breeders and rescuers would you turn down this application?

[yoko]

one of my friend is getting out of an extremely emotionally/verbally/physically abusive relationship. she is completely out now has her own home. she's doing good still a little depressed but is really starting to come out now. she's hanging out with people *he use to not let her leave the house or have friends*

she has wanted a dog and finally gone a dog when she was with her ex. he beat her up and she ran and he wouldn't let her have the dog. she even went to court but he got the dog. me and a couple of friends said we would pay for pet deposit and an adoption fee to get her a dog. *she is capable of caring for the animal, it's just something nice we wanted to do*

well we found a breed rescue rescue and she went for the interview. when asked why she wanted a dog he exact response was. 'i got out of an abusive relationship and i live alone. before work, after work, and on my days off i'm lonely and i just want a friend to hang out with. there's a new dog park and a dog wash i want to go to with some friends. i haven't been allowed to have any pets but now i can'

anyway interview kept going and at the end they told her they couldn't adopt to her because she had allowed herself into a bad relationship and they didn't want her to have a dog because if she allowed herself in that position she couldn't be trusted with a dog.



is that really a reason to not adopt out? i find that horrible to say let alone act on.

 

[wcladymacbeth]

That is really horrible and unfair of them.

 

[~Tucker&Me~]

Umm... Wow. That is incredibly rude and insensitive, not to mention insensible.

 

[Lilavati]

Try a different rescue. Clearly these people are @sshats. She got out of that situation, that should be the point.

 

[Fran101]

I think thats a HORRIBLE reason to not adopt a dog to someone. If she wanted one of the puppies, she would probably be approved by me

Try another rescue if you can, Shelters are also a great place to get a dog.. and they dont really care who you are lol

 

[vanillasugar]

I echo the suggestion of finding another rescue STAT. That is incredibly rude and distasteful!

 

[CaliTerp07]

WOW.

I'd agree with going to a shelter. $25 and you walk out with a dog, no questions asked most of the time.

 

[smkie]

Try a different rescue and from one person that was in an abusive relationship to another....your out...you don't have to let it string after you and affect how people see you. IT's a new life. Stand tall..stand strong.

Have her review what she is going to say before she goes in and leave the past in the past.

 

[Dekka]

She had the strength to LEAVE the relationship! That to me would be more significant that getting into one in the first place.

Try a different rescue for sure!

 

[Shamus]

making the decision to leave that type of relationship is easy.........
it's actually following through with your decision that is the hardest. Actions speak louder than words, type theory. Congrat your friend on going through with it. Take her out for coffee and then to your local shelter, make a girls day out of it. Heck sounds like your friend deserves it.

 

[RedyreRottweilers]

Please extend my support to your friend. And I agree with trying a different avenue to get her a dog.

 

[puppydog]

Ooops! Tell Lilly that I have to give her back. I was in an abusive relationship and got her a few days after I left. She seems ok to me???

 

[yoko]

Ok that's what I thought.

We had been telling her to leave for a long time and this time was just the tipping point.

I might understand if they found out someone was still in a relationship like that. I would hate to see a dog killed or hurt because the guy freaked out.

I am trying to convince her to go to a shelter. But she wants a boxer and so far I haven't been able to find one in our area

 

[Maxy24]

What rescue was it? Was it the Red Dirt Boxer Rescue? (I'm looking on petfinder and wouldn't want to mention the rescue you already looked at)

That is ridiculous, I too understand if she was still in it but she left! Obviously she didn't know she was going to be abused when she got into a relationship with him, and she got out, so many don't do that, she should be seen as a strong and smart person for doing that.

 

[Lizmo]

WOW.

I'd agree with going to a shelter. $25 and you walk out with a dog, no questions asked most of the time.

^^^ Exactly that.

Why not just give it a try, just go look at the local shelter. You never know, they just might have that Boxer she's looking for.

 

[yoko]

No it they just called themselves claremore boxer recuse.

I actually just found them from a flyer when I took yoshi to a dog wash in that town

 

[yoko]

I am looking at shelters tomorrow . I drive through 3 towns to get to work and so I pass about 4 shelters on the way.

I tried to convince her to look at mixes. But she use to have a boxer and she's restudied up on them so she is pretty set on one

 

[Sweet72947]

She had the strength to LEAVE the relationship! That to me would be more significant that getting into one in the first place.

Try a different rescue for sure!

X2

Find another rescue/shelter.

 

[Upendi&Mina]

I don't think that's a good reason for them to deny her an adoption.

 

[Zoom]

WTF? That's a HORRIBLE reason to turn a person down...

Try somewhere else!