Dangerous Jobs

[youhavenoidea]

Ever dated someone with a dangerous job? How did you feel about it? Did you / do you worry a lot about them, or did it / does it not occupy a ton of thought process?

I'm currently dating a cop. His job is dangerous. He is an officer in the most high-crime division in metropolitan Toronto (which, granted, has a WAY low crime rate by comparison to some US cities, but still). He has also just joined the riot control unit and will be carrying a pager 24/7. If that thing goes off, it's bad news in a big way every time.

But I don't worry about him. Not because I don't care about him . . . I'm not really sure why actually. I guess I trust his instincts, skills and vest.

Am I weird or heartless or naïve for not getting anxious when he goes on shift? He loves what he does, and does it well. I like the passion he has for it, and actually get amped hearing about his hair-raising stories and watching how pumped he is about accomplishing something big and getting a scumbag out of the city.

 

[Saje]

Steve worked as an ironworker for awhile and that's a pretty dangerous job. I didn't like it but the money was good. Still I was happy when he moved on lol

 

[Romy]

Pm'd you also, but just remembered that my dad spent 28 years working in the criminally insane ward of a mental hospital and that was ranked 2nd most dangerous job in the state (1st was construction zone flagger).

You just have to remember that with those really dangerous jobs, they're taking every possible safety precaution...something that a less hazardous job might overlook. And you know the person doing the job is going to be extra vigilant, which also helps.

 

[mrose_s]

My mum has been a mental health nurse for a long long time. She's good at her job and does mostly community work these days instead of the inpatient stuff. Every room in her last office had an alarm on the wall that would contact police if you touched it. Honestly, I worried about her most when she went out on bush trips. There was absolutley no phone coverage some places and only satelite phone in other places. That always got me a bit worried.

My ex bf and I are still friends, he's currently training to be an electrician and he worries me. he's very smart but he's still a boy, not really going to put all his efforts into doing things safley.

 

[youhavenoidea]

My best friend is a nurse in a mental institution. Obviously I know from some of her stories what some of the patients are capable of, but it doesn't even occur to me to worry about her really. She knows what to do if stuff goes down. Plus, she has a mobile alarm around her neck. If something happens, she hits it, and a gaggle of sexy muscly male orderlies come and rescue her.

Not a bad friggen deal! I'd likely antagonize the crazies into attacking me on purpose so I could ogle. I keed, I keed.

Mostly. LOL

 

[LauraLeigh]

Ever dated someone with a dangerous job? How did you feel about it? Did you / do you worry a lot about them, or did it / does it not occupy a ton of thought process?

I'm currently dating a cop. His job is dangerous. He is an officer in the most high-crime division in metropolitan Toronto (which, granted, has a WAY low crime rate by comparison to some US cities, but still). He has also just joined the riot control unit and will be carrying a pager 24/7. If that thing goes off, it's bad news in a big way every time.

But I don't worry about him. Not because I don't care about him . . . I'm not really sure why actually. I guess I trust his instincts, skills and vest.

Am I weird or heartless or naïve for not getting anxious when he goes on shift? He loves what he does, and does it well. I like the passion he has for it, and actually get amped hearing about his hair-raising stories and watching how pumped he is about accomplishing something big and getting a scumbag out of the city.

I am good buds with a Mountie who I went to school with, his first wife, who knew his career when she met him, left from the stress of worrying all the time and trying to get him to quit.... He thought about quitting but felt he would be betraying himself, a Police Office was all he ever wanted to be and he worked hard to get there.

His second wife, of 10 years now with 2 sweet kids, is much like what you describe above, she loves him, but trusts him and knows it is what he was meant to do... She loves to hear him talk about his day. She said after the kids, there was the odd time that she'd think what if? But it was rare... and he says she's the perfect girl for him, never puts him on a guilt trip!

So I'd say you are the right personality for him... LOL

 

[corgipower]

But I don't worry about him. Not because I don't care about him . . . I'm not really sure why actually. I guess I trust his instincts, skills and vest.

That's the best way to see it, IMO. I dated a cop a few years ago. I wasn't worried for the same reasons. They're trained, they have equipment, they have each other. And if you worry every time they get called out, you'll be in a constant state of worry and in no position to have a good relationship with them.

This page will give you two links - one for the 10 most dangerous jobs, one for the 10 deadliest jobs. The list changes each year. This year, police are 10 on dangerous and I think they're 5 on deadliest. There have been previous years where they didn't make either list. Farm work however has almost always been on both lists, and often is higher than police. I spent 10 years doing farm work, so my perspective is relative to that.

America's Most Dangerous Jobs - Forbes.com

 

[Gempress]

My husband works in a somewhat dangerous field, and has gotten everything from stitches to severe burns. His current career plans will take him into something even more dangerous. But I don't really fret; I'm not the kind who worries about career dangers.

 

[Labyrinth]

I'd worry, but that's just me. I tend to worry about a lot of things

I'd be very proud though, being a cop (or military) is a very noble profession.

 

[MyHorseMyRules]

My ex-fiance is in the Army. He's a Cavalry Scout, so his job is pretty dangerous when he's deployed. I worried about him a bit, and I still do. But I know he's good at his job, and I trust him and the men that serve with him to be vigilant and come home safely. I also loved listening to his stories and hearing how passionate he was about serving his country. Not being in a constant state of worry doesn't mean you don't care. I think it will make both of your lives easier because Kyle always said it was easier for him to do his job because he knew I was okay. He said that having to worry about me would have been a distraction, which could have gotten him or someone else killed.

 

[darkchild16]

My guy is a volunteer Firefighter with all his degrees to go paid and is going for a criminal justice degree right now (hes not sure what he wants to go in as thought) and I dont worry for the same reasons you say. Now when it involves hurricans and a lil island thats one thing LOL. But on the job not in the least he LOVES it and its what he was born to do. His entire family is either paid or volunteer firefighter and he plans on doing that or being a cop.

 

[youhavenoidea]

That's the best way to see it, IMO. I dated a cop a few years ago. I wasn't worried for the same reasons. They're trained, they have equipment, they have each other. And if you worry every time they get called out, you'll be in a constant state of worry and in no position to have a good relationship with them.

This page will give you two links - one for the 10 most dangerous jobs, one for the 10 deadliest jobs. The list changes each year. This year, police are 10 on dangerous and I think they're 5 on deadliest. There have been previous years where they didn't make either list. Farm work however has almost always been on both lists, and often is higher than police. I spent 10 years doing farm work, so my perspective is relative to that.

America's Most Dangerous Jobs - Forbes.com

Very interesting! Thanks for the links.