Agghhh $%#@ off!

[keyodie]

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So there's this kid at school who likes me and he's a creeper. He's really really awkward and we barely talk but he still insists on giving me gifts. For Christmas he gave me lotion, body wash, bath sponge, pink fuzzy socks, and lip gloss. WTF. It wouldn't have been so annoying if he didn't ask me the day after how the present was in class in front of his friend, otherwise I would've told him how stupid and thoughtless it was and how much he was making me uncomfortable.

Like today, I was at my locker and he said "Hey Melissa" and I say hey and he said something else but I didn't hear him... I walk down the hall and he's standing there with his friend and I just walk right past him. Apparently he was walking right behind me because when another guy asked me how my birthday was, I answered, and I walked away, he comes out of nowhere and asks "When was your birthday?" Me: "Oh, a couple days ago." Him: "Oh, sorry. I didn't know." I mean comeon, I barely talk to this guy. I only talked to him in the beginning because I felt sorry for him since he looked so awkward/uncomfortable and he just switched to public high school from being homeschooled. Anyway, after I told him I really didn't care, he just kinda walked beside me without saying anything and eventually slowed down and started walking behind me... And then he went somewhere. I dunno. It was AWKWARD.

I've turned around and him be right behind me one other time, and this other time he asked me if a guy I walk to math with was my boyfriend. And he asked me out to a dance. Twice. I tried the whole 'Can we be friends' thing after he asked but I don't think it's worked.... He even tried to deny it when I asked him. He was like "Oh, no, sorry if I made you uncomfortable. I would like to get to know you, though." And once, he moved up next to my desk and tried to say it was because he "sits in the back of all of his other classes, so why not?" I didn't even ask, he just felt the need to explain himself. *headdesk*

And sometimes in class, though he doesn't do this much anymore, he just like... STARES at me. O_O And when I was absent one day he walked up to one of my friends who he doesn't even know and asked her if I was there that day... And a lot of times at lunch he just sits by himself and looks at my table.

He just creeps me out a little and annoys me to no end. I should probably tell him. But I don't have the guts... I already tried telling him I'm not interested, it's not like he totally forgot or something.

I'm probably overreacting. But it's really really annoying. Ugh

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[Dizzy]

Awwwwwwwwwwwww bless him......!! It's hard having unrequited love

 

[HoundedByHounds]

He is brave! Most boys with crushes are never brave enough to approach em. I think if you're uncomfortable tho...hmm what to do. One hates to be rude or make people angry...is there a guidance counseler you might speak with? They might have some tips on dealing with it...then at least it's out in the open so to speak as far as the school's concerned.

 

[Renee750il]

Poor guy - has no idea how to interact out there, does he?

And POOR YOU! That is one of the most unbelievably awkward and uncomfortable situations EVER :wall:

I think the guidance counselor is a good idea. You never really know what's going on in some people's heads.

 

[noodlerubyallie]

Sounds harsh, and I'll probably get reamed for this one, but:

Ignore him. Don't talk to him. Don't feel as if you have to communicate with someone to be polite. If he is creepy, and you want him to go away, ignore him. If that doesn't work, you need to say:

"(Insert name here) I do not want to get to know you better. I would appreciate it if you would stop (walking behind me, staring at me, saying hello.) I have no interest in you as a friend or anything more." Then walk away.

It's hard to say "no" to people, and be blatantly honest with how you feel sometimes. Believe me, I understand. But if you keep giving him openings, he will continue to talk to you and think there is a "chance."

If he continues, talk to a teacher or counselor, tell your parents. They may be able to help you out.

 

[keyodie]

Yeah I feel a little bad for him too. But UGG. I can't help but feel seriously annoyed. He even feels the need to stand up for me. I was the last person to finish the english exam and my teacher was like "some of you are taking WAY too long on this test." and he goes "well at least some of us were more thorough than others". Dude I can stand up for myself if I want to, alright? :wall:

Bleh I don't wanna talk to a counselor. I hate my counselors. Our counselors suck.

Yeah, I think I'll start ignoring him some more... even though I have to an extent already. It's just that in english, his friend (who is actually pretty cool) sits next to him sometimes and I wouldn't want to ignore him in front of his friend or something. I dunno. I'll just ignore him elsewhere.

What really irks me about the present though is he gave me, like... stereotypically girl presents. Like "oh she's a girl she'll like this for sure, every girl does".

 

[bubbatd]

Key .... been there ! There was a real nerd whose parents were friends of my parents . He went off to college ( nearby ) and invited me to his first Freshman Dance . YUK !!! I sucked it up and went ( even his Mom called and begged me ! ).... enjoyed the party and I think I may have helped him fit in better . Not even a kiss and he didn't know how to dance . I liked to help out the awkward ones without any commitments.

 

[milos_mommy]

I've had my fair share of weird in high school...

Like the kid who sat in front of me in math in 9th grade. One day he turned around and told me my socks were sexy. I was like "...thanks?"
The next day we got a test back. He turned around and asked how I did, I told him. He then asked if I was keeping the paper and I said no, so he picked it up, took a huge bite out of it, and ate it.

Then there was this guy...he was very involved in GSA and was opening planning on having a sex change.

Now, I know quite a few guys who have gone through/plan on going through a sex change. Some are a little weird, some are completely normal. This one was whacko off the charts, though. I felt bad for him..I guess he had friends but all he ever did was kind of stand in the middle of them while they socialized around him. I don't know what went on in his home life...but I got the impression he very, very, very rarely spoke. Like when he did speak, his voice had this horrible hoarse sound like someone who hadn't spoken once in weeks.

he was behind me in math and in his creepy hoarse whisper teeny tiny voice goes "..alex?". I turned around and smiled at him. He was watching something on his laptop (before class started).
he said (creepy hoarse someone who hasn't seen sunlight in ages voice) "do you know the time warp?"
I was TOTALLY confused for a second, then realized *transsexual* *time warp* *he must be talking about the rocky horror picture show*
I said "you mean from the rocky horror picture show?"
He said "yes" and just kind of slowly, awkwardly turned the computer around so i could see it.
He goes "do you like it?"
I was like "yes."
He was like "it's my favorite movie."
*class starts*

The next day I'm sitting there and he pokes me. I turn around and he's just awkwardly holding out something in his hand. I take it, and it's a starburst.

He said: "i brought you a starburst!"
I was like "awww, thanks...." *Wtfwtfwtf*

 

[bubbatd]

Just remember to be kind . Rejection can really throw folks with a problem off the wall .

 

[MyHorseMyRules]

Poor guy. That's a tough situation for both of you. It's really up to you to draw the line, though. It could be he's simply socially awkward and trying to get your attention because he's not sure how to act around someone he likes. However, if he's making you uncomfortable and being polite doesn't work, be blunt. Tell him you're not interested in even being his friend and no longer wish to speak with him at all. I also second the counselor idea. For one thing, someone at the school should be made aware of the situation just in case. Also, he/she may be able to offer you some valuable advice.

I know how you feel. I had a semi-stalker in high school. When I finally put a stop to it, he had just gotten to the point of following me around in his truck instead of just at school. It's a tough situation.

 

[keyodie]

bubbatd - The weird thing is though that he has friends and he's not a nerd, he's just apparently really awkward around girls. o_o And wooow I can't believe his mom actually asked you.

milosmommy - OMG the starburst thing.... creeeepy.

myhorsemyrules - Oh wow, yeah, hopefully it doesn't end up as that... And I really want to handle this on my own before telling a counselor. Partly because our counselors are bad and everyone knows it. >_<