**This post got a lot longer than I thought, if you don't like reading, you can just scroll down to the Questions part and answer those!
My S/O and I have some differing views when it comes to dogs. I never sought out super clingy dogs.
Some background info:
Chloe when she was my mother's dog was basically treated like a living teddy bear and was SUPER velcro dog to her.
When my mom was sick and did not spend any time with her, I don't remember her being as clingy, but rather seemed mopey/depressed. But I will be honest I wasn't paying attention much to her so that may be inaccurate as I was busy tending to my mother.
She was going to go with some people that actually liked her as a dog, but that fell through. So I took her as I wasn't going to let my mom's beloved dog go to the shelter or with a stranger.
I hated her at first, she seemed depressed and wouldn't eat when I first brought her to my apartment to live with me and Angel. Then she started turning the way she was with my mother, but with me. So Super clingy/velcro.
I hated it at first, but now this trait, and her, have grown on me. I really do care and love her. I still do not think she is anything like what I was wanting in a dog. I will admit I have thought about if I were to find the perfect home for her that really loved her and was experienced enough that I would trust that they would continue to work on her fear/reactiveness/etc. consistently, what I would do. But then I get sad and think I could never do that because she loves me so much and she is basically a living memory/part of my mother.
S/O view:
Anyway, my boyfriend HATES her and how clingy she is. He does not allow my dogs (mostly Chloe, because he actually likes Angel) on his bed. So when we visit on the weekends they have different rules. They are pretty good about following those rules (not jumping up on the bed or sleeping with us and instead sleeping on some pillows near the bed). But if we are up, she constantly, creepily, sits and stares at me or him while she is on the floor. Constantly.
He thinks I baby her too much and that she would be better/have less issues (such as guarding me from other dogs- not Angel, not being so clingy/needy, etc) if I didn't baby her so much.
I must admit I do baby her more now that I have come to accept her velcro-ness ways. I spend almost all my time with her now when I am home, whether she is laying next to me while I watch TV or if I were to go to a dog friendly place with her. I just allow her to be touching me/near me almost all the time when I am home.
Questions:
Do you think it would be beneficial for me to set up more boundaries? Do you think it would create a less velcro dog? Do you think it would decrease her guarding me/being snarky to other dogs that get near me or jump on me?
Part of me feels like it might be beneficial, part of me feels like it wouldn't change anything other than her just staring at me more since she can't be touching me.
My S/O and I have some differing views when it comes to dogs. I never sought out super clingy dogs.
Some background info:
Chloe when she was my mother's dog was basically treated like a living teddy bear and was SUPER velcro dog to her.
When my mom was sick and did not spend any time with her, I don't remember her being as clingy, but rather seemed mopey/depressed. But I will be honest I wasn't paying attention much to her so that may be inaccurate as I was busy tending to my mother.
She was going to go with some people that actually liked her as a dog, but that fell through. So I took her as I wasn't going to let my mom's beloved dog go to the shelter or with a stranger.
I hated her at first, she seemed depressed and wouldn't eat when I first brought her to my apartment to live with me and Angel. Then she started turning the way she was with my mother, but with me. So Super clingy/velcro.
I hated it at first, but now this trait, and her, have grown on me. I really do care and love her. I still do not think she is anything like what I was wanting in a dog. I will admit I have thought about if I were to find the perfect home for her that really loved her and was experienced enough that I would trust that they would continue to work on her fear/reactiveness/etc. consistently, what I would do. But then I get sad and think I could never do that because she loves me so much and she is basically a living memory/part of my mother.
S/O view:
Anyway, my boyfriend HATES her and how clingy she is. He does not allow my dogs (mostly Chloe, because he actually likes Angel) on his bed. So when we visit on the weekends they have different rules. They are pretty good about following those rules (not jumping up on the bed or sleeping with us and instead sleeping on some pillows near the bed). But if we are up, she constantly, creepily, sits and stares at me or him while she is on the floor. Constantly.
He thinks I baby her too much and that she would be better/have less issues (such as guarding me from other dogs- not Angel, not being so clingy/needy, etc) if I didn't baby her so much.
I must admit I do baby her more now that I have come to accept her velcro-ness ways. I spend almost all my time with her now when I am home, whether she is laying next to me while I watch TV or if I were to go to a dog friendly place with her. I just allow her to be touching me/near me almost all the time when I am home.
Questions:
Do you think it would be beneficial for me to set up more boundaries? Do you think it would create a less velcro dog? Do you think it would decrease her guarding me/being snarky to other dogs that get near me or jump on me?
Part of me feels like it might be beneficial, part of me feels like it wouldn't change anything other than her just staring at me more since she can't be touching me.