that her ankle was bothering her. I asked her why and she told me the story. I switched us to bus tours for the remainder of the trip.

When we left for our honeymoon, my toiletrie bag was still at my best man's house. Not a major issue other than we had to stop at a walmart and buy all of that stuff again - including my wife's contact lense stuff. We also got lost heading for the hotel on our wedding night.

Ah, brings back memories. I recall the first thing I said to my wife after we were married. We had just been presented as Mr. and Mrs. Q and we recessed down the aisle to the sounds of the traditional recessional march. I leaned in to my new bride and said tenderly in her ear, "Walk faster honey, I really have to pee."

 

[bubbatd]

Good stories !!! My only bad stories are the young brides who have never taken time to write thank you notes !

 

[Aquavibe]

i'm not married yet woohoo and i'm not planning to do it soon either even though i'm with my gf for about 1 year. anyway... that's my dream... hiring a professional DJ at my wedding... i would do anything just to have Tiesto at my future wedding.

 

[Samantha's pet]

I hope not! I have ordered my dress and my cake and I am still making arangements. We have been engaged for 2 weeks and are getting married 4 weeks from saturday! Try finding a place that will have your dress ordered in 5 weeks. Not easy. My dress comes in the week before my wedding so there is great potential for havock! lol. My biggest fear is that the cake wont look like I hoped. I guess we will find out in 4 weeks.

 

[juliefurry]

Well we got engaged and then married 3 months later so everything was hard. I couldn't find a dress that I could afford, burst into tears, and finally we found one place that had the "perfect" dress and it was only like $200.

We forgot to get someone to film the wedding and reception, but we do have the pictures. Our DJ was a 13 year old kid who's voice was cracking the whole time and he said our name wrong when he introduced us for the first time!

My mom got so drunk and kept yelling at people to turn the heat up because it was freezing. I was sick with the flu and just sat in my chair like a lump the whole time I was so sick with a fever of over 100 and the whole works. I spent the whole night with the best man with him rubbing my back (which I'm sure looked really good to all the guests).

I didn't get to finish my first dance with just me and Mark because my stepson, who was two, threw a fit because he got in trouble for knocking the flower girl over and wanted to be with Mark so he pushed and kicked me for the whole second half of our first dance. And the person who was the last person in the world I wanted to catch my flowers caught my flowers.

Oh and we had to leave the hotel room after 2 hours because I couldn't stop throwing up and then cancelled our honeymoon and I didn't move from the couch for the whole week after the wedding.

 

[Samantha's pet]

Well we got engaged and then married 3 months later so everything was hard. I couldn't find a dress that I could afford, burst into tears, and finally we found one place that had the "perfect" dress and it was only like $200.

We forgot to get someone to film the wedding and reception, but we do have the pictures. Our DJ was a 13 year old kid who's voice was cracking the whole time and he said our name wrong when he introduced us for the first time!

My mom got so drunk and kept yelling at people to turn the heat up because it was freezing. I was sick with the flu and just sat in my chair like a lump the whole time I was so sick with a fever of over 100 and the whole works. I spent the whole night with the best man with him rubbing my back (which I'm sure looked really good to all the guests).

I didn't get to finish my first dance with just me and Mark because my stepson, who was two, threw a fit because he got in trouble for knocking the flower girl over and wanted to be with Mark so he pushed and kicked me for the whole second half of our first dance. And the person who was the last person in the world I wanted to catch my flowers caught my flowers.

Oh and we had to leave the hotel room after 2 hours because I couldn't stop throwing up and then cancelled our honeymoon and I didn't move from the couch for the whole week after the wedding.

Wow I am terribly sorry! that sucks. Who caught the flowers? One of his ex's? Cause that would **** me off.
Try getting married 6 weeks after getting engaged. But ew are having a small ceremony of 20 people at my mom's house so its not like i have a huge wedding to plan. I REFUSE to have all that stress.

 

[juliefurry]

Wow I am terribly sorry! that sucks. Who caught the flowers? One of his ex's? Cause that would **** me off.
Try getting married 6 weeks after getting engaged. But ew are having a small ceremony of 20 people at my mom's house so its not like i have a huge wedding to plan. I REFUSE to have all that stress.

No, Mark's ex wife didn't come. Her family came but we didn't invite her and she wouldn't have come anyways. Our wedding was pretty small too probably about the same 25-30 people were there. I sent out tons of invitations. Oh yeah and they spelled Mark's name wrong on the invitations too!

No the person who caught it was Mark's niece who if you ever met her would know she was the devil. She's just a horribly awful little girl spoiled rotten and rude. She has a mouth worse than two truckers combined and she's only like 10 years old. We lived with Mark's sister's and her family, which included the little girl who caught my flowers, and she put me in tears everyday because she was so mean to me. She may seem innocent but that's because you don't know her. If you knew her for a day than you'd understand.

 

[bubbatd]

sounds like alot of bling and no bang !