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Zillions of books on the subject but even though feminist studies consider gender a made up category you wonder if it's nature or nurture. When I've worked in preschools a playground of toddler girls and toddler boys...and the little boys are running like hamsters afire.
But of course there are exceptions, there were little girls who would swagger through ready to kick butt. There were little boys with their blankie and whole hand in their mouths. But these were 18-24 month olds. They weren't really old enough to have absorbed "expected" gender markers. Testosterone breeding zoomies naturally? I dunno
But of course there are exceptions, there were little girls who would swagger through ready to kick butt. There were little boys with their blankie and whole hand in their mouths. But these were 18-24 month olds. They weren't really old enough to have absorbed "expected" gender markers. Testosterone breeding zoomies naturally? I dunno
This. And they are different for a reason. It isn't bad to let boys be boys and girls be girls. I would refuse to let hannah play with "boy toys". Ahe has construction vehicles for her sand table and such but ahe dowsn't really use them. She would rather use her pink bowls and teacups to have a gritty tea party lol. Yeaterday she wore a dress to go hiking in the woods lol. I get not restricting play to gender specific toys but i am also going to buy things that interest her... Even if they are pink and stereotypical "girl toys". She is a girly girl after all
My sister was (is) the unequivocal tom boy. Since the day she was born, she would choose blue and trucks over pink and sparkles. It was only because she's my sister that she was willing to wear a dress as my bridesmaid. She wore pants to every other wedding she's ever been to.
That's just how she is. My mom probably could have forced the issue more, but she wanted to let my sister be who she really is, for better or for worse.
I'm grateful for it. It embarrassed the heck out of me in middle school/high school since I was the complete opposite girly girl (she's only a year below me, so we were constantly associated together), but I can't imagine a parent being so cruel as to force their child to dress/play/act like a stereotype.
That's just how she is. My mom probably could have forced the issue more, but she wanted to let my sister be who she really is, for better or for worse.
I'm grateful for it. It embarrassed the heck out of me in middle school/high school since I was the complete opposite girly girl (she's only a year below me, so we were constantly associated together), but I can't imagine a parent being so cruel as to force their child to dress/play/act like a stereotype.
yeah I say just let kids be kids. there seems to be this idea going around (not nessecarily here on chaz) that if your daughters favorite color is pink and she loves ruffles it's because you have somehow brainwashed them to be "girly" and if your boy likes blue and is into trucks and dirt then you've somehow pushed that on him and MADE him that way.
pick out toys and clothes they like whether they are pink, blue, dolls, trucks etc and just let them have fun with whatever it is they enjoy.
pick out toys and clothes they like whether they are pink, blue, dolls, trucks etc and just let them have fun with whatever it is they enjoy.
I read the first two pages.
BUT, I think if that is how you want to parent, then that is YOUR right as the parent of YOUR child. No one here has the right to judge you for not wanting to allow your child to play with Barbies.
Would I allow my child to play with Barbies? Yes. But I don't have the same ideals and you and that's just fine. People are allowed to parent two different ways...it doesn't hurt anyone.
That said, I do understand where you're coming from. I myself, just hope I don't obsess over the small things when I have kids. I mean, if I'm worried about my little girl playing with a Barbie, what's going to happen when she wants to where strappy tops, stay out late, or anything like that? I think stressing over little stuff will drive you insane, especially when there are bigger things to stress over, lol.
BUT, I think if that is how you want to parent, then that is YOUR right as the parent of YOUR child. No one here has the right to judge you for not wanting to allow your child to play with Barbies.
Would I allow my child to play with Barbies? Yes. But I don't have the same ideals and you and that's just fine. People are allowed to parent two different ways...it doesn't hurt anyone.
That said, I do understand where you're coming from. I myself, just hope I don't obsess over the small things when I have kids. I mean, if I'm worried about my little girl playing with a Barbie, what's going to happen when she wants to where strappy tops, stay out late, or anything like that? I think stressing over little stuff will drive you insane, especially when there are bigger things to stress over, lol.