Alot Of Hate For My Body

[PixieSticksandTricks]

Gotta say first off at my last doctors appointment I weighed 125lbs if not less. You'd think I would be happy with that. You'd think I would be happy since last time I was there I weighed 138lbs. But im not I still have this pudge in my stomach and I just don't look "right". But when I lay flat I can feel my ribs and that makes me happy because I used to not be able to.

I also have to say no im not anorexic or anything else like that. I used to be in middle school-most of high school. I have always hated my body. It doesent help when you have a beautiful model yes she really was a model for a sister. And ever since I could remember having my sister refered to as the pretty sister . She's thin with out trying and has a flat as a board stomach. And she has had two kids.

Sorry just had to vent. Stupid body.

 

[nancy2394]

Pixie.... I know what you mean about hating your body. I've hated mine for years. I used to be the "pretty" sister with the big boobs It's hard for people to be happy with their body when they view it full of flaws. I know I have a body that would disgust most.

I decided one day not too long ago that I was so disgusted with my body as well and wanted to try and do something about it. I've been over weight for so long now that I forget what it feels like not to be. If you weigh 125lbs you sound like a good weight for your height and body structure from what pics I have seen of you.

If you have a little "pudge" then you can do something to take care of that. You are young and it's much easier for younger people to tone up and sculpt their bodies. Perhaps you could do some crunches everyday and other exercises to tone up your lower abdominal area. Goodluck!

 

[PixieSticksandTricks]

I know. People tell me all the time that im the perfect weight. I just don't see it that way . On the brighter side she may be the prettier sister but I have the bigger boobs LMAO. I think crunches are a good idea.

 

[Dizzy]

You're 19..... Hate to say it, but your body WILL keep changing as you get older....

You will never keep a 16 year olds body....

My sister is the same age as you, she used to be VERY athletic, now she is more into the pub and her mates - and yes, her body shape is nothing like it was a couple of years ago.

There's not a lot you can do about that, apart from stay fit and healthy - and even THEN it won't look like a teenagers in a couple of years...

 

[chanda]

magazines are evil... they make us feel envy of those gorgeous bodies while we sulk in one corner of our house thinking how it feels to have a body like them...sigh... anyway... i think there are still chance for us to change... at least to be happy with what we have... just focus on losing some weight and put all your will when you exercise or diet... having huge will and positive thinking will surely help us reach our goal...

hmmm there's still the easy way for some... being under the knife.. yikes... not my thing... ^_^

 

[SisMorphine]

I'm also a body loather. And what kills me is that when I look at pictures of me from 5 years ago when my body was PERFECT I think about how I was still a body loather then. It's ridiculous to think about.

Currently I'm working on losing weight, I'm working on the perfect body. You can't get it if you don't work on it.

One of my good friends is working out with me. She is super skinny but some things jiggle that she doesn't think should, so she's working on toning up and not losing weight. Maybe that's what you have to work on.

Also keep in mind: most women have a little bit of pooch on the lower part of the stomach. It is NOT fat. That is just the way that your body is naturally so don't stress about it just make sure you eat RIGHT and work on toning up.

 

[ACooper]

I'm also a body loather. And what kills me is that when I look at pictures of me from 5 years ago when my body was PERFECT I think about how I was still a body loather then. It's ridiculous to think about.

Tell me about it Sis! I have never been happy with my body.......I have always been a little on the chunky side. 9 years ago I didn't like my body either, and NOW I look back on it and say WHY? I was comfortable going out to shop for new things, comfortable with eating, WHY did I hate the way I looked?

So now my goal is slightly bigger than I was 9 years ago! LOL......I have a closet full of clothes that don't fit, they are two sizes too small. I am going to get there and be happy about ME if it kills me, LOL

Life is too short to waste time hating your body. Fix it or live with it........either way, don't hate yourself. I tell myself this EVERYDAY......and it does help a little

 

[Renee750il]

Practical advice? Pix . . . scrape together $20 and get one of those big exercise balls. It will increase the effectiveness of your crunches unbelievably.

Now, about that loathing . . . . I think the biggest factor in my getting my head wrapped around the concept that ME perfect is being PERFECTLY me - not what's airbrushed in a magazine - was realizing that what I wanted from my appearance was for my outside to match my inner self - and making that inner self bloom and bear fruit. It will always be a work in progress, but that's growth.

There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who is beautiful from the inside out, and you are well on your way, Pixie.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

hmm--I have never had, nor will ever have the perfect body. I learned that real early on in my life....and I have three sisters to compare myself to! I decided to love myself for me, and be the healthiest person I could be---and yes, being beautiful from the inside out is the best way to be!

 

[Dakotah]

If this makes you feel better. In 5th-6th grade I was 180lbs.
I'm 17 now and weigh about 150lbs.
I have thick legs (thanks mom) and a booty that would make J.Lo jealous (ok not that big but its wide, again thanks mom).
I got boobs (Thanks YOU Grandma!!! haha).
I have a pudgey tummy, but its cute pudgey (if that make sense).
I like my body! The ONLY flaw I would say I have is that I want to lose a few more pounds.
I have LEARNED to accpet my body and I know if I wanted to change something about it I can. It took me about 3 years to FINALLY accept my body.
I hope this helped in some way.
I personally think, from what you said, your weight is perfect for you.
Accept your body. No matter the size pants you were, how much or little you weigh, or how much people talk about you.

 

[anna84]

Echoing Dakotah, being happy with your body really is a state of mind thing. I've known girls who were a size 14 who loved what they looked like and then their are supermodels who think their hideous. For me exercise is the best not because it helps me stay thin but because you focus much more on what your body can do versus what it looks like.

 

[ChiliBeans]

I can relate, Pixie...when I was your age (not that long ago actually), I was totally and completely repulsed by my body. No matter what I did, I could always find something I didn't like about it. Now I am 25 and I have given up the fight because, as Dizzy said, you can't fight age and your body will continue to change as you get older. I have gotten wider in the hips, which is one of the things I tried so hard to keep from happening...however, I try to keep in mind that this is part of what being a woman is about. My new belief is that a woman's perfection is in her imperfections...meaning that curves - even pudgy bellies and thighs - are beautiful and feminine and serve a wonderful biological purpose for women.

 

[sparks19]

Echoing Dakotah, being happy with your body really is a state of mind thing. I've known girls who were a size 14 who loved what they looked like and then their are supermodels who think their hideous. For me exercise is the best not because it helps me stay thin but because you focus much more on what your body can do versus what it looks like.

yeah I know what you mean... I am a size 18. i am no where NEAR "perfect" (whatever that is) but I am happy with myself. I have always been on the larger side of life but that never hindered my dating life or anything else because I had the mindset that I was fine the way I was .... my way of thinking is "if you are going to judge me for the way I look then I don't have any need for someone like you anyway"

A dear friend of mine who is now in her 50's and has always struggled with low self esteem and a poor body image says that that is what makes me so "loveable" lol. She said one day "that's what I love about you... you are confident no matter what you look like." to which I jokingly responded with "What are you trying to say? I look terrible?" LOL but I was just kidding around.

but that is the thing... girls think that they need the perfect butt, the perfect boobs, the perfect stomach, ther perfect everything... but if you don't have any confidence you will still be unappealing to the opposite sex... I don't mean that to sound harsh but it is true. There is nothing sexier than confidence. If you are confident then you are the sexiest woman around... I don't think people realize that. A lot of people really don't realize what confidence does for you. You walk taller, you look better, you FEEL better and everyone around you thinks..."wow".

Of course, confidence doesn't come over night. it's not always an easy thing to obtain. but when you do... it will change your life... and it will change lives around you too.

I hope that one day you are able to find that confidence in yourself. When you do you will wonder how you didn't see it before.

 

[anna84]

Confidence is practically a requirement to be sexy. You really do carry yourself differently. As one of my guy friends put so perfectly if your beautiful but one of the "only in the dark" squad wheres the fun in that ; )

 

[PixieSticksandTricks]

It is hard to find confidence over night. I know I should put it all aside. But years of being called the ugly sister, fat sister, or plain has effected me. I know I don't look horrible but I think im far from thin and beautiful. Weird reasoning I know. Thanks everyone for the advice and everything. I don't know maybe someday i'll get over this.

 

[Renee750il]

Confidence is a journey, Pix, not a destination.

I've spent YEARS hearing my mother compare me unfavorably to my friends, my sister, etc. Really bad when I'd look at my sister and wonder "THAT is prettier than me????" It can give you a very warped point of view concerning yourself.

It's overworked and has reached the cliche stage, but it is true - there is only one You on the planet at any given time (well, unless there are several of you inside your head, but that's a different subject ), and the sum of your parts adds up to something greater than the whole.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

I echo everyone who said that being happy with your body is a state of mind. I'm not pretty by any means/standards & my body is far from perfect - but that doesn't really concern me. What's important is every parts are still functioning properly

Because of that, and the realization that I'm God's daughter whose body He has formed "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you" Jr 1:5, and chosen to be His temple. "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore, glorify God in your body." 1 Cor 6:19-20. I thank God everyday for what a special gift I have that is my body - no matter how imperfect it is according to man's standards.

 

[SisMorphine]

Can't believe I'm posting this, but this was me at 145 pounds:

(in the middle)

I thought I was the fattest, most disgusting person alive.



Last year I weighed 90 pounds MORE than what I weighed in those pictures. I look at those and think "Wow, and to believe I thought I was disgusting."

Body image problems can kill you, whether it be through not eating enough or through eating too much. Don't fall into one of those camps. Get the help while you can. Realize your love for your body while you still have a body to love. It's not worth it to have body loathing, trust me.

 

[milos_mommy]

I'm lucky i've never had to deal with serious "body hate". I know so many girls do, it's such a ridiculous epidemic almost in this nation. I wonder if it's due to the media or just the way people are.

 

[zoran]

Have to agree with you milo...some kind of looney bin phase everyone seems to go through. Glad no one in our family was ever obssessed by stuff like this.