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Yeah a lot of women who start out planning to birth at a center get turned away. If you have preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, seizure history, and previous births with complications, and I'm sure plenty of other issues, they'll turn you away.
 

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If you're high-risk, it's too much of a liability. No midwife would work with me, either.
Chiming in here... I was high risk and a team of midwives delivered my baby girl. This must be area-specific because I don't see how/why any midwife would turn someone away. The midwives were via the hospital. Their job is to help.

Many of you don't know me, but old timers will. :) Congrats to all the new mamas and mamas-to-be!
 

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Chiming in here... I was high risk and a team of midwives delivered my baby girl. This must be area-specific because I don't see how/why any midwife would turn someone away. The midwives were via the hospital. Their job is to help.

Many of you don't know me, but old timers will. :) Congrats to all the new mamas and mamas-to-be!
I remember you!! I know that in my area at least there is only ONE midwife that works through the hospital. All the rest are support doulas/midwifes or do home births. I tried to get in with the midwife but she was full up for April. :(
 

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I remember you!! I know that in my area at least there is only ONE midwife that works through the hospital. All the rest are support doulas/midwifes or do home births. I tried to get in with the midwife but she was full up for April. :(
:)

I guess that just shows how different areas are. I was actually surprised when my care was transferred to a midwife at about 32 weeks. I had seen my ob up until then. Then at the hospital I was introduced to the midwives on call. Midwives deliver all babies, even high risk, except in true emergencies. I think midwives are also becoming more popular. Which is great and will hopefully spread throughout the US. Midwives are a lot nicer/gentler than doctors. :p
 

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GUYS DON'T COMPLAIN. Ya'll look so cute and pregnant and this is me at 18 freakin' weeks along

 

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I would not have wanted a home birth...I like to support the fine work of the people who invented epidurals. But, I think everyone should have (or attempt) whatever birth is comfortable to them :)
This. The idea of a home birth makes me very uncomfortable. I would be more unsettled giving birth without help right there if there was an issue

My sil had an impromptu home birth with her second the 20th of last month. She went into labor and didn't realize it was progressing as quickly as it was. Her water broke while she was sitting on the toilet, then she realized the baby was crowning. After she stood up she only pushed once or twice and he was out and her husband caught him!
 
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I'm not doing a home birth but I think that sometimes, the interventions that doctors and OB's insist upon doing as "routine" often cause more trouble than they solve.

My birth plan is to have no birth plan and to go with the flow. Ideally I'd like to be able to give birth with as few medical interventions as possible and without pain medications or an epidural but my body has never been through anything like this and I'm not sure how I will respond.

But I won't ever judge anyone for the decisions they make during their journey :)
 

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I agree that many interventions cause more problems than they solve.

I'm also surprised the author of that article found a midwife team to do a VBAC at home!
 

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GUYS DON'T COMPLAIN. Ya'll look so cute and pregnant and this is me at 18 freakin' weeks along
Awww! Don't worry you still have plenty of time for a bump! Everyone's bodies are different and you've had a rough go of it - The baby is still pretty small at this point, just wait until he/she starts putting on the weight :)

One of my favorite blogs is having a series: "Stop Saying That" - I love it and figured some of you might enjoy it as well. Today's was on Homebirth: http://birthingbeautifulideas.com/?p=6110#
Nice! Thanks for sharing Erin!

This. The idea of a home birth makes me very uncomfortable. I would be more unsettled giving birth without help right there if there was an issue
I had that concern at first too when I was trying to decide between hospital and home - but (at least my midwife team) they went through a list of each possible complication and how they are either trained to handle it at home with the same equipment any doctor would use, or how they know well in advance that a hospital transfer is needed (well before it becomes an emergency).

Personally, I am a very private person and I know that in order to relax and let my body do the work, home is the best choice for me. Being in a hospital would put me on edge and increase my chances of needing interventions/drugs to help me along. I just know that is the way my body works. However I am prepared to transfer if necessary, since this is my first time and I do not know how I will handle it. My midwife assured me we can go to the hospital at any time if it becomes too much for me to handle.

My sil had an impromptu home birth with her second the 20th of last month. She went into labor and didn't realize it was progressing as quickly as it was. Her water broke while she was sitting on the toilet, then she realized the baby was crowning. After she stood up she only pushed once or twice and he was out and her husband caught him!
Wow that's quite the experience! It would be nice to know in advance exactly how long labor is going to take. If only! lol
 

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Isn't that funny? I'm having the same problem with my scale. ;)
The doctor's scale seems to be having a similar problem. WEIRD. :lol-sign:

I'm in total denial at this point.:rofl1:
You look adorable, don't worry! I think I'm just in shock over the difference between 20-25 weeks...I guess I was right about the second tri not messing around. :p

GUYS DON'T COMPLAIN. Ya'll look so cute and pregnant and this is me at 18 freakin' weeks along
You'll get there!! I still just looked chubby until about 19 weeks, I bet you'll "pop" soon. :)
 

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Wow that's quite the experience! It would be nice to know in advance exactly how long labor is going to take. If only! lol
That would be awesome! Then I wouldn't have to worry about who's going to take care of my dogs....lol.
 

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You look adorable, don't worry! I think I'm just in shock over the difference between 20-25 weeks...I guess I was right about the second tri not messing around. :p
lol thanks :) The problem is the difference between looking cute vs. feeling like a disabled penguin :p
 

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lol thanks :) The problem is the difference between looking cute vs. feeling like a disabled penguin :p
:rofl1::rofl1:

So Mu and I had our last weaves class last night, which involved running, which destroyed my hips/pelvis. And this morning Matt informed me (with much glee) that I'm walking like a penguin. I should've kicked him, but I hurt way too bad. Lol.
 

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I had that concern at first too when I was trying to decide between hospital and home - but (at least my midwife team) they went through a list of each possible complication and how they are either trained to handle it at home with the same equipment any doctor would use, or how they know well in advance that a hospital transfer is needed (well before it becomes an emergency).

Personally, I am a very private person and I know that in order to relax and let my body do the work, home is the best choice for me. Being in a hospital would put me on edge and increase my chances of needing interventions/drugs to help me along. I just know that is the way my body works. However I am prepared to transfer if necessary, since this is my first time and I do not know how I will handle it. My midwife assured me we can go to the hospital at any time if it becomes too much for me to handle.
You described my feelings about home birth precisely. I really don't want to labor/give birth in a hospital.

Not pregnant, just sayin' :rofl1:
 
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Couldn't resist a sale and just bought a dozen girly onesies and sleepers. I hope the ultrasound tech was right on her gender assessment! ;)
 

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:rofl1::rofl1:

So Mu and I had our last weaves class last night, which involved running, which destroyed my hips/pelvis. And this morning Matt informed me (with much glee) that I'm walking like a penguin. I should've kicked him, but I hurt way too bad. Lol.
I feel your pain! A belly band or support belt helps if you are going to be doing much of that in the future!
 

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